FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

mcja wrote: »

Tay, you just made me cry.xx slightly weird t be so proud of someone on line, but a great big WELL BL00DY DONE!!

It's not weird at all, or else I'm weird too for being so grateful to you all that I couldn't wait to post my update today!!! You're all lovely. :A

p.s. thank you xx

spirit

mcja wrote: »

Tay, you just made me cry.xx slightly weird t be so proud of someone on line, but a great big WELL BL00DY DONE!!

Glad it's not just me!

rockie4

tayforth wrote: »

Lovely morning. I did a bit of charity shop browsing - got a lovely New Look tea dress for £4, a Cath Kidston bag for £10 and a beautiful vintage oil lamp for £3!

Then I did a neighbour a good turn Now I'm back for a quick lunch. I've just hung out the wash I put on this morning and have another one on! I'm going to the park in a minute with a book to relax for the afternoon I'll have my phone with me too, so will be on MSE, fear not






Thanks very much, you two :A xxxx



Oh, good for you! It has a nice ring to it, doesn't it? :j

How are you getting on? I love your 'Freedom Moments', what an apt phrase, and I'm glad that you're accepting invitations. The only way is up xxx

You sound like your having a fab day better than being stuck in work

I'm feeling really positive now, OH seems to have fully accepted the situation - I think the 'for sale' board brought the reality home for him. It's still a bit awkward living in the same house but we're making the best of it for now. It has it's uses, he took the car for it's MOT this morning :eek: but has just told me it has passed with one or 2 minor repairs and it's saved me taking a day off work (need to save my hols for when I move!!) and he's done more cleaning in the last 3 weeks than he's done in the last 3 years :rotfl:
I'm itching to get moving now, really hope I sell soon so that I can get into my new self-contained lifestyle. I bumped into my ex boss and her daughter yesterday (she knew about the early years when OH was at his worst) and when I told them they both gave me a big hug and said they were pleased I'd made the decision to move on and that it was the right thing to do

Onwards and upwards is the only way to go :T

rockie4

spirit wrote: »

Glad it's not just me!

*passes the tissues* Me too

tayforth

rockie4 wrote: »

You sound like your having a fab day better than being stuck in work

I'm feeling really positive now, OH seems to have fully accepted the situation - I think the 'for sale' board brought the reality home for him. It's still a bit awkward living in the same house but we're making the best of it for now. It has it's uses, he took the car for it's MOT this morning :eek: but has just told me it has passed with one or 2 minor repairs and it's saved me taking a day off work (need to save my hols for when I move!!) and he's done more cleaning in the last 3 weeks than he's done in the last 3 years :rotfl:
I'm itching to get moving now, really hope I sell soon so that I can get into my new self-contained lifestyle. I bumped into my ex boss and her daughter yesterday (she knew about the early years when OH was at his worst) and when I told them they both gave me a big hug and said they were pleased I'd made the decision to move on and that it was the right thing to do

Onwards and upwards is the only way to go :T

Aw, that's really lovely. Have you told many people? I'm from quite a small town, so once my mum tells a few of the neighbours she can just sit back and let the grapevine do the rest :rotfl:


I'm so glad that the doctor signed me off. I'm exhausted as it is, I can't imagine how I'd feel if I had to get up and go to work as well. For once in my life I'm saying that enough's enough. I need a rest. And I suspect that you do too xxx

spirit wrote: »

Glad it's not just me!

rockie4 wrote: »

*passes the tissues* Me too

You'll start me off again too!

Molly41

Dont be shy asking for more time off sick if you need it x

claretsgirl

Tayforth, my username relates to football but could just as easily be wine!!!
I think I noticed such as difference in you having been through something similar myself. It's when people comment on how much happier you seem it just shocks you into realising what an affect the other person must have had on you all along. I remember being told I was a much nicer person without my ex around! Enjoy your day in sun. X

tayforth

Molly41 wrote: »

Dont be shy asking for more time off sick if you need it x

Thank you. I do want some more time off if possible. When I go to my mum's this weekend, I want to be able to stay a few days and not have to rush back on Sunday evening. I have no idea how she'll take it.

rockie4

I've only told friends and a few people at work (it hasn't got on the grapevine yet!) but OH has told quite a few people which surprised me! He knows a lot of people through Neighbourhood watch which I stay out of He's telling them that 'we're going our separate ways' but surprise, surprise a lot of them AREN'T surprised .......they probably heard the arguments :rotfl:

I've still got to tell my son, he and OH have never got on, I didn't see him (son) for years and he's only recently got back in touch so I need to time that one carefully......

I'm exhausted too, I sat in the sun yesterday and read a book! I've been running on adrenaline for weeks now and it is starting to catch up with me If the house doesn't sell soon I think I might have to book a little break somewhere just to re-charge the batteries, no point in getting signed off sick to sit in the house with OH I have a couple of friends who have said I can stay at theirs if |I need a break so I might just take them up on that

You carry on enjoying yourself, you really do deserve it :A

tayforth

claretsgirl wrote: »

Tayforth, my username relates to football but could just as easily be wine!!!
I think I noticed such as difference in you having been through something similar myself. It's when people comment on how much happier you seem it just shocks you into realising what an affect the other person must have had on you all along. I remember being told I was a much nicer person without my ex around! Enjoy your day in sun. X

How lovely that must have been for you! I really look forward to others noticing how much happier I am without him. *I* know that I am, but it'll be nice for my friends and family to see it too.


My aunt commented on the difference in me. She said that I did fantastically well at the wedding, and seemed to really enjoy myself as well. She could tell when I was a bit tense (when I had to lie to one person after another about 'OH') but the rest of the time I was having a ball.