FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

Funky_Bold_Ribena

tayforth wrote: »

I'm now home and waiting for him to arrive to pick up some more of his things. Any advice?

If it were me, I'd pick an album that he hates and have it blaring out whilst eating my favourite ice cream and reading the paper/a book and just ignore him whilst he is there. Be 'blase' or 'nonchalant' about the whole thing.

Or pop a jacket on, and stand waiting and leave right after him and just go somewhere nice. Keep checking your watch. Even if it's for the starting time of the pictures.

lostinrates

tayforth wrote: »

I'm now home and waiting for him to arrive to pick up some more of his things. Any advice?

Does a friend know he is expected? Probably worth having someone in real life know he is there and check in with a phone call later.

make_me_wise

If I were in your shoes OP, I would have all his stuff in black bags by the bins waiting for him to collect them. He would not get through the door or anywhere near me. After the ghastly way he has treated you that is the best his sort deserve.

I have read your whole thread and think you have been incredibly strong and brave. Well done you.

JohnnyJet

tayforth wrote: »

I'm now home and waiting for him to arrive to pick up some more of his things. Any advice?

No matter how bitter you feel don't wind him up. Just let him take his stuff as quickly as possible and leave. There really is no point getting into an argument. He may try to change your mind, but just stay strong and repeat what you have already told him. Just imagine that we are all there supporting you.

tayforth

He's still packing stuff. I'll update when he's gone xxx

neverdespairgirl

tayforth wrote: »

I'm now home and waiting for him to arrive to pick up some more of his things. Any advice?

I'd go for perfectly polite, but not forthcoming, a bit distant.

That way you don't start an argument, but don't invite conversation, either.

Jane2112

I am so proud that you have come some far. It will be such a lovely feeling when all his stuff has gone, and you can 'cleanse' the place.

it is 16 years such my ex left ( thrown out!) and I can still remember the warm fuzzy feeling, getting into my big bed, with all new bedding and a new matress and quilt I even altered the layout of the bedroom and lounge to give them a completely new feel - great.

Enjoy the time by yourself. Dont rush into any new relationships, Find yourself again - a bit 'new age' but you know what we mean.

Keep stong.

busiscoming2

Tayforth I have somehow missed your thread previously and have just spent the past goodness knows how long reading it all. I am so pleased you found the courage to end your marriage and believe you are right not to tell your mum and sister so close to her wedding. I was worried your ex would behave badly when you told him, but at least he has behaved in that respect.

Look forward and enjoy your new found freedom to be who you really are.

scot88

Tay..stay strong..you have so much courage. I have followed your thread with baited breath. I have been through similar things. I'm thankful ..I'm nearly 9 years "free"". I do get a bit lonely but, I'm very much mostly happy.

hulltiger1969

WOW

I dissapear for a few days and come back to find you have done it :j

I am so so pleased for you, and so proud of you, your new happy life begins now.

I know you were worried how some mutual friends might take it(especially one of them )

I told you a bit about my experiance in a private message, but heres a new chapter. On occassion I have chatted to one of my exes friends either by text, facebook or bumping into him, always had a chat and was always really nice and friendly, and ALWAYS said my ex was an idiot and I was right to have left him. On a night out a few months ago I bumped into him and he said he had always liked me, I spoke to him for quite a while then went my own way (not into drunken fumblings):rotfl:

He has text me now around once a week asking how I am etc (always had each others number) then today we were chatting by text when he said
" I have always fancied you and ALWAYS told ...... you were too good for him and he did not deserve you":eek:
So next weekend we are going out on a date, I can't believe it.

anyway massive massive hugs to you, the new happy relaxed you:)