FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

Hezzawithkids

Tay - what a massive step forward you've taken just in the last 24 hours! When I travel on business I often eat in restaurants alone (either in the hotel our outside) and it doesn't bother me one bit. For me it's quite nice to be able to order what I want and not be forced to make polite conversation. I find that the waiting staff are very attentive with lone women diners and I get looked after very well. I usually take a book or magazine with me and just enjoy a pleasant hour or two sipping wine, relaxing and being made a fuss of.

I wonder what's next for you??

PS: We had a lovely 2 week break in Italy, glorious weather, food, wine. Wish I was still there

tayforth

Hezzawithkids wrote: »

Tay - what a massive step forward you've taken just in the last 24 hours! When I travel on business I often eat in restaurants alone (either in the hotel our outside) and it doesn't bother me one bit. For me it's quite nice to be able to order what I want and not be forced to make polite conversation. I find that the waiting staff are very attentive with lone women diners and I get looked after very well. I usually take a book or magazine with me and just enjoy a pleasant hour or two sipping wine, relaxing and being made a fuss of.

I wonder what's next for you??

PS: We had a lovely 2 week break in Italy, glorious weather, food, wine. Wish I was still there

Haha, goodness knows what's next! :rotfl:

I've eaten alone before, but usually in a strange city, so I'm totally anonymous and don't care what anyone thinks of me. Last night was nerve-wracking as I go to this place quite often. But yes, I'm glad that I did it.

I did slip a magazine into my bag just in case, but in the end I didn't need it. I browsed on my phone, and chatted, and occasionally I just sat and looked around me. The staff seemed a little taken aback to see me on my own, but they didn't ask questions!

Oh, your holiday sounds so nice. Good food and good weather = bliss. :A

tayforth

p.s. I feel a bit fuzzy today - not sure whether it's from the wine or the Rescue Remedy that I was chugging back before I went into work yesterday! Lol.

teawithmilk

Hows it going Tayforth??? are things getting easier at work? xx

tayforth

teawithmilk wrote: »

Hows it going Tayforth??? are things getting easier at work? xx

Hi TWM, and thanks for asking. I'm back in on Thursday, feeling less nervous than last week so hopefully I'll be ok!

I'm staying in my own house for a week or so this time. I have a few nice things planned with friends for this weekend so hopefully I will be kept busy. I've also signed up for a couple of Meetup events! Thanks to whoever recommended it

Am also going to see a life coach next week (via a Groupon deal), just bought it on the spur of the moment! Lol. We'll see how it goes.

How are you? xx

harrys_nan

Hi Tay,
Just catching up with your thread again.
It's great to read how well your doing, enjoying life now. You have changed so much over the last few months and it's brilliant to read.
I wish you all the very best for the future.
harrys nan x

rockie4

Nice to hear you're feeling better Tay

I'm doing well - house sale completed :T so I've paid him off and he's disappeared!! Made it plain he wants no further contact :D but did make a point of telling me he's met a 'woman' (I feel sorry for her :rotfl:)

I've bought myself a car, some new clothes and booked a family holiday with my daughter and grandkids!! Plan to start having some holidays further afield after I retire

Still seeing my counsellor - she has really helped me come to terms with it all I have had a few 'wobbles' but nothing major.......did you get to see a counsellor yet? I highly recommend it!!

Onwards and upwards Tay :T xx

tayforth

Hello again, I'm at work today and tomorrow so thought that I should post an update.

Confession: I had a wobble last Friday There was an event on that the ex and I would have gone to with our mutual friends. But they all went to it with him. One of the 'wives' rang me to let me know, and apologised - she said that the guys had made plans to go to it among themselves. I said that she was very kind to ring me, and no need to apologise, but inside I felt really sad. I miss my old social life.

I went along anyway - a friend came with me, but she left early and I'm ashamed to say that I couldn't face staying on my own, so I went home too. And I had a good old self-pitying cry!

But the weekend picked up when I went to stay with a friend on Saturday. She lives in a different city, so I was able to relax. And it was a great weekend, we had a good laugh. AND I got chatted up by a lovely guy I reckon he was a bit younger than me, I didn't ask his age though! It was just nice to feel attractive. And yes, before you ask, we had a kiss!

Yesterday, I had my session with the life coach (I mentioned it last week), and it was great. She really made me see the 'bigger picture' and think about what I want from life. I didn't come up with any answers, but I've started thinking about it. She also said that I should write a blog about my experience. I know that some of you have said the same thing, and it's really flattering, but I'm not sure! Would I have enough interesting stuff to say? Who would read it? And could I stay anonymous???

Now I'm at work again, and getting on OK. I'm still working my way through the backlog of emails, but I'll get there.

Tomorrow evening, I'm going to meet up with an old friend whom I've known for years. We went out briefly when we were younger, but it wasn't serious and we remained good friends. It'll be good to see him again, he's a decent guy. I haven't seen him since the break-up, he heard about it and got in touch.

So that's all my news for now. How is everyone?

tayforth

harrys_nan wrote: »

Hi Tay,
Just catching up with your thread again.
It's great to read how well your doing, enjoying life now. You have changed so much over the last few months and it's brilliant to read.
I wish you all the very best for the future.
harrys nan x

Thanks so much, harrys nan. I have changed, definitely. There have been difficult times (see above), and no doubt there are more to come. But I wouldn't go back on my decision!

rockie4 wrote: »

Nice to hear you're feeling better Tay

I'm doing well - house sale completed :T so I've paid him off and he's disappeared!! Made it plain he wants no further contact :D but did make a point of telling me he's met a 'woman' (I feel sorry for her :rotfl:)

I've bought myself a car, some new clothes and booked a family holiday with my daughter and grandkids!! Plan to start having some holidays further afield after I retire

Still seeing my counsellor - she has really helped me come to terms with it all I have had a few 'wobbles' but nothing major.......did you get to see a counsellor yet? I highly recommend it!!

Onwards and upwards Tay :T xx

That's fantastic news, rockie4! I'm so chuffed for you! :beer: You're a real inspiration, do you know that?

What type of car did you buy, and where are you off to on holiday?

As for your ex, you're right - he's not your problem anymore! Pity the woman who's ended up with him lol.

No, I haven't seen a counsellor yet, but I know that I need to. I'll start in the next couple of weeks.

mintymoneysaver

Meeting up with an old friend, Tay???? I need an e mail!! P.S The cry about the event is perfectly and totally understandable, I wouldn't have stayed on my own either. I'm having the opposite problem. Mutual friends are organising a special meal and are not inviting ex. I know he will be disappointed, but also am very glad he's not going, but I am going to have to tell him about it, don't want him hearing about it from anyone else.