children in communal changing rooms

coinxoperated

I went for a Spa day a few weeks back (a couple of weeks before the easter holidays)

Me and my friend went into the changing rooms to be bombarded with about 7 children, all male, all under 10, running around while their poor mother tried to squeeze on a bra. Not only was it totally inappropriate to have that many children not being watched in a changing area, but some of the boys were obviously pointing out some of the less-dressed women! Infact one even took to the time to point out that my chest was much bigger than hers!

Famiily changing rooms were empty, so me and my friend just upped and went into there instead.

I would understand a VERY young child needing supervision, but personally I don't think its acceptable for male children to be running around female changing rooms when they quite clearly have an understanding of the differences between the sexes.

I also would ensure I took my son (if I had one!) in to a family changing area than have anyone else feel uncomfortable!

*max*

Well, I just wouldn't use this place, simple as that. I'm really surprised at the amount of people who think it's ok to strip naked in front of perfect strangers (adults AND children), and that the person who finds it inappropriate is the one with the problem!

I think the facilities as described are whoefully inadequate to maintain an environment able to guarantee people's modesty.

Yes, the lady with the child is wrong to not be using the family room; if she thinks it is appropriate for her child to see naked women, it's her prerogative. However, she should also respect other people's sensibilities. It's all about respect really.

Tbh, I wouldn't be happy with the facilities at all and wouldn't be going anymore, child or no child!

Gavin83

I think it's too old. I wouldn't particularly want a girl of 8+ in the mens changing rooms.

As long as they can dry and dress themselves I don't see why they can't go in their own changing room. I would expect an 8 year old to be able to do these things. To suggest they'll be abused in there is simply ridiculous.

hardpressed

I've not been to a swimming pool for years and if communal changing rooms are the norm then I won't be going again. Whilst I was quite happy for my own sons to see me naked up until the time when they found it embarrassing I wouldn't have done it in front their friends. I think these mothers are just proving a point, they're allowed to and they will and blow anyone else's feelings.

System

Bah even in the cubicles you're not safe, one time i was getting changed and had some boys (aged about 11ish) look over into my cubicle... :eek: we don't have m/f changing just all together)

When my dad took me swimming at first he took me into the mens..but i got a bit freaked out being surrounded by naked men so soon decided i'd rather go into the women's alone

MrsE_2

*max* wrote: »

Well, I just wouldn't use this place, simple as that. I'm really surprised at the amount of people who think it's ok to strip naked in front of perfect strangers (adults AND children), and that the person who finds it inappropriate is the one with the problem!

I think the facilities as described are whoefully inadequate to maintain an environment able to guarantee people's modesty.

Yes, the lady with the child is wrong to not be using the family room; if she thinks it is appropriate for her child to see naked women, it's her prerogative. However, she should also respect other people's sensibilities. It's all about respect really.

Tbh, I wouldn't be happy with the facilities at all and wouldn't be going anymore, child or no child!

I agree there should be far more than 2 private cubicles. Its modern, lots of parking, closest to me, its lovely inside, 2 glass walls & a glass roof.
But I think they should have installed more cubicles, instead of being ultra modern.
I will use the family facilities & not have to change in front of school boys, they are lovely, they have showers in each one & loads of space.

Valli

MrsE wrote: »

I think the presence of dedicated family facilities means there is no excuse for any boy older than a toddler to be in there.

Totally agree.

BitterAndTwisted

I was born and brought up in this country but I'm still surprised by the British attitude and sense of coy modesty about innocent nudity sometimes. But then my Ma was German, and they have a completely different view of what's natural and wholesome. It's not as if the women in the changing-room are running about doing cartwheels totally naked, they're just showering and getting changed.

Dunroamin

*max* wrote: »

Well, I just wouldn't use this place, simple as that. I'm really surprised at the amount of people who think it's ok to strip naked in front of perfect strangers (adults AND children), and that the person who finds it inappropriate is the one with the problem!

I think the facilities as described are whoefully inadequate to maintain an environment able to guarantee people's modesty.

Yes, the lady with the child is wrong to not be using the family room; if she thinks it is appropriate for her child to see naked women, it's her prerogative. However, she should also respect other people's sensibilities. It's all about respect really.

Tbh, I wouldn't be happy with the facilities at all and wouldn't be going anymore, child or no child!

Someone with a hang up about nakedness?

Dunroamin

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I was born and brought up in this country but I'm still surprised by the British attitude and sense of coy modesty about innocent nudity sometimes. But then my Ma was German, and they have a completely different view of what's natural and wholesome. It's not as if the women in the changing-room are running about doing cartwheels totally naked, they're just showering and getting changed.

Those of us who grew up with communal school showers tended to get all that nonsense knocked out of us early.