FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

spirit

Hi Tayforth,

Glad you're ok, it all sounds very positive, well done :T

Have you had any further contact from your ex and if so how have you handled it?

Good luck for today, I'm sure it'll feel strange for a while, a bit like being the 'new girl' again. It won't last for long though.

busiscoming2

Tayforth - Just wanted to say how well you are doing. I'm sure work will be just fine, sometimes things seem worse in our heads than the reality.

tayforth

spirit wrote: »

Hi Tayforth,

Glad you're ok, it all sounds very positive, well done :T

Have you had any further contact from your ex and if so how have you handled it?

Good luck for today, I'm sure it'll feel strange for a while, a bit like being the 'new girl' again. It won't last for long though.

busiscoming2 wrote: »

Tayforth - Just wanted to say how well you are doing. I'm sure work will be just fine, sometimes things seem worse in our heads than the reality.

Thank you both for your very kind words.

The meeting with my boss went ok - he was very nice and understanding, as I knew he would be. I'm going into the office tomorrow - am deeply stressed about it and just hope that I don't lose my cool or run to the loos in floods of tears.

After I left the meeting, I had a mooch around the shops and bought a few nice bits and pieces. I hadn't been to the shops in soooo long. Now I'm home and about to make dinner. I'm going for a walk with a friend shortly.

busiscoming2 - you're right, hopefully by this time tomorrow I'll be feeling better, having faced everyone. They've all sent their regards and I know that they're concerned, bless them.

spirit - there's been no further contact, thank goodness.

mcja

Well done you. It sounds like its time to start getting back in the saddle (so to speak) and getting back into the routine of everything again.
I am glad you took the timeout to be able to stop and look at everything with fresh eyes.

You have done amazingly well, and can continue to do so.

Xx

tayforth

mcja wrote: »

Well done you. It sounds like its time to start getting back in the saddle (so to speak) and getting back into the routine of everything again.
I am glad you took the timeout to be able to stop and look at everything with fresh eyes.

You have done amazingly well, and can continue to do so.

Xx

Thanks, mcja. :A

I'm just back from my walk. My friend is great company, it was lovely.

Must try to get a decent sleep tonight - I didn't sleep that well last night (nerves?). I'm looking forward to seeing everyone in the office again, and I'll do my best not to get emotional if they ask how I am. And then tomorrow night, I'll pour myself a glass of wine and be thankful that I got the first day over with

Yorkie1

Good luck tomorrow

I'm sure that everyone will understand if you do get a bit emotional - just say you're OK and that it's all a bit overwhelming after being away for so long

Don't underestimate how exhausted you may feel tomorrow evening, and be kind to yourself.

Now, off you go to bed - we know what you're like at staying on here till all hours

tayforth

Yorkie1 wrote: »

Good luck tomorrow

I'm sure that everyone will understand if you do get a bit emotional - just say you're OK and that it's all a bit overwhelming after being away for so long

Don't underestimate how exhausted you may feel tomorrow evening, and be kind to yourself.

Now, off you go to bed - we know what you're like at staying on here till all hours

LOL Yorkie! I was actually coming on here to say goodnight

Thanks very much, I'm touched by your kind words.:A And I will take your advice, that sounds like a good thing to say to everyone.

Goodnight xxx

teawithmilk

Only just catching up reading your latest posts!!

Hope everything went OK today!!

Hezzawithkids

Hi Tay - ditto on the post-catch-up front. Glad to hear you're doing ok, you are such an inspiration. Over the last few months when my partner has started to 'act up' (not kick off but start to get moody) your story has popped into my head and instead of baby-sitting him like I used to do I've just ignored him and carried on. It meant that for the first time in years we didn't fall out during our family holiday, a miracle! Don't get me wrong, our relationship is rock solid, I've just picked up one or two hints from this thread and got me some extra self esteem!

Good luck with the return to work, I think you may be pleasantly surprised by how supportive your colleagues will be so try to relax and not take on too much to start with.

Live long and prosper my friend!

tayforth

Hello

Well, I went into work today and it was OK. I managed not to cry in front of them! But God, it was hard. I felt as if I were watching myself from afar, it was really weird. But at least I got through it.

This evening, I did something that I've never done before. I went out for dinner on my own! I had a Groupon voucher for my favourite restaurant that was about to expire, and none of my friends were free, so I decided to go alone. Eeeeek! :eek:

I was terrifed at first. I sat at a table in the corner, surrounded by couples, wishing that the ground would open up and swallow me. But then I just ordered some wine, and food, and I browsed Twitter on my phone, and I put on an 'I do this all the time' face.

And then I got talking to the couple at the table next to me, and they were so nice. We chatted for ages, in between courses. They left before I did, and when I said, "Nice to meet you", what I really meant was, "Thank you for keeping me company". Bless them. :A

When they left, I sat and looked around the restaurant, and noticed two unhappy-looking couples, and I thought: I'd rather be here on my own than with someone I didn't like.

Now I'm home again, and very glad that I plucked up the courage to do it. I might even do it again sometime lol!

What a day it's been. First day back to work, and first meal in a restaurant on my own.

teawithmilk wrote: »

Only just catching up reading your latest posts!!

Hope everything went OK today!!

Thanks so much, TWM. How are things with you? xxx

Hezzawithkids wrote: »

Hi Tay - ditto on the post-catch-up front. Glad to hear you're doing ok, you are such an inspiration. Over the last few months when my partner has started to 'act up' (not kick off but start to get moody) your story has popped into my head and instead of baby-sitting him like I used to do I've just ignored him and carried on. It meant that for the first time in years we didn't fall out during our family holiday, a miracle! Don't get me wrong, our relationship is rock solid, I've just picked up one or two hints from this thread and got me some extra self esteem!

Good luck with the return to work, I think you may be pleasantly surprised by how supportive your colleagues will be so try to relax and not take on too much to start with.

Live long and prosper my friend!

Wow, Hezzawithkids, I'm delighted that you got some positive messages from this thread and that it's improved your relationship. That's wonderful. How was your holiday, where did you go?

Thanks also for your words of encouragement xxx