Am I doing the right thing?

itsanne

I don't want to be harsh, but why are you even considering continuing with this?

A relationship involves caring about and supporting each other - that's not happening here. Imagine the future if you persevere. It doesn't bear thinking about.

It seems that your "girlfriend" has serious mental health issues which need help. Maybe you could write a brief note to her brother so she can have some help from her family.

Move on and find someone with whom you can be happy.

balletshoes

this is a whole can or worms you really don't want any part of, it doesn't even sound like its anything to do with you.

Tell her its over and get on with your life.

peachyprice

Just be thankful she's a plane ride away.

It's time to sever ties with her, she obviously has serious mental health issues, for your own sanity get out now. Delete her on FB, change your phone number and email address, time to move on before she drags you down.

Tropez

I really hope you don't own a bunny rabbit.

Honestly, I'd have canned her ages ago. She needs therapy. The behaviour she is displaying is symptomatic of several serious mental health disorders, which may well have been triggered (or rather, brought to the surface) by the death of her grandmother, but she isn't going to get better while she rants and raves at you.

Do yourself, and her, a favour and end it. If you're lucky, she might seek help for her issues once she realises how she is alienating those close to her.

MrsAnnie

This sounds like the beginning of a very abusive relationship. You have to deserve more than what this woman has to offer.

Get out now before she drags you further under. NO ONE deserves to be treated like she is treating you .

butterflylady131

Blimey!!! I'm exhausted reading through all that, so Lord only knows how you must feel, being in the thick of it!

Sorry, but I agree with all the other posts OP, love should not be that complicated!:D

JoW123

OP is this the same woman who moved away not long after you started seeing each other and behaved very similarly to this towards you at the time??

If so she is never, ever going to change and you need to finish this relationship now! And be prepared for the sobbing and promises to change etc etc when you do end it. This is seriously not normal behaviour.....

justme111

How someone with an intelligent nickname manages to write so long a post and still not see what to do. . He must be getting from it a sense of closeness , feeling he belongs to an entity which a couple is , plus she is likely good looking and charming sometimes , right ?

paulineb_2

justme111 wrote: »

How someone with an intelligent nickname manages to write so long a post and still not see what to do. . He must be getting from it a sense of closeness , feeling he belongs to an entity which a couple is , plus she is likely good looking and charming sometimes , right ?

Intelligent people can end up in abusive relationships. They are complex and thats often why people find it very hard to get out.

Honestly, is there really any need for having a dig at everyone who doesnt have exactly the same opinions as you?

Scrapaholic

I read all through your post and I'd say it sounds as if this girl has mental health issues . No idea how old you are or how many relationships you've had , but if one of your friends told you about a relationship like this , I bet you'd tell him to finish it . I think you know it's not right or you wouldn't be on here . End it with her for your own sake and find someone you can be happy with.