Just hope my DD doesn't leave it too late.

duchy

The OP's daughter is by the OP's own description an educated career woman who has asked her Mother to "Stop going on about it Mum" .

She's not a child and I have to wonder if any other adult asked the OP to "Stop going on about it" whatever "it" was -would she respect the request or ignore it too.

SuzieSue

janninew wrote: »

I'm often gobsmacked reading this forum, I'm members on 2 other forums and they are really friendly places, I have never seen other posters being abused and bullied as I see often on here (not just on this thread).

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Totally agree. But at least more and more people are standing up to the bullies so hopefully they will go away soon. I'm sure people will just learn to ignore them in time. You have to remember that you are associating with people you wouldn't associate with in real life and you just need to ignore posts from the sort of people you wouldn't give the time of day to in real life.

fluffnutter

mumps wrote: »

Source: Management of the Infertile Woman by Helen A. Carcio and The Fertility Sourcebook by M. Sara Rosenthal


Both of the above line graphs are for women with normal reproductive function. Learn about fertility risk factors.

Idon't know how accurate it is but the above does seem to indicate the problem is not insignificant and just because some women get pregnant in their late 30s or 40s it is more likely that women will have more problems getting pregnant as they get older.

I got this from the babycentre.com.

I don't think anyone's denying that fertility declines as you age. But do you think the OP's daughter needs her mum to point it out to her? Tick-tock! Tick-tock! You 'career women' need to get a shift on!

How appalling rude. Totally oversteps the boundaries, IMO, even between mothers and daughters.

Dunroamin

SuzieSue wrote: »

Who exactly was I calling a witch? I haven't singled out anyone. If the cap fits.......

If you think that calling someone a witch is abusive, it seems pretty strange to then go on to use the same term yourself.

Not sure who the last bit is aimed at though.

pinkshoes

oliveoil99 wrote: »

I think one of my under-laying problems is the females in my family have had an early menopause cann't go back to my mother as she died at 27yrs but my sister was 37 and I was 41 when we had our change. Does anyone know if an early menopause runs in the family? My daughter had problems as a child with her kidneys only one was working but all has gone well since. I suppose I do what all mothers do is worry that's our job.

In terms of WHEN she is going to have a baby, then that is for her to figure out.

In terms of early menopause, then you MUST tell her this information, as if I were in her shoes, it would massively affect my decision on when to have children.

You are absolutely correct - menopause age is linked genetically, so if YOU went through the menopause early, then there's a high chance she will too.

Also, fertility problems start as early as 10 years before menopause, so if she's going to be 33 next year, she might already potentially have problems.

Who knows with nature?!?!

janninew

fluffnutter wrote: »

I don't think anyone's denying that fertility declines as you age. But do you think the OP's daughter needs her mum to point it out to her? Tick-tock! Tick-tock! You 'career women' need to get a shift on!

How appalling rude. Totally oversteps the boundaries, IMO, even between mothers and daughters.

Surely that depends on the relationship between Mum and Daughter though? When my Mum asked me when I was starting a family and to get a move on, I would never think she was appalling rude. I told her when me and my hubby had started trying for a baby, others on this thread don't think that has anything to do with anybody but man and women, I think it depends entirely on the relationship.

marisco_2

kelpie35 wrote: »

I was well brought up and have high morals and principals and do not think I am being ill mannered by telling you IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS.

If you were my mother (and thank God your not) I would have no hesitation in telling you to keep your nose out of my business and how I live my life.

If you were well brought up, educated and had any manners you would not need to make a point by writing in bold capital letters. Most people know this indicates that you either have little grip of English grammar or that you are shouting at someone.

Why the need to state thank god you're not my mother to a woman you do not know personally? The OP may well be a very good mother. I dont see how you can infer either way from a couple of posts on an internet forum. She is concerned for her daughter due to a history in the family of early menopause.

When my family raised the same thing with me I managed to ask them to stop without having to resort to telling them to keep their noses out of my business and how I lived my life. An unecessarily aggressive way to speak to people. Someone with the morals, principals and intelligience you claim to have would choose to word it far more politely and sensitively. That way the situation would be dealt with without causing offence or upset to those closest to them.

I have noticed you behave in this way regularly on this forum and advise the OP not to take your rudeness personally. It is obviously a character flaw you have little control over.

SuzieSue

marisco wrote: »

If you were well brought up, educated and had any manners you would not need to make a point by writing in bold capital letters. Most people know this indicates that you either have little grip of English grammar or that you are shouting at someone.

Why the need to state thank god you're not my mother to a woman you do not know personally? The OP may well be a very good mother. I dont see how you can infer either way from a couple of posts on an internet forum. She is concerned for her daughter due to a history in the family of early menopause.

When my family raised the same thing with me I managed to ask them to stop without having to resort to telling them to keep their noses out of my business and how I lived my life. An unecessarily aggressive way to speak to people. Someone with the morals, principals and intelligience you claim to have would choose to word it far more politely and sensitively. That way the situation would be dealt with without causing offence or upset to those closest to them.

I have noticed you behave in this way regularly on this forum and advise the OP not to take your rudeness personally. It is obviously a character flaw you have little control over.

Excellent post, but really you are wasting your time reasoning with people like that. They just need to be ignored.

duchy

There is a world of difference between you choosing to share the info and having it nagged out of you though

janninew wrote: »

Surely that depends on the relationship between Mum and Daughter though? When my Mum asked me when I was starting a family and to get a move on, I would never think she was appalling rude. I told her when me and my hubby had started trying for a baby, others on this thread don't think that has anything to do with anybody but man and women, I think it depends entirely on the relationship.

SuzieSue

duchy wrote: »

There is a world of difference between you choosing to share the info and having it nagged out of you though

And that is why every single poster has told the OP to stop nagging her. The OP was asking for advice and she has got it. I am sure the OP will stop nagging her daughter if she has been in the past.

Sometimes, when a parent thinks that their child is going to get hurt, they do everything in their power to stop it, even if what they are doing is wrong and will probably backfire. That was what the OP was doing and I sure she will stop now.