Get me over this infatuation

krustylouise

*kindest thing

System

DannyBo wrote: »

Judi, did you see your birthday thread in DT? Hope you're having a good one - the thread kind of got drowned :beer:

OP, soz for the hijack :cool:

Edit: Arms not DT

No, i'm off to have a look. Thanks for the mention.

FBaby

OP has had the gusts to post what is the common first episode of an affair....and as we know, affairs are common...

OP, you know your post is pointless though.... there are no miracle answers. It is all about resisting temptation, putting the willpower mode in third gear, reminding yourself of the consequences. You then either do it, move on, forget the guy and look back thankful that you didn't fall for it, or you don't do it, start an affair, destroy your marriage and end up left with nothing but regret. Nothing people reading your thread can do for you.

Pollycat

needed_an_expert wrote: »

I am married and considered myself and do still consider myself happily married.

Then you really, really need to reconsider.
'Happily married' people don't behave as you did and are still doing.
Sometimes 'happily married' people make a mistake through drunkeness or another such thing.
'Happily married' people do not start flirtatious relationships with other people, then have sex with them and then continue exchanging rude texts.

needed_an_expert wrote: »

My husband is great but currently he is coming a very poor second and I am trying to compensate for this by being over the top with him. I sometimes think that I should leave my husband not to be with this man (not that he wants me) but to sort myself out.

You need a slap in the face with a massive dollop of reality.

Get over this or lose your husband.

Actually, from what I've read he would be better off without you.
Yes, do leave him!
Ruin your life as you wish but let him go to find someone else who (hopefully) will treat him better than you are doing.

Upsidedown_Bear wrote: »

I've found that quick sordid incidents of a sexual nature often leave a sour taste in the mouth

You are just SOOOOO lucky that I wasn't drinking a cup of coffee when I read this. :rotfl:

make_me_wise

I dont wish to judge your actions or decisions. All I will say is that I think you risk losing what you have for someone who ultimately wont make you happy. If you aren't content and fulfilled in your marriage then address the problems and make it work or call a day on it without hurting your husband. To carry on as you are will only cause you and possibly him, if he were to discover what is going on, much pain and upset. That is best avoided at all costs.

Pollycat

You titled your post 'Get me over this infatuation'.

There is no way anyone on here can help you get over this infatuation.

You need to wake up and smell the coffee - before it's too late.

bluesnake

Try contacting these people, they are experts, and I'm sure they will help you!
http://www.itv.com/jeremykyle/be-a-guest/

Bangton

Delete his number, avoid seeing him and put absolutely everything you have into your husband and into getting things back on track. You may well be happy but something (probably self consciousness) is making you feel like you need this other guy...you don't and it will end in disaster...especially if you love your husband.

Maz

Is it just me or can anyone else detect a whiff of troll poo?

marisco_2

No it is not just you. I hope this is just a troll post, so as there isn't a guy out there being treated so badly.