FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

You know those mittens that newborn babies wear to prevent them scratching themselves?

Can you get them in adult sizes? :rotfl:





p.s. check out my new sig

vandanfc

Have you tried a mild vinegar solution on it ? Preferably white vinegar, cos then you won't smell like fish and chips.

tayforth

vandanfc wrote: »

Have you tried a mild vinegar solution on it ? Preferably white vinegar, cos then you won't smell like fish and chips.

:rotfl: I haven't yet, but thanks for the tip. I might try it. Am going to have a bath soon, will see what I can put in it. Maybe salt (it helped before). Or Epsom Salts? Or oil?

zzzLazyDaisy

tayforth wrote: »

The solicitor I was due to see tomorrow phoned me to say that he quoted me £50 in error for making a will... it's actually £180!!!!

£50 is a ridiculous price, what was he thinking of? Even with templates in the computer, there is a good three hours work by the time he has read your instructions, talked you through the legalities, had the will drawn up (ok the secretary will do most of that, but he still has to check it), and then had you back in to sign it (or send it out to you with detailed instructions on the procedure for signing). £180 + VAT is much closer to the mark, and even then he'll be doing it at much lower than his normal hourly rate, because it is more normal to have a set charge than an hourly rate for wills.

I don't blame you for not trusting him after that, he obviously doesn't know what he is doing (possibly a trainee?).

But PLEASE don't let that put you off having a will made. Have another phone round, or ask around your friends and family to see if they can recommend someone. If you don't mind giving a rough idea of your general geography, it is possible that someone on here may know a solicitor who has done a good job for them.

Either way, you are looking at around £200 including VAT

mysk_girl

Try oatmeal in the bath - porridge oats, good handful or 2 in a clean sock, and let it steep in water as hot as you can stand. It's great for chickenpox itching, might work for you...

jackieblack

vandanfc wrote: »

Have you tried a mild vinegar solution on it ? Preferably white vinegar, cos then you won't smell like fish and chips.

tayforth wrote: »

:rotfl: I haven't yet, but thanks for the tip. I might try it. Am going to have a bath soon, will see what I can put in it. Maybe salt (it helped before).

Are you sure about using salt & vinegar?! :rotfl:

jackieblack

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

tayforth wrote: »

You know those mittens that newborn babies wear to prevent them scratching themselves?

Can you get them in adult sizes? :rotfl:

You could try oven mitts like Phoebe and her boyfriend (in Friends) when they had chicken pox :rotfl:

Love the new sig

When_the_going_gets_tough

Hi Tayforth, I have registered specially to comment on the brave journey that you are taking. Like others I have only admiration for you. Two small things that might help:
I had a rash similar to yours - it took several visits to the doctors and a number of prescriptions before it was sorted - I think they prescribed steroids in the end - but am not giving medical advice , just persevere!
Second, when my children went to uni I gave them goody bags with all sorts of useful and funny things in , including a small IKEA toolkit. No - one else had access even to a screwdriver and they all used them and can all assemble flat pack furniture and sort out minor problems themselves. The point of this is that if there are areas in your life where you don't feel that competent or experienced, learning how to do things for yourself is very good for your morale and confidence. You seem very able and willing to move forward with your life and I wish you all the best for your future. x

tayforth

I got off the phone to my mum a while ago. Sis and BIL are home.

In passing, she mentioned that a family friend has moved and started working in the city I work in. Their new workplace is 5 minutes from my office building. This city is almost 2 hours from my hometown.

Who is this person? Why, none other than my childhood abuser.

I'm horrified. And I feel sick.

tayforth

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

£50 is a ridiculous price, what was he thinking of? Even with templates in the computer, there is a good three hours work by the time he has read your instructions, talked you through the legalities, had the will drawn up (ok the secretary will do most of that, but he still has to check it), and then had you back in to sign it (or send it out to you with detailed instructions on the procedure for signing). £180 + VAT is much closer to the mark, and even then he'll be doing it at much lower than his normal hourly rate, because it is more normal to have a set charge than an hourly rate for wills.

I don't blame you for not trusting him after that, he obviously doesn't know what he is doing (possibly a trainee?).

But PLEASE don't let that put you off having a will made. Have another phone round, or ask around your friends and family to see if they can recommend someone. If you don't mind giving a rough idea of your general geography, it is possible that someone on here may know a solicitor who has done a good job for them.

Either way, you are looking at around £200 including VAT

Thank you, Daisy. I will still make a will, I promise xx

When_the_going_gets_tough wrote: »

Hi Tayforth, I have registered specially to comment on the brave journey that you are taking. Like others I have only admiration for you. Two small things that might help:
I had a rash similar to yours - it took several visits to the doctors and a number of prescriptions before it was sorted - I think they prescribed steroids in the end - but am not giving medical advice , just persevere!
Second, when my children went to uni I gave them goody bags with all sorts of useful and funny things in , including a small IKEA toolkit. No - one else had access even to a screwdriver and they all used them and can all assemble flat pack furniture and sort out minor problems themselves. The point of this is that if there are areas in your life where you don't feel that competent or experienced, learning how to do things for yourself is very good for your morale and confidence. You seem very able and willing to move forward with your life and I wish you all the best for your future. x

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your post and your kind words. That was nice of you to give your children tools, what a considerate thing to do, and I'm sure that it helped them to do stuff for themselves xxx