FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

nikki11

tayforth-you sound like such a lovely person and you really dont deserve any of his !!!!!!. Leave,find yourself again, do things for you. I understand the wedding is worrying you-its a big step, I wouldnt be worried about him going only for the photos-maybe lock him in a cupboard or something:D

Everything else has been said, wishing you all the happiness you deserve. Stay strong.

P.S Im following :rotfl:

tayforth

Peanut2013 wrote: »

Tayforth, sod the wedding. Honestly.

My dads retirement do was just as we were splitting up and we put on a brave face and went. However we were both in terrible moods and just hid away all night.

My dad says now it was that night they knew something was up and to be honest he wishes I'd just said something before so I could have gone alone and enjoyed myself. But I thought I was doing what was right for my dad, that he wanted to see me happy in my marriage.

Turns out he knew I wasn't happy and would rather I came alone.

Honestly you'll be fine and you'll have a great time!

Person_one wrote: »

You'll go without him, of course. You'll spend the day with your family who actually love you. You'll eat, drink, dance and have a good time.

Don't even think about staying with him for the sake of the wedding, nobody except him would actually want you to do that.

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

Stop worrying for a start. The world will not end. You will wake up the next day and kick yourself for wasting so much time over this.

Put it this way, if one of your relatives turned up at a wedding having just spilt up with their husband would you all be gossiping or give them a hug and get on with the show?

Thanks, all of you.

It's just that lots of the same people will be there, and they'll all be wondering where he is if I haven't had the chance to forewarn them, and - oh God.

tayforth

Odette wrote: »

TBH if you are planning on ending the relationship then you should end it, today or when he gets back. What is the point now you have made up your mind?
Don't worry about the wedding. People will find out that you are not together anyway but speak to your sibling and let them know whats going on. Hopefully they will understand that this dilemma is stressing you out and be understanding.

Perryl wrote: »

I think Peanut has a great point. I think, even if its a case of gossip, you would enjoy the day much more without him there. I think your family would also be happier knowing you weren't stressing the whole day. Speak to your family truthfully if you want to. But I do think if you are sure you want out, and you don't want him there, then stand firm and make that happen. People will forget the gossip because it is someone's special day.

nikki11 wrote: »

tayforth-you sound like such a lovely person and you really dont deserve any of his !!!!!!. Leave,find yourself again, do things for you. I understand the wedding is worrying you-its a big step, I wouldnt be worried about him going only for the photos-maybe lock him in a cupboard or something:D

Everything else has been said, wishing you all the happiness you deserve. Stay strong.

P.S Im following :rotfl:

Yes, I probably would enjoy it more without him there. But I'm so used to putting a brave face on 'us' in public that I could do it this time too.

I'll take a deep breath and speak to my family.

tayforth

Also, the lovely Samaritans lady gave me the contact details for an organisation that deals with past abuse, and I am going to contact them. I don't want to wallow in it, but I guess that I have to confront it. She was astounded that I'd never spoken about it.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

tayforth wrote: »

Thanks, all of you.

It's just that lots of the same people will be there, and they'll all be wondering where he is if I haven't had the chance to forewarn them, and - oh God.

They will get over it! This should not be your primary worry.

Orlando_Virgin

tayforth wrote: »

Thanks, all of you.

It's just that lots of the same people will be there, and they'll all be wondering where he is if I haven't had the chance to forewarn them, and - oh God.

You definitely without a doubt need to go to the wedding on your own. It would be a horrible experience for you if you went with him. Tell your family beforehand, starting with your Mum and I'm positive you will be pleasantly surprised at how supportive and well they take the news.

tayforth

I hope so.

I've hardly slept all week and feel terrible. I would love not to have to come to work at the minute.

Orlando_Virgin

tayforth wrote: »

I hope so.

I've hardly slept all week and feel terrible. I would love not to have to come to work at the minute.

I think you've done the right thing going in to work. You are being really brave. x

gazzak_2

Don't take him to the wedding, and don't worry about it. You need to see the wedding as your first outing alone in your new "happy" life.

tayforth

Thanks.

I don't feel brave. I don't want to be at work. I can't concentrate.

And I suppose that that's a good point about the wedding.