a mess

marisco_2

VestanPance wrote: »

You haven't confessed to him what you did, so that he can decide if he still wants to be with you.

teaandcupcakesplease wrote: »

I would be devastated if my partner did that to me. i will never ever cheat again trust me.

You acknowledge how you would feel if your partner ever cheated on you. I doubt very much that you would have chosen to have a child with him if he made this kind of confession to you.

Is it fair on him that he knows nothing about this and is about to become a parent with someone who isn't who he thinks she is?

I think you need to tell him and let him decide what he wants to do. Otherwise the lies just continue.

thorsoak

Let's look at this from the other side - if your partner had made the posts that you have made and are making ......would you feel that you were in a stable relationship?????

You are still fixating about your lover when you should be concentrating on the future of you, your baby and your OH

Joons

teaandcupcakesplease wrote: »

i wouldnt be surprised if he did either.

i want it fixed it was getting fixed i just dont know why im so bothered about his new mistress!!

I think there's a chance that deep down you really don't love your OH enough.

I think that's why you're so bothered about a guy who picks up women like a vacuum, regardless of their marital status.

marisco_2

teaandcupcakesplease wrote: »

I do realise that he is obviously a seriel offender and that no doubt he will eventually cheat on her years down the line etc, but my problem is, even though i ended it, even though i know its wrong hes a waste of space and did the right thing (eventually) i now find myself really upset and jelous he is with someone else

OP you do realise that this kind of guy only enters relationships for what he can get out of them dont you? He is not the type you could ever go the distance with, that would want to be a supportive life partner or more pertinent to your current situation would want to hook up with anyone who was having a child. That kind of responsibility and the necessity to put another young life before his own needs would be beyond him.

Is he easier to put out of your mind and not being infatuated over when you look at him in that light?

teaandcupcakesplease

marisco wrote: »

OP you do realise that this kind of guy only enters relationships for what he can get out of them dont you? yes

He is not the type you could ever go the distance with, that would want to be a supportive life partner or more pertinent to your current situation would want to hook up with anyone who was having a child. That kind of responsibility and the neecessity to put another before his own needs would be beyond him.

Is he easier to put out of your mind and not being infatuated over when you look at him in that light?

absolutely he is a liar and a cheat (i am too) but the difference with me is that i have stopped it and will never go there again. I made a brutal mistake i know this.

Joons

How do you know you won't go there again, what will stop you, not much did before?

You're really not any different to him.

teaandcupcakesplease

thorsoak wrote: »

Let's look at this from the other side - if your partner had made the posts that you have made and are making ......would you feel that you were in a stable relationship?????

You are still fixating about your lover when you should be concentrating on the future of you, your baby and your OH

no of course i wouldnt - ive never said i am in a stable relationship, what i have said however is that i know whats wrong.

I am concentrating on the future for the three of us. If i wasnt i woulnt be trying to get my heard out my !!!!!

teaandcupcakesplease

joons, ok ok i get what your saying im a bad person, im this that and the next thing,

I know i wont go there again.

teaandcupcakesplease

please the post was never about what you lot think of me it was about the fact that im so bothered about something which brings no value to my life and something i ended and how i dont want to feel like this.

marisco_2

Sorry OP but it is coming across loud and clear that it is all about 'me,me,me' in your mind. Life does not work like that.