FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

I'll have to have it cleaned first. Not sure how much it'll sell for, but surely more than the cost of cleaning it? It was £1,500 (I know, ouch). If I got £300 for it I'd be happy.

This may be taboo (I'd be interested to hear your thoughts), but a friend suggested selling my engagement and wedding rings if he keeps the car. They're both very valuable and of no sentimental value to me any more.







I slept ok thanks. Only managed 6.5 hours, but that's better than I've had the last few nights. I'm a real 8-hours-or-I'm-useless girl.

busiscoming2

tayforth wrote: »

I'll have to have it cleaned first. Not sure how much it'll sell for, but surely more than the cost of cleaning it? It was £1,500 (I know, ouch). If I got £300 for it I'd be happy.

This may be taboo (I'd be interested to hear your thoughts), but a friend suggested selling my engagement and wedding rings if he keeps the car. They're both very valuable and of no sentimental value to me any more.



I slept ok thanks. Only managed 6.5 hours, but that's better than I've had the last few nights. I'm a real 8-hours-or-I'm-useless girl.

Morning,

I don't know why you think it would be taboo, but I'd probably sell them in your position. I only kept mine because I had kids and felt it was betraying them as they came from the marriage IYKWIM. What else are you going to do with them, leave them in a drawer for the rest of your life?

marisco_2

I would give it some time and thought before you do anything about your engagement and wedding ring. I can understand that after all that has gone on, you dont attach any feeling or sentiment to them any more.

I wish I had thought things through a bit more when I got rid of mine though, when I split with my ex. I was so distraught one morning that I went down to the local tip, ripped them off my finger and threw them into one of the big rubbish skips. Yes I know how awful that sounds, believe me. I didn't want any money for them as I associated them with awful experiences and memories by then and just wanted shot of them.

A couple of years ago I was walking round 'the lanes' in Brighton, window shopping in the antique and jewellery shops and spotted my wedding ring. I knew it was mine as it was a very unique ring in its style and shape. I recognised the hallmark and the inscription within it. Felt very shocked to see it again, the last thing I expected to be honest.

tayforth

busiscoming2 wrote: »

Morning,

I don't know why you think it would be taboo, but I'd probably sell them in your position. I only kept mine because I had kids and felt it was betraying them as they came from the marriage IYKWIM. What else are you going to do with them, leave them in a drawer for the rest of your life?

If I don't get rid of them, they probably will just sit in a drawer.

I take it he has no claim on them? His wedding ring is his own, mine is my own and the engagement ring would be treated as a gift, am I right?


Selling them would definitely buy me a car. Or a damn good holiday.

marisco wrote: »

I would give it some time and thought before you do anything about your engagement and wedding ring. I can understand that after all that has gone on, you dont attach any feeling or sentiment to them any more.

I wish I had thought things through a bit more when I got rid of mine though, when I split with my ex. I was so distraught one morning that I went down to the local tip, ripped them off my finger and threw them into one of the big rubbish skips. Yes I know how awful that sounds, believe me. I didn't want any money for them as I associated them with awful experiences and memories by then and just wanted shot of them.

A couple of years ago I was walking round 'the lanes' in Brighton, window shopping in the antique and jewellery shops and spotted my wedding ring. I knew it was mine as it was a very unique ring in its style and shape. I recognised the hallmark and the inscription within it. Felt very shocked to see it again, the last thing I expected to be honest.

I know for sure that I don't want to keep them. The more I have to wear them at work and my mum's, the more uncomfortable I feel. They mean nothing to me. They're a symbol of my old life, which I've now escaped. Like shackles.


Oh, that must have been a real shock for you. To see your ring in a shop window like that. Someone must have seen you throwing them and gone digging around in the skip. Ugh.

Kayalana99

Its a hard one.

I would think the engagement ring is a gift as you said, and your ring is yours but same time everything *should* be spilt 50/50

If the rings balance out the vaule of the car then I'd do it tit for tat...but he might fight on it if his ring is worth alot?

