FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

busiscoming2

You say your youngest idolises him but she is old enough to see what he is really like even if she loves him unconditionally. Do you ever speak about him to her and see how she really feels? You may be surprised.

tayforth

Thank you all so much for your kind words. I can't do individual replies as I'm on my phone, but I've read them all.

You were right. Mum was amazing. As soon as we got to the house, I said, "I have some good news for you - 'OH' and I have split up." And she said that she was relieved!!! She didn't really feel comfortable around him, and didn't like the way that he spoke to me. So his mask must have slipped a few times.


Anyway, I said that I was relieved too, and much happier without him, and then we had a big hug. She suggested that we go for some pub grub to celebrate! So off we went.


I told her the whole story of the last few weeks - the holiday, the Samaritans, telling my aunt, trying to decide what to do about the wedding, telling my ex that it was over, the car debacle, everything. I said that I had decided to keep it quiet so as not to overshadow the wedding, and I was glad that I did.


She did ask why I hadn't told her before . I explained about the wedding, and said that she and my sister and BIL deserved a lovely day with no worries or anything taking the shine off it. And that I had had a far better time without him, that my enjoyment was genuine.


She said that I could have told her and she would have kept it from my sister. But I said no, that it was hard enough for me to lie to everyone, I wouldn't have asked her to do the same. She hates lying even more than I do and I wouldn't have put her in that position. And she said that she understood.


We came home and chatted some more, and she seemed content that I'm happy with my decision. We both went off to bed in a good mood.


I'm going to stay here until just before my sis and BIL get back from honeymoon (next week). Then I'll go back to my house for a couple of days, just to give them a chance to get settled in. Then I'll come home next weekend and tell them the truth.


We're going to tell a few trusted friends and neighbours in the meantime but we'll ask them not to broadcast it as Sis is not to know until she gets home. After that, I want the world to know! I'll take out an ad in the newspapers

thehappybutterfly

excellent Tay! Another hurdle overcome. Well done x

mcja

Whoop Whoop!! All done now. Sit back and enjoy.xx

swampduck

See?!! You were worrying for nothing!
Your nearest and dearest will always want your happiness and well-being at the fore front of everything.
It will get easier as you tell more people and you will probably find it to be a really enlightening period of your life. I know I did when I split from my husband after 19 years of marriage and that was 11 years ago. At least you got out as soon as you realised things were not right for you. Onwards and upwards!!:T

Swampy

busiscoming2

busiscoming2 wrote: »

You say your youngest idolises him but she is old enough to see what he is really like even if she loves him unconditionally. Do you ever speak about him to her and see how she really feels? You may be surprised.

Apologies. I meant to write this on Ceebeebys thread! Don't know quite how I posted it on here :eek:

busiscoming2

Tayforth, I bet the relief you feel is immense

So your mum did have an inkling then. Mums usually have a nose for such things.

Enjoy your break with your mum x

Brighton_belle

:D:D

Have a wonderful week.

summerof0763

well done, I bet you felt immense releif when you told your mum.
you will still have up and down days, but am sure you will be happier in the long run.
take time for yourself, pamper and spoil yourself and make sure you get plenty of rest.
now the world is your oyster xxx

harrys_nan

So pleased for you tay x