Am I doing the right thing?

krlyr

6 months into a relationship, you should still be in that head-over-heels, loved-up stage - not having nasty emails sent to you, doubting whether she wants to see you, etc.
I echo all the other replies.

Valli

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

I want to do the right thing and I don't want to hurt her by saying that we should perhaps call it a day. It feels like I may be kicking her while she's down if she's depressed and then I tell her that I think we should break up but I must admit that all the hateful messages I've been getting have made me feel pretty down.

Sorry this is a long post - its a bit hard to condense it down. I just wonder what people would do in my situation? I haven't messaged her for the two weeks as I've been hoping she will sort herself out.

- G

You're well off out of it.
Hopefully she's taken the hint, if you haven't messaged her for two weeks;) There's no 'perhaps' about it. Call it a day.
(And, maybe next time, use the phone to talk to each other?)

justme111

Excuse me ?
Where did you see a dig at anyone and what did you mean by different opinion to mine ?

Mojisola

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

The letter she sent me was awful. It was basically 7 pages of swearing and ranting at me. I must have been called just about every name imaginable. The bizarre thing was that she had decorated the envelope like it was a love letter.

There's nothing in your first post that should make you want to stay with this young woman - but a 7 page letter! It's easy to see how someone could scrawl a note they later regret writing but think of the time it takes to write seven pages - and to then put it in an envelope decorated like a love letter?:eek:

Cut all the ties quickly and be grateful that she doesn't live near enough to you to become a stalker!

justme111

paulineb wrote: »

Intelligent people can end up in abusive relationships. They are complex and thats often why people find it very hard to get out.

It's either you are too serious this evening or I come across as far more stupid than I am so that you feel the need of explaining to me intelligent people can end up in abusive relationships and those are complex . It was a joke. That's why I put a smile in that post , its like laughing audience.

Valli

justme111 wrote: »

Excuse me ?
Where did you see a dig at anyone and what did you mean by different opinion to mine ?

To whom are you replying with this post?

kitschkitty

Sad to say I read the whole OP too and can't find one redeeming feature in the "girlfriends" behaviour on which to say stick with it.

Sadly she is being abusive (over & over) and you do need to end any contact with her, it's not healthy for you, and if she does have a mental health issue I don't think you can help her with it.

Amanda65

Optimus I remember your posts when this relationship started -there was lots of 'she said this, I said that' right from the beginning and she has always treated you with disrespect and indifference.

I think that you should now seriously consider calling time on this relationship as the saying 'flogging a dead horse' springs to mind. From what you've said both here and in the past your GF has some serious issues that she needs to sort out and I think you should let her do this without taking all this flak constantly.

marisco_2

paulineb wrote: »

Intelligent people can end up in abusive relationships. They are complex and thats often why people find it very hard to get out.

I agree with this.

OP you are clearly involved with someone who suffers from severe depression. A number of your girlfriends behaviours that you have disclosed to us, strongly suggest she has serious mental health issues too. People like that are capable of slowly destroying the lives of those closest to them.

Her problems are far to big for you to try and solve. She has to accept that she needs help and to seek it out for herself. For your own sake dont carry on being her whipping boy. Get out of this toxic relationship fast.

summerof0763

well my opinon is this, if you love her then tell her you will only continue the relationship if she goes to the doctor for help with her mental state.
if you don't feel too bothered then end it, but I would tell her to go to docs and get help before entering into another relationship.
best of luck on what you decide x