FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

Alpha58 wrote: »

Two weeks! Yay!

How wonderful! I hope that you and your family have a fantastic time, and I hope that the weather is good to you

rockie4 wrote: »

Hi Tayforth,

Just popped on to say I'm getting organised for my move, get the keys a week on Monday :eek:
Went out and bought some nice new pink, girly bedding and cushions - I might be living with just the basics when I move but I can make it look like 'mine'
Oh, and as a bonus STBexOH has got himself a job!! Amazing what a bit of pressure can do He has said he will help towards the bills while he is still living in the house which will help me, he's being a bit ars*y about the car now but I can cope with that....I need to keep things as amicable as I can until the house is sold

So not long to go now before freedom and my new life:T

Glad to hear that your family are being supportive Hope your rash clears up soon!

Oh wow, amazing progress rockie4! I'm thrilled for you And it's lovely to be able to make the place your own, because it's yours and nobody else's. What a wonderful new start for you.

Wow, your STBX is getting his a.r.s.e. into gear, isn't he? As you say, amazing what a bit of pressure can do!

The rash is still there, it's clearing slightly but still soooo itchy. I'm still at my mum's and glad to be able to rest.

ceebeeby wrote: »

Good for you Rockie! Happy packing x

Hello ceebeeby, how are you doing? xx

neneromanova

It looks like you are very happy with everything Tay I'm so glad for you. Can I just ask you pop into teawithmilk's thread and give her some advice. She's in the same situation as you were before you left your "wonderful" partner. Think she could use your experience. That's if you're ok to help

tayforth

neneromanova wrote: »

It looks like you are very happy with everything Tay I'm so glad for you. Can I just ask you pop into teawithmilk's thread and give her some advice. She's in the same situation as you were before you left your "wonderful" partner. Think she could use your experience. That's if you're ok to help

I've been following her thread, and have actually just posted on it Thanks for thinking of me, I hope that I can help her xx

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Rant alert!!!

The ex has been hassling me via text (and even via one his friends, how low can you get) wanting his share of the rental deposit back. Eh, !!!!!!! A couple of hundred quid versus our car??? Which he conveniently didn't mention.

Jog on.

paulineb_2

Well perhaps you need to text him back and say he can have the share of the deposit back when the car is sold and you split the proceeds.

And make it clear to his friend that its nothing to do with him and not to text you.

neneromanova

I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of replying. Just ignore him imagine him seething when you don't

tayforth

paulineb wrote: »

Well perhaps you need to text him back and say he can have the share of the deposit back when the car is sold and you split the proceeds.

And make it clear to his friend that its nothing to do with him and not to text you.

That's exactly what I'm going to say to his friend.

As for the ex, I don't want any contact at all, but I'm going to have to come to some sort of arrangement to stop him hassling me. Any suggestions welcome.

Is it bad that I wouldn't even trust him to tell me how much he sells the car for? I have visions of him selling it for £2k and telling me that it went for £1k and giving me £500! And I'd have no way of finding out (if it's a private sale).

paulineb_2

tayforth wrote: »

That's exactly what I'm going to say to his friend.

As for the ex, I don't want any contact at all, but I'm going to have to come to some sort of arrangement to stop him hassling me. Any suggestions welcome.

Is it bad that I wouldn't even trust him to tell me how much he sells the car for? I have visions of him selling it for £2k and telling me that it went for £1k and giving me £500! And I'd have no way of finding out (if it's a private sale).

Well dare I say it, change your number, you can block a phone number but you cant stop them sending you texts

Its the only way you will get peace

I think you should get some legal advice, because its possible he is entitled to half of the deposit back and you will be entitled to half the cars value, if Im wrong someone legal can let you know

tayforth

paulineb wrote: »

Well dare I say it, change your number, you can block a phone number but you cant stop them sending you texts

Its the only way you will get peace

I think you should get some legal advice, because its possible he is entitled to half of the deposit back and you will be entitled to half the cars value, if Im wrong someone legal can let you know

He is entitled to half the deposit back, BUT he never even mentioned the car. The cheek. No way is he getting a penny until that's sorted out.

And on the subject of the deposit, I won't be returning any of it until the LL does an inspection. IMHO, any deductions at this point should be paid equally by both of us, with any further damage being solely my responsibility. Is that fair?

tayforth

Truthfully, I would like to just ignore him altogether. I've blocked him on FB. He doesn't know my Twitter username. I could change my mobile number, although I'd really hate to do that, I've had it for years.

But even if I do change my number, he might harass me by other means - email, phoning me at work (when I return), or even turning up at the house.

And I don't want that.

I'm not sure what to do.

danandjens_worldtravels

Hi Tay, been supporting you from a distance all this time, but maybe I can now be helpful

With regards to the car, tell him you'll assume he sells it at the book price (look on parkers or autotrader and see what similar is going for), deduct half the deposit and take the balance. He could keep the 'its not selling' line going for ages and as a form of communication. His other option is to return the car to you, and you will sell it. Give him a choice so he feels in control (but give him a very limited choice of the only options you will accept )

Get your landlord to return the deposit asap, and set up a new one in your name only.

The quicker he is gone the better! Hope 'the text friend' isn't Sam :eek: