FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

margaretclare

Ooops. I have a funny rash on my face too. Keeps coming and going - all the docs I've seen in the past 2-3 weeks can't explain it. Immune system - that's a thought. Although I live a fairly healthy life, eat healthy etc, I had the recent breast reduction surgery so maybe my immune system hasn't yet recovered from the shock of that, and the healing process. I saw yet another doc yesterday and she has given me more prednisolone tablets. Next step, if it doesn't go away, would be a 'skin doctor' - a dermatologist.

jackieblack

Tayforth, I don't have any advice but wanted to say how sorry I am that you've had this shocking news when you were feeling so positive about your new situation.

tayforth

margaretclare wrote: »

Ooops. I have a funny rash on my face too. Keeps coming and going - all the docs I've seen in the past 2-3 weeks can't explain it. Immune system - that's a thought. Although I live a fairly healthy life, eat healthy etc, I had the recent breast reduction surgery so maybe my immune system hasn't yet recovered from the shock of that, and the healing process. I saw yet another doc yesterday and she has given me more prednisolone tablets. Next step, if it doesn't go away, would be a 'skin doctor' - a dermatologist.

Yes, your recent surgery could be a factor, definitely.

My mum had suggested that it may be psoriasis, and I was terrified that it was, but the doctor says that it's not. Thank God.

I hope that your rash clears up soon xxx

jackieblack wrote: »

Tayforth, I don't have any advice but wanted to say how sorry I am that you've had this shocking news when you were feeling so positive about your new situation.

Thank you, Jackie. It has come as a big shock, but I am going to try not to think about it for now. I've had a referral for counselling so I'll go to that and hopefully it will help. I don't want to live in fear.

spirit

tayforth wrote: »

Just back from the doctor (different one again). Also had to have blood tests.

She's given me more stuff for the rash. I'm laden with creams, shampoos and tablets.

I was trying to be calm but broke down again and told her about my abuser. She said that I should think about seeking a transfer to another office if he works so close to my current one, and signed me off for another 2 weeks. She said that I need a rest anyway, the rash is a sign that my immune system is very weak at the minute.

My view would be why the bl00dy hell should you. I don't think that running away from him will help long term. If you could have counselling/CBT to enable you to deal with not run from the perceived threat from him.

I'm boogered if I'd let some low life force me to move office - unless I particularly wanted to that is.

big ((((hugs))))

tayforth

spirit wrote: »

My view would be why the bl00dy hell should you. I don't think that running away from him will help long term. If you could have counselling/CBT to enable you to deal with not run from the perceived threat from him.

I'm boogered if I'd let some low life force me to move office - unless I particularly wanted to that is.

big ((((hugs))))

I don't want to. I like where I work, and I like my colleagues.

Thank you for the hugs xx

duchy

Tay - you are NOT the person you were 15 years ago -Heck you're not even the person you were a month ago !!!

The child you were then may feel scared or intimidated by this man -the adult you are now is more than a match for him -and also has the power to report him if you choose. You may never encounter him .....or you can equip yourself with the tools you need to deal with him if you do. A look of disgust and the phrase"-If I ever see you again I am going to the police to reopen the case" (he doesn't know you've never made a report of any kind) . He has FAR more to lose than you do.

Keeping_Motivated

duchy wrote: »

Tay - you are NOT the person you were 15 years ago -Heck you're not even the person you were a month ago !!!

The child you were then may feel scared or intimidated by this man -the adult you are now is more than a match for him -and also has the power to report him if you choose. You may never encounter him .....or you can equip yourself with the tools you need to deal with him if you do. A look of disgust and the phrase"-If I ever see you again I am going to the police to reopen the case" (he doesn't know you've never made a report of any kind) . He has FAR more to lose than you do.

I totally agree with this. You are now an adult not a child and your feelings are from that little girl who had no control and lost all power but if you bring it back to the here and now you actually have the power and he has more to be afraid of from you than you have from him. You now have the power and control once you can work through this. He will be living in fear of being around you, you remembering, you reporting etc etc

rockie4

I agree with the others, you are a much stronger person than you were - do not let this man get you down! You have shown your inner strength with what you have been through in the last month so as my mum would say ' deep breath, stick your chest out and come out fighting'

On a personal note from me.....I've been and gone and done it :eek: I get the keys to the flat on the 10th June and can move in on the 17th:) scared, apprehensive but strangely excited now

scaredy_cat

contact your works HR about the EAP scheme now, it might take a week or so for an appt with a counsellor to be made.

swampduck

On the subject of your itchy rash - have you considered putting Bicarbonate of soda in your bath? It was suggested I try this when my kids had chicken pox many years ago. You can even make it up into a paste to put on to the rash directly.
As an exzema sufferer I know how the itching can drive you insane and once the doctors' potions and creams had done their job - I began to use Bodyshops' Coconut Body Butter. This, as well as having natural goodies in with natural healing propensities has finally soothed the flare ups that I used to have.

..... and chin up! You are doing brilliantly well with dealing with your new life!

Swampy