I suspect the rings will not be forgotten as it was one of the things my Ex used against me but its not the first thing you think of when your in middle of moving out and spilting things.

You say you don't want to go to court but if he realises thiers something vauleable in the middle he might be the one to start it...I'd not be to rash about it tbh but I know why you wouldn't want to hang on to them..

I suppose you could always sell them but keep the money for now and see how things play out?

Get a reciept if you do.

janb5

tayforth wrote: »

I'll have to have it cleaned first. Not sure how much it'll sell for, but surely more than the cost of cleaning it? It was £1,500 (I know, ouch). If I got £300 for it I'd be happy.

This may be taboo (I'd be interested to hear your thoughts), but a friend suggested selling my engagement and wedding rings if he keeps the car. They're both very valuable and of no sentimental value to me any more.

Just a thought my neighbour used to work in a wedding shop. She advised me to turn a bridesmaid dress inside out and wash in a machine- dont do this if it`s silk! I know the cost of cleaning these dresses is prohibitive! And yes the bridesmaid dresses came out like a dream- they are Grachvogel ones and all the stains came out! HTH:A

Peanut2013

Tayforth : Both my rings have been sat in a drawer for so long and I do want to sell them but don't know where? I spoke to one of those cash4gold people who said I'd get more selling them as rings, not scrap.

But no idea where to start!

Kayalana99

I spoke to a guy on a market stall who said I should sell them on Ebay, he would buy them off me but at a fraction of the price I'd get selling it on thier.

I think you'd be much better of selling them to a jeweller then a cash4gold guy anyway as they want the gold not the diamond if you have no experiance with Ebay.

tayforth

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Its a hard one.

I would think the engagement ring is a gift as you said, and your ring is yours but same time everything *should* be spilt 50/50

If the rings balance out the vaule of the car then I'd do it tit for tat...but he might fight on it if his ring is worth alot?

I suspect the rings will not be forgotten as it was one of the things my Ex used against me but its not the first thing you think of when your in middle of moving out and spilting things.

You say you don't want to go to court but if he realises thiers something vauleable in the middle he might be the one to start it...I'd not be to rash about it tbh but I know why you wouldn't want to hang on to them..

I suppose you could always sell them but keep the money for now and see how things play out?

Get a reciept if you do.

When you say that everything should be split 50/50, does that include my jewellery and clothes? I'm assuming that we'd keep our own. And the rings are my jewellery.


The rings would probably balance out the value of the car, but then I don't know how much second-hand jewellery is worth.

janb5 wrote: »

tayforth wrote: »

I'll have to have it cleaned first. Not sure how much it'll sell for, but surely more than the cost of cleaning it? It was £1,500 (I know, ouch). If I got £300 for it I'd be happy.

This may be taboo (I'd be interested to hear your thoughts), but a friend suggested selling my engagement and wedding rings if he keeps the car. They're both very valuable and of no sentimental value to me any more.

Just a thought my neighbour used to work in a wedding shop. She advised me to turn a bridesmaid dress inside out and wash in a machine- dont do this if it`s silk! I know the cost of cleaning these dresses is prohibitive! And yes the bridesmaid dresses came out like a dream- they are Grachvogel ones and all the stains came out! HTH:A

I might do that. It's satin and lace, no embellishments. Nothing to lose really. Has anyone else done this?

Peanut2013 wrote: »

Tayforth : Both my rings have been sat in a drawer for so long and I do want to sell them but don't know where? I spoke to one of those cash4gold people who said I'd get more selling them as rings, not scrap.

But no idea where to start!

Me neither! If I find out, I'll let you know xx

tayforth

Kayalana99 wrote: »

I spoke to a guy on a market stall who said I should sell them on Ebay, he would buy them off me but at a fraction of the price I'd get selling it on thier.

I think you'd be much better of selling them to a jeweller then a cash4gold guy anyway as they want the gold not the diamond if you have no experiance with Ebay.

It's platinum, I don't even know if those cash for gold places buy other metals. As for eBay, I've heard so many horror stories. I'll be giving it a miss.