children in communal changing rooms

balletshoes

MrsE wrote: »

Regardless of whether the ladies shower naked or not, you have to strip to get into your cozzie & to get out of it & dried.

there are no cubicles to use?

MrsE_2

balletshoes wrote: »

there are no cubicles to use?

No
They have a disabled large cubicle, they have about 6-8 large family cubicles & a mens communal & a ladies communal change room. In the communal ladies are 2 private cubicles, but the teenage girls hog them. To be fair they tend to be body shy in front of anyone even other women at that age.

tea_lover

Like some others, I'm astounded that there aren't cubicles! I go to a really old, council-owned gym with absolutely no mod-cons, and even that has cubicles.

Personally I'd never use a swimming pool that made me get naked in front of other people, no matter what their ages were.

Counting_Pennies_2

So you want the children to go alone into the mens changing rooms to see a whole load of men naked they don't know.

If that is your arguement then the children are best with their parent whatever sex they are.

7 and 8 is very young to be sent off to get changed on their own.

My just turned 9 year old is only now old enough to go into the changing rooms on his own. He is now old enough to get dried and changed and to pack his bag up and remember everything. Also not to get distracted and forget what he is supposed to be doing.

More importantly it would have been too daunting for him.

If the children were 9 - 10 years old then I would agree they are getting to an age where they can start thinking about going into the changing rooms for their sex.

I would not take offence at the odd glance from the children, it is healthy to be aware of bodies and their form, and they are not sexually aware. If you think other adults are not taking a peek at you as they get changed you are wrong, it is human nature to look and while not everyone does, many will.

Do you really take offence at them hanging around for a chat after they have got changed. Is it not nice to have a meet up with a friend and catch up. Social skills don't just land on you, they are developed over time, and I think it is lovely that they are not on electronic devices and having fun chatting after a fun filled swimming session.

bigmomma051204

Have just asked my 8 yr old son what he reckons

He says "eeeeughhh yuk, I wouldnt want to see lots of horrid ladies and girls getting changed and washing ewwwwww"

So I am guessing he would rather use the family cubicle I certainly wouldn't let him go into the mens alone - he also has lungs and can shout (as someone else said) but then thats not REALLY how it works with predatory men in general who would build up trust with a child on a regular basis (generally families will go same time each week which would allow for grooming over time)

minimoneysaver

I think this IS an issue. I have another moral issue. There are many pupils parents that are members of the same pool that I go to. At weekends and afterschool, they often bring their children. When I am in the communal womens change & shower area, do you think it's appropriate that the boys I have contact with, either in my class or in another, are getting changed & showered in the same area as myself? I don't.

LucyLocket

MrsE wrote: »

The upper age for opposite sex use of the changing room is 8
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If the boys are 8 or under then there is no breach of the policy.If the boys are over 8 then the policy is being breached . To suggest a new policy or the enforcement of the current one I would approach the management .
I think this may be an issue that many children would be utterly oblivious to.Sexual awareness leads to concerns about modesty, genuine innocence doesn't care much. My DD was probably about 7 when I felt compelled to request that if she insisted on roaming the house nude would she please not do shoulder stands in the sitting room

balletshoes

minimoneysaver wrote: »

I think this IS an issue. I have another moral issue. There are many pupils parents that are members of the same pool that I go to. At weekends and afterschool, they often bring their children. When I am in the communal womens change & shower area, do you think it's appropriate that the boys I have contact with, either in my class or in another, are getting changed & showered in the same area as myself? I don't.

sorry do you mean you're a teacher, and these are your pupils? How old are they? If they are young children, I don't think theres anything wrong with it - what else can they do?

bigmomma051204

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

So you want the children to go alone into the mens changing rooms to see a whole load of men naked they don't know.

If that is your arguement then the children are best with their parent whatever sex they are.

7 and 8 is very young to be sent off to get changed on their own.

My just turned 9 year old is only now old enough to go into the changing rooms on his own. He is now old enough to get dried and changed and to pack his bag up and remember everything. Also not to get distracted and forget what he is supposed to be doing.

More importantly it would have been too daunting for him.

If the children were 9 - 10 years old then I would agree they are getting to an age where they can start thinking about going into the changing rooms for their sex.

I would not take offence at the odd glance from the children, it is healthy to be aware of bodies and their form, and they are not sexually aware. If you think other adults are not taking a peek at you as they get changed you are wrong, it is human nature to look and while not everyone does, many will.

Do you really take offence at them hanging around for a chat after they have got changed. Is it not nice to have a meet up with a friend and catch up. Social skills don't just land on you, they are developed over time, and I think it is lovely that they are not on electronic devices and having fun chatting after a fun filled swimming session.

NO thats not OP's point at all.

Her point is that there are dedicated FAMILY rooms. Why would any one with mixed sex family NOT use the dedicated rooms is my question.... :cool:

I am a mother with an 8 yr old boy. I would not want him seeing lots of naked women and teen girls. It is inappropriate at his age I am afraid and those who say it isn't are wrong (sorry!) At 8yrs, children need to learn a healthy respect for the privacy of others and their own naked bodies. Yes, it is fine for them to know what a naked member of the opposite sex looks like.... but it is not necessary for them to see it on a regular basis when there is a alternative. Also, although I don't mind getting changed in front of MY 8 yr old.. I certainly wouldn't want to get changed in front of anyone ELSE's 8 yr old!!!!! God, i get enough "Why is your tummy SOOO flabby?" off my OWN child LOL... wouldnt want others asking :eek:

minimoneysaver

Hahaha, brain in most definitely in neutral! Yes, I am and they are 6 & 7 at the moment, but I am known to all pupils in the infant & junior Dept.