Am I doing the right thing?

Joons

Sorry but I had to give up reading towards the end, she's seriously suffering mental health issues and I don't quite understand why you are giving her so many chances, all she is doing is projecting her madness onto you and you really should value yourself a bit better, I don't quite understand why you even want to have a relationship with this person, she clearly is not capable. Look for someone who will actually make you feel good, not bad, about yourself.

MEM62

She's a fruitcake. Walk away and be grateful that you have had a lucky escape .

Mojisola

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

On the other hand, on his own admission, OP does have a history of attracting 'nutters'....

"11-12-2012, 6:34 PM #8
OptimusNemesis
MoneySaving Convert

I felt exactly like you - I got out of a 7 year relationship with someone who treated me pretty badly (not violent though). Everyone I met after that seemed to be up to something or a nutter of some description. It meant that I had a bit of a hard time appreciating when I'd met someone genuine. I kept questioning it but fortunately things seem to be working out - I've met a truly lovely person who I've just spent the weekend with and been spoilt by! :-)"

I presume the 'lovely person' is the 'nutter' who we are now talking about?

OP you might want to be a bit more alert to this sort of behaviour and get out sooner in future!

OptimusNemesis - if you do seem to be attracted to the wrong sort of person, think about having some counselling before getting into another relationship.

Some people are able to walk away from an abusive relationship and never repeat the experience but others find it useful to get some help.

Others spend their lives going from one bad relationship to another. Don't let that happen to you!

Wicked_witch

Get rid. My guess is that she wants you to dump her anyway, so that she doesn't have to end things. But be aware that she may well change her mind once you do end it and start being lovely again (or else threatening suicide). Ignore whatever she does completely. And stay out of relationships for a while until you learn to like yourself enough to realise you deserve a decent woman who will treat you with love and respect.

Raksha

*max* wrote: »

Bloody H....You're either desperate (sorry but...) or unbelievably forgiving to the point of masochism! I'd have ended it after about 5% of what you said she did/said/shouted. It's a proper !!!!!! thread...

This girl has very real mental health problems from what you've written (serious bipolar comes to mind) and you're only going to get hurt more, and more. Get out!

Not Bipolar, but Borderline Personality Disorder...I suffer with it, although ranting isn't part of my symptoms.
It IS possible to have a long term relationship with somebody with Bi, or Borderline, so long as you understand the illness and that the behaviour isn't conscious from your gf. The loss of her grandmother may have triggered some strong emotions of loss, and testing loved ones like this is part of what we do.
If my OH needs some space, so long as he tells me, were fine. Perhaps if you tell her before you stop answering her messages that you're not ignoring her, you're just not enabling her, it will help.

Wicked_witch

I agree that you can have a long term relationship with someone who has a mental illness- I'm a wife and mother with clinical depression.

BUT it can only work if you both know about and accept the illness and the sufferer is punctilious about keeping up with treatment, whether medication, therapy or both, and open to changing treatments if something ceases to work. Doesn't sound like either is the case here.

System

The woman is barking mad.... Off her trolley or however you want to put it.

Seriously she is a head case.

gwen80

Optimus, I have no idea if your girlfriend has mental health issues or not. My opinion of what you have written is that it is an unhealthy relationship, which is making you feel bad a significant amount of the time. The state of the relationship and the distance (which will make problems more difficult to sort out) would mean that I'd be looking to walk away.

Good luck!

Gwenx

Bazey

How hot is this chick? She must be Mila Kunis hot.

Manchee

Run away dude! Run fast, run far.

She has no repect for you at all. If it was a female who had written what you had written, how would you feel about how her boyfriend was treating her? Break all contact.