Punishments for nasty bullying behaviour from a 14 y/o?

pigpen

Ruby_woo wrote: »

Where does the blah bit come from? I didn't post that

no, you copied and pasted something irrelevant as it relates to a different person... so I deleted it so as not to confuse other people as you clearly are.

Person_one

If this is something that's part of an ongoing problem, especially with more than one child, you really do need to get over your dislike of 'services' and ask for help.

I know its easier and feels better to say "Oh, it was just this one thing that was happening at this exact time, so its sorted and fixed and it won't happen again!" but it IS happening again.

What about talking to your midwife? They are often pretty knowledgeable about what help is out there for struggling families and parents.

Ruby_woo

Well it's not difficult to get confused when you are confused with what you have typed yourself pigpen.

Blah is very rude to post to someone who was trying to help you. You obviously have problems that you need professional help with I think after reading some of your posts

Person_one

pigpen wrote: »

He isn't getting worse or more frequent or anything.. Ruby is confused and getting my boys mixed up.

I think he lashed out because he doesn't know how to properly focus or control strong emotion, whether that is positive or negative. If he gets over excited he can't stop, he has to go 10 steps further than he needs to. If he gets sad he can cry for days, it took him 3 weeks to stop crying every day over the death of his rabbit. Anger is the same, he cannot cope with it so it all rolls out at once but it isn't so bad when they are children but he is mansize now, small man but still mansize.

This is something the psychologist was looking at before he left...

He said DD4 was 'getting on his nerves' ... I did say if I lashed out every time someone got on my nerves I'd be forever pummelling someone!

I can't help but remember your attitude on the swearing thread, very confrontational and complete disregard for other people's feelings.

You're the biggest influence on your children, could you be doing better?

Please do get some help and support, for all of you.

Ruby_woo

Totally agree person one. I'm surprised authorities aren't doing more to help. Right I'm off no point wasting my time on this one! Rude to the limit.

delain

pigpen wrote: »

He isn't incontinent he just forgets to go outside.. he is happy and well and eating.. washing is hit and miss but his boy bits are always clean!

Well he is a boy!

Good job human men can't do that, nothing would ever get done :rotfl:

coolcait

pigpen wrote: »

DIFFERENT CHILD!!!! Like I said!

So you have two sons who both - when aged 14 - were physically violent towards you and your daughter(s)?

If you have 10 children, but haven't been 8 months pregnant for 21 years, that suggests that you have had a number of early births.

A tendency towards early labour, combined with the stress of dealing with a violent teenager, and the risk of that violence being directed towards you, doesn't sound like a great combination.

I agree with those who have suggested that you seek help from an outside agency.

Ruby_woo

I can honestly picture the chaos now....if you can't cope stop having more children...simple!

starnight_2

If DD4 was annoying him have you had a chance to ask why he didn't go to his safe place?

There's really no excuse for what he did it was obviously uncalled for. You said he is fabulous 95% of the time, can you have a good talk with him when he's having a good day and talk about appropriate behaviour and how to deal with his emotions. Is there any good asd service near you?

delain

Ruby_woo wrote: »

I can honestly picture the chaos now....if you can't cope stop having more children...simple!

And you said pigpen was rude!

She has already mentioned numerous outside agencies. Which she wouldn't if they weren't involved.