FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

nerak_y wrote: »

Hiya Tayforth!
So pleased to hear you had a fab time at the wedding. I've not had time to read through the last 5 pages as yet but it crossed my mind that perhaps your family will not be too surprised about the break for freedom. If they are then you have given them the perfect evidenceat the wedding weekend that you are far happier without ex! Big hugs!!
xx

Good point, and I hope that they will see that I was happier and enjoyed the wedding far more without him. And maybe they won't be too surprised, as you say.

Still have to wait until my sis gets back from honeymoon to tell her and BIL. But telling Mum will be the first big step.

jenhug wrote: »

Good luck Tay, I will be thinking of you. Once your mum knows, the healing will really start. x

Thanks, jenhug :A xxx

nerak_y wrote: »

So funny! I am going to see The View this weekend, Bread & Circus's was a fabulous album although the recent one just didn't grab me in the same way!

Oh and nice post :-) xx

I really liked that song, KYL - the line you quoted made me smile

rockie4

Good Luck with telling your Mum I'm sure she'll be fine and after seeing you so happy at the wedding last weekend she might have guessed there is something in the offing.....we're pretty intuitive us mums

duckeggblue

Best wishes. Do you like my new sig?

Peanut2013

Rockie : They do don't they! Mine admits now she knew something major was up weeks before I told them.

She also knew when I met someone new, as I 'perked up' lol

marisco_2

Thinking of you and hoping you will be okay when you break the news to your mum this weekend.

Orlando_Virgin

I'm off work now for the weekend Tay, but just wanted to say best of luck with your Mum, who I know will fully understand anyway! You'll be in my thoughts. :A x

tayforth

Thank you all so much for your kind words and encouragement. I slept OK last night, but it's been on my mind constantly. At least the wait is over, I'm relieved.

rockie4 - I think that you may be right. She hasn't mentioned 'OH' all week and I've spoken to her on the phone every day. Normally she'd be asking how he is. We'll have to see.

duckeggblue - I love your new sig, how inspirational!!!

Alpha58

tayforth wrote: »

She hasn't mentioned 'OH' all week and I've spoken to her on the phone every day. Normally she'd be asking how he is. We'll have to see.

Pound to a penny she has worked it out. Mums have a special radar that allows them to see these things and I would guess that she is waiting for you to broach the subject. What does that mean? I would suspect that she has all the emotional and physical support (i.e. lots of hugs and tissues) ready for you. If you and your mum are at all alike, she has her head screwed on the right way as well so although you will no doubt find it hard to broach, she will be ready, waiting and prepared.

This is one of the harder hurdles and I have no doubt at all that you will feel 200% better for having it off your chest. Bonne courage!

tayforth

Alpha58 wrote: »

Pound to a penny she has worked it out. Mums have a special radar that allows them to see these things and I would guess that she is waiting for you to broach the subject. What does that mean? I would suspect that she has all the emotional and physical support (i.e. lots of hugs and tissues) ready for you. If you and your mum are at all alike, she has her head screwed on the right way as well so although you will no doubt find it hard to broach, she will be ready, waiting and prepared.

This is one of the harder hurdles and I have no doubt at all that you will feel 200% better for having it off your chest. Bonne courage!

Thank you. I'm not sure how I feel about the possibility that she knows or suspects... I've been working on the assumption that she won't have a clue until I tell her.

It's going to be emotional, regardless. Not because of the split - like I said, I did my grieving for the relationship while I was still in it. More because of the last few weeks and me having to lie to protect them all. That's what's been playing on my mind and upsetting me. My family. Not my ex.

Alpha58

tayforth wrote: »

I'm not sure how I feel about the possibility that she knows or suspects... I've been working on the assumption that she won't have a clue until I tell her.

It doesn't really matter whether she knows or not. Your mum's focus will be on you and your well-being and happiness. I am willing to bet that they will understand why you put this off until after the wedding and that they will be touched by your thoughtfulness in not wanting to take attention away from your sister's big day.

Really, really sorry if I troubled you with that suggestion - I didn't mean to alarm!