Just hope my DD doesn't leave it too late.

SuzieSue

Dunroamin wrote: »

From the person who called other posters "witches", don't you think that's a bit rich?

Who exactly was I calling a witch? I haven't singled out anyone. If the cap fits.......

mumps

To the OP I would say you have to leave it now, she has heard your worries.

To other posters the daughter has apparently said she wants children so not unreasonable imho to point out that her fertility is falling. By the way this isn't necessarilty linked to how fit you are (although you can damage your fertility in a variety of ways) and it certainly isn't linked to how young you look. I had my first at 18 and youngest 21 years later, I do know the first one was conceived at the first try, the last took several months, I think this is predictable.

I have known two women who did wait too long and when they decided the time was right their bodies wouldn't play ball, it can happen.

mumps

Source: Management of the Infertile Woman by Helen A. Carcio and The Fertility Sourcebook by M. Sara Rosenthal


Both of the above line graphs are for women with normal reproductive function. Learn about fertility risk factors.

Idon't know how accurate it is but the above does seem to indicate the problem is not insignificant and just because some women get pregnant in their late 30s or 40s it is more likely that women will have more problems getting pregnant as they get older.

I got this from the babycentre.com.

Pollycat

mumps wrote: »

To the OP I would say you have to leave it now, she has heard your worries.

To other posters the daughter has apparently said she wants children so not unreasonable imho to point out that her fertility is falling. By the way this isn't necessarilty linked to how fit you (although you can damage your fertility in a variety of ways) and it certainly isn't linked to how young you look. I had my first at 18 and youngest 21 years later, I do know the first one was conceived at the first try, the last took several months, I think this is predictable.

I have known two women who did wait too long and when they decided the time was right their bodies wouldn't play ball, it can happen.

Maybe not unreasonable to point that out but surely unreasonable to mention body clocks to the extent that the daughter feels her MUM is 'going on about it'.......?

oliveoil99 wrote: »

DD is due to get married next summer she will be 33 then and has said she wants a child, I'm not a pushy granma to be am already a nana just don't want her to leave it to late. DD has been in the same job a civil-servant since she was 18 and wants to carry on working for a few years before trying for a baby. When I mention her (body clock) and once you get to 35 it fast-forwards she just says stop going on about it mum women have babies on there 40s all the time, should I just keep my mouth shut and hope all turns out ok?

heartbreak_star

Thankfully, my mum understands I'm child-free by choice, and she has no desire to be a grandmother. Like me, she prefers dogs to kids.

OP, you really do have to drop it or risk losing contact with your daughter. You've brought her up, now let her go.

HBS x

oliveoil99

kelpie35 wrote: »

I was well brought up and have high morals and principals and do not think I am being ill mannered by telling you IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS.

If you were my mother (and thank God your not) I would have no hesitation in telling you to keep your nose out of my business and how I live my life.

I found 'It is not your business' a positive response, it was the your a selfish meddling witch rather aggressive 'which' has now been removed, you obviously didn't see the post or you would of known what I was refering too.

stir_crazy

I also think it's time to leave the subject alone. Ever since getting married, almost everyone I know has assumed that babies are the next step and seem to think that OH and I are in a passing phase when we tell them that we'll probably never have children.

One particularly memorable instance was last year when my dad asked how soon we would be having children and did I actually know how old I was getting? Yes I knew how old I was, I had just turned 27!!

chelseablue

I know everyone is different but my cousin had her second child when she was 42

My best friend would like to try for a 3rd later this year and shes nearly 43

Your daughter isnt ancient yet ;-)

xx

FatVonD

I got the impression the OP is worried, not because it means she might not have grandchildren, but because she doesn't want her daughter to suffer the heartache of infertility by leaving it too late. I'm gobsmacked at some of the replies on here.

janninew

FatVonD wrote: »

I got the impression the OP is worried, not because it means she might not have grandchildren, but because she doesn't want her daughter to suffer the heartache of infertility by leaving it too late. I'm gobsmacked at some of the replies on here.

The OP states she already has grandchildren, so she isn't just 'relying on her daughter' to provide grandchildren.

I'm often gobsmacked reading this forum, I'm members on 2 other forums and they are really friendly places, I have never seen other posters being abused and bullied as I see often on here (not just on this thread).

I wonder what the relationship between daughter and OP is and what context these conversations happen in. My Mum has mentioned to me a few times about having another child, I've told her that I'm sticking to one, according to some on here her asking me a few times means she doesn't care about me and is a meddling witch! I often get fed up of her asking and tell her as much, I don't think she says it out of badness or doesn't care about me.