FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

lostinrates

tayforth wrote: »

Aw, why do you have to stay awake? Isn't it ironic that you are struggling to keep your eyes open tonight, rather than lying awake staring at the ceiling. I hope that you don't get a second wind when you do go to bed! xxx

I'll explain tomorrow.

If your light goes off now. :);)

MrsAtobe

Taps foot and crosses arms. Tayforth, log out and GO TO BED!

tayforth

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

Tayforth! Go To Bed!!!!! :cool:

lostinrates wrote: »

I'll explain tomorrow.

If your light goes off now. :);)

MrsAtobe wrote: »

Taps foot and crosses arms. Tayforth, log out and GO TO BED!

Lol!!! Caught out! OK, OK, I'll log off right now.

Promise.

tayforth

Jeez, Daisy, one minute past ten, you're on the ball! :rotfl:

MrsAtobe

You're still green Tay, tap tap tap

Yorkie1

Still green now, too ... !!!

tayforth

I've been lying in bed, eyes clenched shut, doing my go-to-sleep techniques, and they're not working! So I decide to sneak a look at this thread to distract me for a few minutes


FYI, I'm permanently logged in on my phone, so my green light is always on. But I promise that I have been bed since 11pm.


I'm off to try again now. Night night xx

ceebeeby

Lol, I saw your green light and thought you were awake!!! It's 02.00, perfect time for insomniacs to check mse!!

lostinrates

tayforth wrote: »

I've been lying in bed, eyes clenched shut, doing my go-to-sleep techniques, and they're not working! So I decide to sneak a look at this thread to distract me for a few minutes


FYI, I'm permanently logged in on my phone, so my green light is always on. But I promise that I have been bed since 11pm.


I'm off to try again now. Night night xx

When you logged on you gave your mind an out from relaxing. Try not to while you tackle this and do your (serious voice on) sleep training and get into good habits for you.

If you are living there eyes clenched shut that sounds pretty stressful to me. Certainly not 'giving yourself permission NOT to sleep but just to rest your body'. When your body is relaxed enough and the room is quiet and warm, and comfortable you'll find your eyes might get heavy and want to spend more time closed than open.

Or if you are visualising or meditating of course your eyes will restfully and naturally be closed to block out visual interruption.

Personally, I think if you cannot turn your phone off you should leave it outside your room. Down stairs, if you live in a normal house, or somewhere in a living room if you live in a flat. It's a form of stimulation, a hope for distraction.....and of someone does send an unnecessary email or text then its something to divert you for a minute...which brings you back to not far from zero on the mind stimulation stakes. If its in another room and rings because of an emergency you will wake when you here it and can attend to it,:)

I've dithered while typing over making the comparison because doubtless some will find it offensive but For those of us familiar with struggling to sleep and a destruction e relationship I think the similarities are interesting .., avoidance rather than tackling works, but only to our detriment. We can be ruled by it or take control, some of these changes are life impacting and uncomfortable and even stressful (I know for many the idea of leaving a phone out of the room for example is scary) but not making the changes can leave us hostage to the whim of the insomnia!


Have you decided on a rising time for the morning tayforth? Getting up at the right time is important in preparation for the the nights sleep, because you will find it harder to sleep at say eleven, if one only rose fourteen hours before that.


Edit...oh...and a ore sleep routine....maybe establish that, for me the walk around last thing at night, checking animals and making sure all the curtains and shutters are shut, the wondows that need to be closed are closed, and the doors locked, has become the first stage of my bedtime routine, When I start to mark the difference between staying awake and not staying awake, a warm sleep inducing bath, not hot, not cold, then gentle pampering, using body moisturiser (even use scents like lavender and chamomile if it helps), and doing your face. I actually have a perfume I wear to bed because I love it but its not very 'sophisticated'. The smell of it makes me think of happy times in childhood and early teens when I felt very free and cared for and its relaxing to me, though not typically relaxing, so I often have a squirt of that before bed to set the mood for sleep.

A cooler room is better for sleep (science shows) but hard when trying to and failing. For me the best solution is a cool room ( easy here) and a warm bed....I love my electric blanket in winter, and my cats and a hot water bottle on too cool but not electric blanket cold nights.

It sounds like a lot of thought and effort, its not really, its more 'mindful' choices once routine is established. Establishing is hard. And of course I fall off the wagon, its allowed to get it wrong, or to break my own 'rules'. Because we are our own mistresses.

jackieblack

tayforth wrote: »

FYI, I'm permanently logged in on my phone, so my green light is always on.

:think:
Really?
Because it's red right now:D