Am I doing the right thing?

*max*

Bloody H....You're either desperate (sorry but...) or unbelievably forgiving to the point of masochism! I'd have ended it after about 5% of what you said she did/said/shouted. It's a proper !!!!!! thread...

This girl has very real mental health problems from what you've written (serious bipolar comes to mind) and you're only going to get hurt more, and more. Get out!

PintAndAPie

BSC. Walk, no, run away.

coolcait

1) The girlfriend sounds like a seriously disturbed young woman

2) It doesn't sound like a 'relationship' in any meaningful sense of the word

3) The OP would be far better off out of it. But, if he has managed to write that entire lengthy opening post without realising that, a few responses on the internet won't do it.

4) Why don't people speak to each other anymore - as in hearing each other's voices? Texts, emails, facebook. It's like Sheldon trying to get hold of Amy!

Netwizard

Tropez wrote: »

I really hope you don't own a bunny rabbit.

Honestly, I'd have canned her ages ago. She needs therapy. The behaviour she is displaying is symptomatic of several serious mental health disorders, which may well have been triggered (or rather, brought to the surface) by the death of her grandmother, but she isn't going to get better while she rants and raves at you.

Do yourself, and her, a favour and end it. If you're lucky, she might seek help for her issues once she realises how she is alienating those close to her.

Couldn't have put it better myself, so just this!

zzzLazyDaisy

On the other hand, on his own admission, OP does have a history of attracting 'nutters'....

"11-12-2012, 6:34 PM #8
OptimusNemesis
MoneySaving Convert


I felt exactly like you - I got out of a 7 year relationship with someone who treated me pretty badly (not violent though). Everyone I met after that seemed to be up to something or a nutter of some description. It meant that I had a bit of a hard time appreciating when I'd met someone genuine. I kept questioning it but fortunately things seem to be working out - I've met a truly lovely person who I've just spent the weekend with and been spoilt by! :-)"

I presume the 'lovely person' is the 'nutter' who we are now talking about?

OP you might want to be a bit more alert to this sort of behaviour and get out sooner in future!

tayforth

I can only echo what everyone else has said. Get out now. Just be thankful that she's so far away, she has serious problems by the sounds of it. Don't be tempted to try to 'fix' her either.

Blimey, I've never seen such unanimous replies to a thread...

lostinrates

Does anyone else remember the beginning of this relationship, I do a bit, Optimus, I remember you being a pleasant guy, but I also seem to recall things got 'emotionally tence' quickly, with her moving and stuff. I remember a few people saying to calm down and see what happened. There was a lot of tension, both of you were a bit emotional, then the stress of her move and some drama etc etc.

I do agree, she sounds unstable, but I don't think, honestly, you have been that measured either in the snippets we have seen. I am not saying that to nitpick, but because you seem nice, it would be nice to see something work for you.


Good luck

Birdie85

She sounds like a total basket case. Why you'd carry on contacting her and being so nice about it all after the first round of abusive texts and e-mails is beyond me, and the nasty letter just screams 'nutjob' to me! :mad:

Tell her it's over; block her on FB, change your number (or block her number if you don't want to change it) and block her e-mails. You don't deserve to be in a 'relationship' like this. You're a nice guy, you don't have to settle for someone who'll just chip away at your self confidence as she will do if you stay with her much longer. You can only shake off nasty comments for so long before believing that they may be true.

Good luck to you and I hope that your next relationship is with someone a lot less high maintenance!

Orlando_Virgin

Mate she is absolutely off her box, you have put up with FAR, FAR more than I would ever have.

You sound like a really reasonable, intelligent guy. I think you have been more than understanding.

Orlando_Virgin

coolcait wrote: »

1) 4) Why don't people speak to each other anymore - as in hearing each other's voices? Texts, emails, facebook. It's like Sheldon trying to get hold of Amy!

I think he should forget it all and take her back straight away.


BAZINGA!