FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

danandjens_worldtravels wrote: »

Hi Tay, been supporting you from a distance all this time, but maybe I can now be helpful

With regards to the car, tell him you'll assume he sells it at the book price (look on parkers or autotrader and see what similar is going for), deduct half the deposit and take the balance. He could keep the 'its not selling' line going for ages and as a form of communication. His other option is to return the car to you, and you will sell it. Give him a choice so he feels in control (but give him a very limited choice of the only options you will accept )

Get your landlord to return the deposit asap, and set up a new one in your name only.

The quicker he is gone the better! Hope 'the text friend' isn't Sam :eek:

Thanks so much for your help I hadn't thought of the book price, good idea.

And an excellent point re the 'car not selling' line. :eek:

Oh, the text friend wasn't Sam! Mind you, I've given up on that, I know that it'll never happen and I'm fine about it. If I do ever find someone else, I'll try to cast my net a bit wider lol.

Peanut2013

Hi Tay, just wanted to say hi and see how things are going

I hear ya about the wanting to stop contact, I can't wait for that moment. A complete new fresh start Me and the OH had our engagement party this weekend and it felt so great to be moving on with our lives!

With regards to the new mobile number, takes a bit of getting used to but I'd say once the divorce is done go for it

tayforth

L

Peanut2013 wrote: »

Hi Tay, just wanted to say hi and see how things are going

I hear ya about the wanting to stop contact, I can't wait for that moment. A complete new fresh start Me and the OH had our engagement party this weekend and it felt so great to be moving on with our lives!

With regards to the new mobile number, takes a bit of getting used to but I'd say once the divorce is done go for it

Oh, how nice to hear from you Peanut And how did the party go? I'm sure that you're so excited!!! You've always given me hope that I'll be all right on my own, and it's great to hear how well you're doing. :beer:

I'll think about changing my number, but if the ex is determined to harass me, he'll find a way And part of me thinks 'why should I change my number?'

Ho hum,

jenhug

you could look into a no contact order and shouldn't he be requesting the deposit back from the landlord?

jenhug

All I would say to his friend is "Sorry Mr Tayforth has tried to drag you into our business" and leave it at that. You don't want to get into a 3 way slanging match.

tayforth

jenhug wrote: »

you could look into a no contact order and shouldn't he be requesting the deposit back from the landlord?

I might look into that. I don't want to antagonise him, but it's not on for him to be harassing me for a couple of hundred quid when he's taken our bl00dy car.

Re the deposit, I'm not sure what the correct procedure is. Either way, I want an inspection before that happens.

jenhug wrote: »

All I would say to his friend is "Sorry Mr Tayforth has tried to drag you into our business" and leave it at that. You don't want to get into a 3 way slanging match.

That's exactly what I said. I phoned him a couple of hours ago - I said that it was wrong of Ex to ask him to contact me, and that I would sort it out 'in due course'. I felt sorry for the guy. He seemed embarrassed (I'm not surprised!!!) and said that he hoped that I was ok.

How horrid of him to do that to his friend. I didn't send MY friends round to him about the car!!!!!!

tayforth

I'm pretty annoyed about it all.

LannieDuck

Have you worked out the difference between the value of half the deposit and half the value of the car?

paulineb_2

tayforth wrote: »

Truthfully, I would like to just ignore him altogether. I've blocked him on FB. He doesn't know my Twitter username. I could change my mobile number, although I'd really hate to do that, I've had it for years.

But even if I do change my number, he might harass me by other means - email, phoning me at work (when I return), or even turning up at the house.

And I don't want that.

I'm not sure what to do.

You can block an email address easily

You can buy a cheap PAYG phone and turn your other one off for a while

And if he turns up at the house you arent under any obligation to let him in

And yes, blanking him might be an easier option all round but when you officially separate, or get an annulment or divorce theres going to have to be some communication even though lawyers.

Im afraid hes not going to disappear in a puff of smoke but he shouldnt be harassing you either.

tayforth

paulineb wrote: »

You can block an email address easily

You can buy a cheap PAYG phone and turn your other one off for a while

And if he turns up at the house you arent under any obligation to let him in

And yes, blanking him might be an easier option all round but when you officially separate, or get an annulment or divorce theres going to have to be some communication even though lawyers.

Im afraid hes not going to disappear in a puff of smoke but he shouldnt be harassing you either.

Thanks, Pauline. I'll have to work something out, better to do that and then I can just draw a line under it all xx

LannieDuck wrote: »

Have you worked out the difference between the value of half the deposit and half the value of the car?

Oh yeah - it's about £700-800 in my favour!! Which is why I can't work out why he hasn't just cut and run.

There are a few other smaller assets on both sides which may be brought into the equation, but I'll still come out of it better off. So if that's what he wants...