Just hope my DD doesn't leave it too late.

snozberry

I understand where you are coming from but I would, if I were you, try my best to keep my thoughts and opinions to myself.

I had always been under the impression (due to troubles in the family) that I had a bigger chance of winning the lottery then falling pregnant. Last summer my OH and I decided to try for a baby and I became pregnant on our first attempt. I was 36 years old and I will have my little bundle of joy the month before I turn 37.

marisco_2

oliveoil99 wrote: »

should I just keep my mouth shut and hope all turns out ok?

Yes. Either your daughter will have a baby or she wont. She sounds like a sensible, grounded girl. She has worked since her teens, got into a relationship, has plans to get married and will become a mum in her own sweet time.

At 33 and with the plans she has for hers and her husbands future I would be surprised if she wasn't fully aware about the pros and cons of delaying parenthood. There is nothing worse than having extended family raising with you when you may like to start a family. Mine did it all the time in the lead up to my wedding and in the early days of my marriage. It put a right dampner on things for me and I saw it as intrusive, unecessary behaviour. She is an adult who knows her own mind, leave her to it.

SuzieSue

Courgette wrote: »

Yes, I've noticed this too and I think it's awful. No idea what happened to giving people benefit of the doubt

Well, I think it takes one to know one. All these nasty witches on this board who just assume the worst of everyone and anyone can't help themselves simply because they are nasty self-opinionated witches and just assume that everyone else is just like them.

I just wish that OPs would ignore them instead of getting upset, but it is easier said than done.

oliveoil99

SuzieSue wrote: »

Well, I think it takes one to know one. All these nasty witches on this board who just assume the worst of everyone and anyone can't help themselves simply because they are nasty self-opinionated witches and just assume that everyone else is just like them.

I just wish that OPs would ignore them instead of getting upset, but it is easier said than done.

When people resort to personal insults they show lesser intelligence and inability to debate. My daughter has said she would like a child but not children, I'm already a nana to 2 grandaughters from my son and his partner. My DD has always been a career woman and has done well in her job, they are financially secure with 2 good incomes and there own property. I don't bang on about her having children but the subject does come up now again and because of my family history and her passed medical problems I do worry but that's me. I'm so glad I taught her manners she would never speak like some on here shame on them. Thank-you. Suziesue

coolcait

oliveoil99 wrote: »

DD is due to get married next summer she will be 33 then and has said she wants a child, I'm not a pushy granma to be am already a nana just don't want her to leave it to late. DD has been in the same job a civil-servant since she was 18 and wants to carry on working for a few years before trying for a baby. When I mention her (body clock) and once you get to 35 it fast-forwards she just says stop going on about it mum women have babies on there 40s all the time, should I just keep my mouth shut and hope all turns out ok?

Your daughter has made her opinion quite clear to you.

That's really the only opinion which should matter.

BAGGY

After a certain age you body starts to release 2 eggs each month. You may find she ends up with twins. That's what happened to me at 42. So take a chill pill. It will happen when it is meant to.

fluffnutter

Thomas_Hardy wrote: »

I am 34 but would be far more likely to conceive now than when I was 30 because of improvements in my health.

Is that down to the sex change, Thomas?

fluffnutter

My best friend has just turned 40. I've recently had a baby (we're a similar age). I've visited her parents a few times - we get on well and they're naturally interested in my new arrival.

Whenever my friend's also there, I see the pain, upset and frustration in her eyes because of her mother's unspoken 'Why haven't you got a baby? Fluffnutter has'. My friend's single, with no fella on the horizon and no likelihood of babies any time soon. She knows that. She doesn't need her mum to remind her.

OP, hopefully your daughter will be able to conceive with no problems. But if she can't, the pressure, expectation and disappointment of a mother who wants her to have a baby almost as much as she does herself will not help, trust me. Back off.

Robin_TBW

It's none of your business. What makes you even think it is?

londonsurrey

oliveoil99 wrote: »

I don't bang on about her having children but the subject does come up now again and because of my family history and her passed medical problems I do worry but that's me.

You may worry, but does your daughter have to share in that worry too when you're worrying?

Don't you think that she already has it in her mind, or do you think that she's forgotten, or do you think she's chosen to ignore you all the other times you've brought it up?