FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

joolsybools

psocial wrote: »

Well I think that you need to speak to OH once and tell what exactly the problem is because it is not even good to hurt him.. If by telling him your feeling you both mutually try to give it one more try then it wont be a bad idea as I what all you wrote I figured out that he really loves you and want to be with you right? so why not

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tayforth

I'm still wondering what happened with missmoo123. The poster whose husband was violent towards her. I'm worried about her.

spirit

To those posters trying to bully Tay into telling her family this weekend; your behaviour is no better than Tay's husband.

She knows what she wants to do in that regard so we should respect that decision.

Tay, re his moving out, I would advise you to be there. Beware you might get a mouthful of abuse from him, but at least you will be able to see what he is and isn't taking and you can relax once he's gone and can change the locks.

I got a nice neighbour to change my locks, you just get the middle barrel bit, not the whole lock iykwim.

tayforth

Thank you spirit. Perhaps I should be there, unpleasant as it will be. The alternative may be worse.

And the lovely LL would change the locks if I told him why. Hs very good at DIY. I'd pay him, of course.


Re your first point, I don't feel that anyone is bullying me, really I don't. I appreciate that you're all concerned for me and it IS hard keeping it quiet, and yes, it would be a relief to get it all out.

I know that everyone will have different views. And you've all been posting here with the best of intentions. So I thank you all xxx

joolsybools

I don't want to worry you, but if you are there then maybe it's worth having a friend on standby nearby (car outside) just in case things get nasty. Just a thought.

Brighton_belle

spirit wrote: »

To those posters trying to bully Tay into telling her family this weekend; your behaviour is no better than Tay's husband.
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I do think that is a misuse of the word 'bully'. People have expressed strong views but always in the context of caring and explained why they feel she should.
It's the same passionately expressed valuing of the Op that has helped her reach the decision that she doesn't want to 'keep trying' in this relationship.
No one has been rude or aggressive. Some people on here also have experience of how difficult it can be for a person to leave a partner who has an emotionally abusive history. Sometimes it takes tough talking to help someone have the courage to break free.

consultant31

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

Presumably she is a grown woman getting married - not a fairy princess whose bubble must not be burst.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

My goodness - if you can't be in a bubble on your wedding day, when is it allowed??

Funky_Bold_Ribena

consultant31 wrote: »

My goodness - if you can't be in a bubble on your wedding day, when is it allowed??

My goodness - the wedding isn't for another 3 weeks yet. Must everyone put their lives on hold lest the bride not be able to cope with someone's else's life decisions? Honestly I've never heard such rot.

pearl123

Tayforth....I could have written your opening tread. Not alot of fun living in a pretty loveless relationship. It's very depressing indead. At the end of the day some people love themselves so much they can't bother to give love to other peple.
(Must admit I have not read the whole tread, so I would have missed alot of info)
I still must decided what to do regarding my relationship, but I suspect I will leave someday. All the best x

Yorkie1

If he is a joint tenant in the property (i.e. his name is on the tenancy / deeds) then you can't change the locks. Legally he is entitled to live there.