children in communal changing rooms

Mojisola

balletshoes wrote: »

okay - if thats the concern for the teacher, and the kids are only 6 and 7 so would probably be seen as perfectly acceptable for them to be in the female changing rooms with their mum if theres no other facilities they could use, whats the teacher supposed to do?

eta - I'm a bit surprised that this would be the main concern to be honest - and surely theres the same opportunity for older girls at the school to take photos of the teacher, and the girls in the changing rooms are there perfectly legitimately?

*max* wrote: »

Well, I just wouldn't use this place, simple as that.

I didn't say it would the "main concern".

As for the older girls, that's a valid point and I think, if I was a teacher, I'd be following max's lead and not using the place.

balletshoes

Mojisola wrote: »

I didn't say it would the "main concern".

As for the older girls, that's a valid point and I think, if I was a teacher, I'd be following max's lead and not using the place.

you're right, I'll amend my post - but I'm still surprised that would be a concern at all (but I'm not a teacher and it just wouldn't occur to me).

*max*

Dunroamin wrote: »

Someone with a hang up about nakedness?

Well if not wanting perfect strangers to see me naked and not wanting to see strangers with their bits out in the middle of a communal area is a hang up, then I suppose I am hung up! I can live with that to be honest.

Torry_Quine

*max* wrote: »

Well if not wanting perfect strangers to see me naked and not wanting to see strangers with their bits out in the middle of a communal area is a hang up, then I suppose I am hung up! I can live with that to be honest.

I'm with you there.

It's a while since I went swimming but I always used the cubicles in the changing room and I never use communal rooms in clothes shops. :eek::o

poet123

Dunroamin wrote: »

Those of us who grew up with communal school showers tended to get all that nonsense knocked out of us early.

And if your forgot your towel you were handed two paper towels to do the job with. Happy days....not.

System

i'm so glad we didn't have communal school showers :eek: i'd have hated that, getting changed after p.e was horrific enough!

bigmomma051204

Gavin83 wrote: »

I think it's too old. I wouldn't particularly want a girl of 8+ in the mens changing rooms.

As long as they can dry and dress themselves I don't see why they can't go in their own changing room. I would expect an 8 year old to be able to do these things. To suggest they'll be abused in there is simply ridiculous.

This brings up an interesting point...

I wonder if the issue was about a father taking his daughter of 8 yrs into a male changing room people would think differently.... :cool: Especially if an alternative was readily available..

Also, I wonder whether the boys might be uncomfortable in OP's situation... nobody has suggested this yet. As I said, my son who is 8yrs said "eww and yukkk" about being in a changing room with a load of varying aged women/girls. He would certainly be very uncomfortable... yet he has a very good self image and will happily walk around the house naked LOL... JUST getting through to him that he needs to make sure the curtains are CLOSED before he does this now he is a bit older LOL

It is all about RESPECT at the end of the day. All of the people who are saying that the human body is a natural thing etc are correct BUT we live in a civilised society where we DON'T all walk around school, work, supermarket etc naked so that is a truly pointless attitude to take - unless of course those commenting in that vein are in fact all going to Tesco naked..?? Why not, after all, the body is a natural thing and we should all be proud of it, no?? So, back to my point, RESPECT - The mothers should respect other people's right to privacy and a little common decency. Therefore teaching their children to respect the same things. And teaching a child that they can have respect for their own body by valuing their own right to privacy is SO important, especially in this day and age where we are so much more aware of people who are predators towards children

Believe it or not, children CAN be taught to be aware that the human body is a beautiful thing WITHOUT having to see it in the *ahem* flesh every week in a changing room.

memoryoftrees

I can't see how it makes any difference that some of you would deem not stripping off prudish and proof that there is a hang-up about the naked human body and others shy in horror from the idea of getting changed somewhere without cubicles. We all are different and have different levels of comfort and confidence with this sort of thing. It's pointless snorting in laughter because YOU would be confident striding around starkers in front of every child in the UK, if someone else isn't, why should she have to get changed in front of pre-teen boys when alternatives are provided?

I personally would feel a bit uncomfortable with this myself and I am no prude.

For what it's worth I am very pleased so many leisure facilities offer family changing rooms as this was always a big hindrance to my family, growing up as we lost our mother young. It wasn't appropriate for me to go in the men's changing room, I couldn't always manage to dress myself when I was very young, so we just didn't go! Family facilities are there so that everyone can enjoy the, well, facilities and it also means those of us trying to enjoy a bit of 'child free' time can get changed without listening to children's LOUD conversations with their parents!

memoryoftrees

Bigmomma, I agree with most of your post but am struggling to see what's beautiful and natural about my white flabby belly, hairy legs and saggy boobs ... :rotfl:

pigpen

MrsE wrote: »

Do you think its appropriate for a 10 year old to be changing & showering with naked female strangers?
It would feel selfish to take a family room for myself, but I guess its the answer.

I can't understand why you would be naked, I've not been swimming in many years but was never naked in front of anyone, I think it is fairly obvious from my quantity of children I am far from prudish lol.. If there are no individual cubicles to change in use the family changing facilities it is no more selfish than exposing your small boys to other females poor lads are probably traumatised. Or go to a pool with cubicles.

Is it more or less appropriate than my OH taking our daughter swimming and her being at eye level to wrinkly winkles in the mens changing room..