FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

Sorry I'm not up to much posting this evening, but am reading all your posts. I'll reply in a bit xxx

Brighton_belle

Take care of yourself tayforth, you don't have to reply to anything tonight: you're going through a lot and it is bound to be rollercoaster, from relief to distress, back and forth for a while.

I'm glad you had someone in RL to talk too and share a bit more. It was lovely that she came round as soon as you let show your distress a little. You deserve to have that level of care shown you.

mcja

tayforth wrote: »

Sorry I'm not up to much posting this evening, but am reading all your posts. I'll reply in a bit xxx

I NEVER want to see you apologise for anything on here, you never have to apologise to anyone here. Just have a night off replying, know everyone is rooting for you, and ring your mum.

xx

MrsAtobe

Tayforth, don't apologise! You are doing so well, but I'm not surprised that you feel the need to take a breather.

Be kind to yourself (((hugs)))

mintymoneysaver

It's probably just a blip, you've had a life changing week. I've resent my pm, don't know why it didn't get to you x

Alpha58

tayforth wrote: »

I'm crying and feel totally useless.

Don't you dare! You have been incredible through this, and the bad behaviour of one described as an ar*e by so many strangers must count for something.

Crying's OK, just use it to fush out some of the negativity. My ol' mum used to say, when I was a little lad and had been crying, "go and get a flannel, rinse it in cold water and wash your face." It works. Try it.

Tomorrow's another day, and a better one to boot. I won't comment on the ongoing "telling your mother" discussion because that's not for me to voice an opinion - what I would suggest is hiring a car for the weekend and indeed for any other time in the near future when you know you can't rely on someone else giving up the car.

Be strong - almost there!

chatterup

I think that you should have a deep conversation about how you feel. And, if things don't get any better, you should end it because the marriage will only get worse if you prolong it. But, if there are kids involved, it is a lot complicated and difficult. I hope things get better.

jenhug

Tay, please tell your mum. You will feel better, and more empowered when you do.

tayforth

I'm shattered and going to bed. I'll reply to you all in the morning, thanks for your kind words xxx

Yorkie1

chatterup wrote: »

I think that you should have a deep conversation about how you feel. And, if things don't get any better, you should end it because the marriage will only get worse if you prolong it. But, if there are kids involved, it is a lot complicated and difficult. I hope things get better.

I think you're a few days behind - the OP and her OH have definitely split up now.