FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

Yorkie1 wrote: »

Although it is a huge thing for you, it may well not be a huge thing in his life at all, and he may not have you in mind whatsoever in his choice of town to move to.

He was not found out about the abuse at the time, and therefore it's way in his past (I'm not saying it should be for you). I very much doubt that he is now intending to pursue you for any reason at all.

I recognise that this is really unsettling for you, and as someone else posted, you are completely entitled to feel that way, but please try to be reassured about what is likely to be the reality for him now.

PS Glad it went well with your sister.

I'm not suggesting that he chose to move to where I now live in order to pursue me, or contact me.


But I'd always assumed that he remembers what he did, so surely he would want to avoid me? Even assuming that he thinks that I've forgotten about it, there'd be the risk that seeing him again would remind me.


It hadn't occurred to me that he'd have forgotten about it.


Oh, I don't know.

ceebeeby wrote: »

Hugs Tay xxxx

Thanks ceebeeby. How are you doing? You've been in my thoughts xxx

Alpha58

Just as a thought - Tayforth, have you thought about running this one past your helpful friends at the Samaritans? They can probably offer some balanced views on possible courses of action. There are many useful suggestions on here but a "definitive" view on the options for the way forward may be useful.

Pleased to hear that your family all know about your change in circumstances and have been so supportive. Onwards and upwards!

tayforth

Alpha58 wrote: »

Just as a thought - Tayforth, have you thought about running this one past your helpful friends at the Samaritans? They can probably offer some balanced views on possible courses of action. There are many useful suggestions on here but a "definitive" view on the options for the way forward may be useful.

Pleased to hear that your family all know about your change in circumstances and have been so supportive. Onwards and upwards!

Thanks, Alpha58. I might do that. They have been incredible, and I'm sure that it would help to speak to them. Plus they're always available, no appointment needed.


Onwards and upwards indeed I hope that you are well.

tayforth

Hello everyone.

My rash seems to be improving a little. The itching is still pretty bad, I've been scratching loads, naughty me and I haven't been sleeping too well. But at least I can sleep late if I need to.

My sister is back to work today, poor thing. Mum and I waved her off this morning.

How are you all today?

Alpha58

tayforth wrote: »

How are you all today?

Triffic. Just solved a crisis at work, wetting myself laughing at the posts on the Nasty Birthday Presents thread and I'm going home on Thursday night so three sleeps to go to family time (not counting an overnight on a lumpy aircraft seat)!

nerak_y

Hiya Tayforth!
Just wanted to pop on and see how you are getting on, I have been doing my kitchen (thankfully now complete) and my bedroom is mid change, the whole flat has been under transformation following my psycho ex and it really feels like it's back to being a girly place :-)

I'm so sorry to hear about your latest development, but something tells me this has occurred just now for a reason. With your recently discovered strength, time away from work and your families support it was perhaps 'time' to deal with these old wounds in a way. Even if you decide to do nothing legal about it, you will hopefully be able to mentally close the door on another nasty man from your past and this in turn will help you move forward.

Massive hugs to you, I think you are doing fantastic and are a real inspiration to many people! xx

tayforth

Alpha58 wrote: »

Triffic. Just solved a crisis at work, wetting myself laughing at the posts on the Nasty Birthday Presents thread and I'm going home on Thursday night so three sleeps to go to family time (not counting an overnight on a lumpy aircraft seat)!

That thread is so brilliant, thanks for starting it!

Glad to hear that you're soon going to be getting home to see your family How long will you be home for?

nerak_y wrote: »

Hiya Tayforth!
Just wanted to pop on and see how you are getting on, I have been doing my kitchen (thankfully now complete) and my bedroom is mid change, the whole flat has been under transformation following my psycho ex and it really feels like it's back to being a girly place :-)

I'm so sorry to hear about your latest development, but something tells me this has occurred just now for a reason. With your recently discovered strength, time away from work and your families support it was perhaps 'time' to deal with these old wounds in a way. Even if you decide to do nothing legal about it, you will hopefully be able to mentally close the door on another nasty man from your past and this in turn will help you move forward.

Massive hugs to you, I think you are doing fantastic and are a real inspiration to many people! xx

Hi nerak_y, lovely to hear from you It's wonderful that you're transforming your flat and putting your own stamp on it. I haven't got as much scope to do the same as I rent, but I have made some changes and you're right - it does help.

Thank you for the kind words. Being off work is helping me to relax and get a bit more sleep, so I'm sure that that will help. Still not sure what to do. I've put it to the back of my mind over the last few days, which is probably not healthy, but I will deal with it when I'm ready xxx

Alpha58

tayforth wrote: »

Glad to hear that you're soon going to be getting home to see your family How long will you be home for?

Two weeks! Yay!

rockie4

Hi Tayforth,

Just popped on to say I'm getting organised for my move, get the keys a week on Monday :eek:
Went out and bought some nice new pink, girly bedding and cushions - I might be living with just the basics when I move but I can make it look like 'mine'
Oh, and as a bonus STBexOH has got himself a job!! Amazing what a bit of pressure can do He has said he will help towards the bills while he is still living in the house which will help me, he's being a bit ars*y about the car now but I can cope with that....I need to keep things as amicable as I can until the house is sold

So not long to go now before freedom and my new life:T

Glad to hear that your family are being supportive Hope your rash clears up soon!

ceebeeby

Good for you Rockie! Happy packing x