FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

Yorkie1

I suspect it will be fine tomorrow, however anxious you will understandably be.

He hasn't tried to talk you round, or criticised you for your decision, or undermined you at all from what you've said. You've not had any big arguments tonight which might leave him feeling resentful or vindictive on a particular point.

You know him best but he's been OK so far and so I'd have hope that he will be OK tomorrow in your absence.

tayforth

Alpha58 wrote: »

Incidentally, to echo what others have said before about the dilemma of your sister's wedding - your family will already know that there is something wrong, so whereas perhaps a little white lie may work in the short term, they will be happier to find out that you have "lanced a boil" and dealt with what I am sure they know was a problem!

Was just looking for a post and saw your edit above. I do think that my mum suspects that something is not quite right with me. And yes, I do hope that my family see that I'm better off and happier without him. It'll be SUCH a relief to tell them.

The friend I told yesterday said that she knew that there was something up with me as I hadn't been quite myself lately; perhaps my mask isn't as good as I thought. I'm trying, though.

Yorkie1 wrote: »

I suspect it will be fine tomorrow, however anxious you will understandably be.

He hasn't tried to talk you round, or criticised you for your decision, or undermined you at all from what you've said. You've not had any big arguments tonight which might leave him feeling resentful or vindictive on a particular point.

You know him best but he's been OK so far and so I'd have hope that he will be OK tomorrow in your absence.

Thank you. I'll have to trust him not to do anything untoward. Might take my important papers to work with me, all the same.

zzzLazyDaisy

tayforth wrote: »

Thank you. I'll have to trust him not to do anything untoward. Might take my important papers to work with me, all the same.

Take everything that is important to you to work with you. I am not saying he WILL have a root around, but he might. Personally I wouldn't let him go into your home on his own, but I can see why you'd want it all over and done with.

Big hugs, you are one step nearer to getting this man out of your life.

xxx

tayforth

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

Take everything that is important to you to work with you. I am not saying he WILL have a root around, but he might. Personally I wouldn't let him go into your home on his own, but I can see why you'd want it all over and done with.

Big hugs, you are one step nearer to getting this man out of your life.

xxx

Thank you I know, I do just want his stuff out. And he's paid his share of the rent for April, and he agreed to leave even though his name is on the lease, so I feel that I should be fair. It'll make me feel better if I treat him as fairly as I can, then I can hold my head high.

BillyB

Just read this - I had to after reading the first 10 or so pages to see how it turned out! Im glad things worked out for you the way they have + I think all credit to you the way you have dealt with things, from keeping it from family for their sake and how you've been with him about getting his things etc!

harrys_nan

Hi Tayforth,
It's nearly over :T By the time you get home from work, you will be on the next stage of your life, single (ish) but free !!
You have been on a long journey but the best is yet to come, enjoy your freedom and have a brilliant time finding "you".
Have a few weeks or even months of peace and doing things you want to do without having to worry, enjoy your sister's wedding and I hope that Sam comes to realise what a lovely lady you are,:)
wishing you everything that you wish for yourself.

So many of us have been in your situation and there is a life at the end of all this xx

tayforth

Good morning. I slept better last night - still in the spare room for now. I've decided that I will go back to the main bedroom, but not yet. I'll wait until all his stuff is gone, then I'll change it around, put on my new Egyptian cotton sheets and Next duvet set. Then it'll be *my* room, and I'll sleep in it.

BillyB wrote: »

Just read this - I had to after reading the first 10 or so pages to see how it turned out! Im glad things worked out for you the way they have + I think all credit to you the way you have dealt with things, from keeping it from family for their sake and how you've been with him about getting his things etc!

Thank you BillyB. It's getting to be a long thread now! I am glad that I've behaved civilly, and I'm also glad that he's admitted everything. Not because I care what he thinks any more, but it's a step closer to me fully accepting it all. And it makes it a bit more real.

harrys_nan wrote: »

Hi Tayforth,
It's nearly over :T By the time you get home from work, you will be on the next stage of your life, single (ish) but free !!
You have been on a long journey but the best is yet to come, enjoy your freedom and have a brilliant time finding "you".
Have a few weeks or even months of peace and doing things you want to do without having to worry, enjoy your sister's wedding and I hope that Sam comes to realise what a lovely lady you are,:)
wishing you everything that you wish for yourself.

So many of us have been in your situation and there is a life at the end of all this xx

How lovely to read this first thing in the morning. Thanks for all your kind wishes, harrys nan. I really hope that they all come true xxx

tayforth

Task for today: consult a solicitor about my options. Do you still get a free half hour?

Orlando_Virgin

tayforth wrote: »

Task for today: consult a solicitor about my options. Do you still get a free half hour?

Yeah most do a free half hour phone call. I understand totally what you mean about the bedroom not quite being yours yet. When me and my ex split up I couldn't stay at home for like a week so I went to my Mum's.

This next couple of weeks will be the toughest, but once you get past those it WILL get better day by day, trust me. You have done entirely the right thing, and eventually your old, sh*tty life will fade more and more in to the past and your new, better, improved life will take over. You'll get the happiness you deserve!!

nerak_y

tayforth wrote: »

Task for today: consult a solicitor about my options. Do you still get a free half hour?

Good Morning!
I never got billed for my first appointment, albeit a year ago. I am in Scotland, not sure if it is nationwide though. Good luck with it! xx