FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

mcja

36 sat patiently waiting....wowsers!!!! Can my kids come to your school please!!

marisco_2

I rule them with a rod of iron, they would not dare move :rotfl:

This is what it is like in my class

www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1cfVQyrQ3Q

tayforth

Soooooooooooo...

I went to my mum's on Thursday evening, was glad to just get there and get caught up in the pre-wedding excitement. There were a few questions but it was all fine. Some of my sister's friends came round that evening and we had a lovely time just talking and laughing. It was so nice and relaxed.

Friday was quite busy, a few visitors came round and asked after 'OH' and I told them that he was ill. Most just accepted it, but some followed up with other questions and advice. It was a taste of what was to come at the wedding! We went to the local pub for a bite to eat in the afternoon, then came home and chilled out for the evening.

Bedtime was early for all of us I didn't sleep until after 2am, but I'd slept loads the two previous nights, so I was fine.

We got up at 8am to go to the hairdresser, which was great fun - some of our wedding guests were in the salon, and wished us all well. Then we came home and had a hearty breakfast, although my sister and I hardly ate a thing lol. The makeup artist arrived so I left them to get on with that (I always do my own makeup).

Getting ready, I mused on how nice it was to be there without the ex - I felt so relaxed, there was no tension and I didn't have to worry about keeping him happy. I could just focus on my family. Once ready, I came downstairs to see my sister all dressed and beautiful. :A

And then we were off! Arriving at the church was so exciting, of course I had a few questions about 'OH' but it wasn't too bad. My aunt (who knows the whole story) was incredibly supportive and deflected anyone who questioned me too persistently.

The ceremony was beautiful. I came very close to tears a few times - seeing my sister walk up the aisle of course, then the vows and the closing reflection. It was perfect. Such a happy occasion.

I breathed a sigh of relief when we got to the hotel. We checked in and I got a free upgrade to a huge room with 2 KS beds!!! It was fab.

So I touched up my lipstick, took a deep breath and went to join the fray in the bar. More questions. I handled them well, I think so anyway. I don't really care if people had their suspicions, they'll all know the truth soon anyway.

When we were called in to the dining room, I had a breather. The speeches were lovely, funny and touching. The meal was great. I didn't drink much as I was still hoarse (still am!), and also I didn't want to get drunk and blurt anything out.

After the meal, everyone milled about until the band started. I sat musing on how nice it all was. I'm a very sociable person, but the ex would never dance and wasn't a great mixer at family events (always thought that he was too cool for them). I'm the opposite. I love family events. I'll talk to anyone, young or old.

So I was able to sit with whom I liked, mingle around the room and even dance! The ex always refused to dance. If he'd been there, nobody would have asked me, because they would have seen me sitting with him and assumed that neither of us wanted to dance. But because I was on my own, I was asked to dance a few times, and loved it

Then when the DJ started, everyone was up dancing, and I joined in, rather than thinking that I should come off the dancefloor every so often and spend time with the ex (even if that meant being miserable and watching everyone else having a good time). I loved being up twirling around with my sister and friends.

Once or twice, I felt a bit overwhelmed by all the questions, but overall I did fine. I absolutely HATED lying, though. I felt awful about that, and I hope that everyone understands.

The night ended late, most of us were in our bare feet, tired but happy. I went off to bed in SUCH a good mood. As I closed the door of my room, I smiled. I had got through it. And I had the room all to myself. No tension, no arguments, no being shouted at for reading in bed or moving around in my sleep. Just peace. It was bliss.

On Sunday morning, I went to breakfast and joined some of my sister's friends to reminisce about the wedding.

That evening, Sis and BIL asked everyone to the local pub. I got dressed up in a new silk maxi dress that I'd bought a few months ago. With my recent weight loss, it fitted perfectly. I did my hair and makeup and felt really good. The night was brilliant fun. Both families were there, along with aunts, uncles, cousins and friends. And because everyone had already been told that 'OH' was ill, there were no more questions.

Yesterday was a bit quieter. Sis and BIL picked up their bags and we waved them off on honeymoon.

I feel a little lonely now that I'm back here after the buzz of my mum's, but I have the radio on my favourite station and I'm ok. I have the car for another 2 days, so I'll go shopping later. Might take a trip to IKEA and buy a few new bits for the house.

This weekend, I'll go to my mum's and tell her the truth. I don't want my sister to find out until she comes home, but after that I want the world to know.







...and breathe. :rotfl:

Mojisola

tayforth wrote: »

It was so nice and relaxed.

Getting ready, I mused on how nice it was to be there without the ex - I felt so relaxed, there was no tension and I didn't have to worry about keeping him happy. I could just focus on my family.

So I was able to sit with whom I liked, mingle around the room and even dance! The ex always refused to dance. If he'd been there, nobody would have asked me, because they would have seen me sitting with him and assumed that neither of us wanted to dance. But because I was on my own, I was asked to dance a few times, and loved it
And I had the room all to myself. No tension, no arguments, no being shouted at for reading in bed or moving around in my sleep. Just peace. It was bliss.

Wonderful!

I've picked out the bits that jumped out at me - you are in control, you're happy and you can be like this for the rest of your life.

You'll be able to celebrate your sister's anniversary each year with a double meaning - their wedding and the start of your new life!

zzzLazyDaisy

Wow, I can feel the waves of relaxed happiness from here! Sounds like you had a lovely time - and it is great that you noticed how much easier and more enjoyable the event was without your ex by your side.

It is a beautiful day today, hope you get out and enjoy the sunshine.

Hugs

Dx

marisco_2

I am so glad that you enjoyed your sisters wedding and that you had a supportive aunt to help deflect awkard questions from people. That must have helped alot. It sounds to me like you handled yourself so well and with such dignity. You should be very proud of yourself tay.

Enjoy this beautiful hot, sunny weather today and relax. Good idea to visit Ikea and get some nice new bits for your home. I hope it is beginning to feel like yours now and is a safe and happy sanctuary for you. Best of luck next weekend when you tell your family. I am sure they will want to help and support you whenever you need them.

joolsybools

Well done Tay, it sounds like you handled it perfectly. I know I would be sending my Aunty a nice bunch of flowers if I was in your shoes, she sounds like a superstar!

On another note, I think you write really well, have you ever thought about writing as a career (if you don't already do it)?

marisco_2

Mojisola wrote: »

You'll be able to celebrate your sister's anniversary each year with a double meaning - their wedding and the start of your new life!

That is such a beautiful way of looking at things. Made me smile.

Brighton_belle

Thanks so much for the update - it's brought tears to my eyes. well done you for holding out for what you knew was right for you, not telling your family til after.
You have had your reward in a happy happy weekend and the freedom to have fun rather than get caught up in mega explaining and perhaps it making you too self conscious to have such a free and fun time.

So I wasn't the only one checking in a lot yesterday then....:D

tayforth

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