FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

I got through today, just about. I'm leaving early tomorrow, I just can't keep up this act for too much longer, it's exhausting.

When this is all over, I need a break...

msb5262

tayforth wrote: »

I got through today, just about. I'm leaving early tomorrow, I just can't keep up this act for too much longer, it's exhausting.

When this is all over, I need a break...

Well done for getting most of today out of the way. There's not so long to go now - and you're not alone, we are all behind you cheering you on.

MsB x

tayforth

msb5262 wrote: »

Well done for getting most of today out of the way. There's not so long to go now - and you're not alone, we are all behind you cheering you on.

MsB x

Thanks so much.


My mum was being quite critical of me this morning, it was nothing really but I felt like yelling it all at her there and then. Not my usual attitude at all. I need space, or I'll crack.

sammyjammy

tayforth wrote: »

Thanks so much.


My mum was being quite critical of me this morning, it was nothing really but I felt like yelling it all at her there and then. Not my usual attitude at all. I need space, or I'll crack.

Try and remember it's just a normal day for your Mum, when you do tell her she is going to look back at this weekend and feel sad that you were in such a bad place.

Get some sleep and go home early.
x

tayforth

sammyjammy wrote: »

Try and remember it's just a normal day for your Mum, when you do tell her she is going to look back at this weekend and feel sad that you were in such a bad place.

Get some sleep and go home early.
x

Thanks. I will remember that. I hope that she doesn't feel bad, it's my choice to keep it from them.


I'm going to bed soon, so looking forward to some solitude and sleep xx

tayforth

Mum was in an unusually chatty mood this evening. I've only just got to bed. I can't describe the relief I felt when I closed the bedroom door. Now to try to switch off and get a decent sleep.

Thanks for all the kind words today, I read through this thread often when I'm feeling low. You're all wonderful xxx

msb5262

I really admire you, OP. You are right in the middle of a really hard time, and you're keeping a cool head and remembering all the important things.
Sleep tight!
MsB x

tayforth

msb5262 wrote: »

I really admire you, OP. You are right in the middle of a really hard time, and you're keeping a cool head and remembering all the important things.
Sleep tight!
MsB x

Thank you. I don't feel cool-headed at all but outwardly I suppose that I'm holding it together. And that'll do for now.


Goodnight to you xx

tayforth

I slept well last night; the exhaustion just caught up with me, and I had about 9 hours. Bliss. I feel better for it, and able to take on whatever comes my way.

I'll be leaving Mum's later and going back to our house (soon to be my house!). He's away tonight and we'll talk after work tomorrow. I want him and all of his stuff out of the house tomorrow night.


Any practical tips?

paulineb_2

Apologies if this has already been covered but does your husband have somewhere else to live?

I appreciate you are doing the right thing by asking him to leave, but its going to be a bit of a shock to the system ending a relationship and being asked to leave your home in one conversation.

And if he doesnt have anywhere else to go and is having to go back to family, I think its only fair that he/they get a couple of days notice.

You are doing the right thing. But reverse the conversation. Would you be happy being told a fairly long term relationship is finished and then being told to move out the same evening?

Regardless of the manner in which he has behaved its going to be a shock to the system and I dont think you are wrong in splitting. But first of all you are going to tell him the marriage is finished and then you are going to tell him to pack his stuff.

Apologies if this has already been covered, but if he doesnt have anywhere else to go what are you going to do? If he is going back to family surely you need to make sure or he needs to make sure they can have him back and they are going to be in when he lands on their doorstep with a suitcase.

And possibly some people might feel that he doesnt deserve the grace of being given a few days to find somewhere else. But personally, unless I was physically at risk being around someone, I wouldnt put them out of what is their home unless I knew they had somewhere else to go to.

And I know the question was asked earlier in the thread, but where do you stand legally housing wise given that you both rent the place you are living in?