Update on my DD

verysillyguy06

darlyd wrote: »

Yes we are in touch we been keeping each other up to date. Poor thing.

I don't know what to say now I'm lost.

Sw been involved twice and both times refer her to groups apparently there is no more they can do, I pleaded and begged to have her put into care but they won't. Cahms told me this week that they will be referring again to ss not heard nothing yet.

Like physiatrist says these groups are a waste as its like counciling someone who has diabetes with no treatment. Lets see how these antiphicotic medication works.

I dread the day she moves on her own even worse when she has her own kids. :-(.

gizmo111 wrote: »

Yes she would need support of social services and senior management in the Local Authority as they are the body that will be funding it.
The significant factor in this case is that there is a younger child who is at risk of signifcant harm both emotionally and physically - child protection procedures should be instigated.

OP - go to the GP Monday and get your injuries recorded.
Everytime she kicks off - call the police.

darlyd wrote: »

We don't need a loan? A decorating and fixing things comes out of our own pocket we are lucky we can afford it.
(For now)

Not taken photographs as don't want to go ahead and press charges. She's my baby I don't want her to be arrested with a criminal record I want her kept clean like us. I am in the middle of doing my nursing and its important and am trying my best to pass it.

We just need her to stop being a b***h and take responsibility for her actions and to be a normal teen with normal moods and not a violent one who doesn't realise what she is doing and also for my 6 yr old to feel safe and sound.

My 6 year old is her own person and i am very lucky she knows right from wrong, she says sorry for the things she does wrong and is very helpful when required where as dd1 is complete opposite. Hence her diagnosis.

Ss are in my opinion a waste of tax Payers money. Spend there time with people who don't need them (as above) and less or no time with people who do.

Have you seen the posts I re-posted here?

Just to summarise:

1. You know what your daughter 's illness is, bi-polar but health professionals disagree
2. You know what would help: Daughter is care/respite but Social care disagrees

3. Any other help from Social Care is a waste of money?

Just a question: Is your current partner the dad of both the children?

I really think you ought to re-think and try and find one professional you trust that could support you for your other daughter's sake if not your own but of course, the pesky social workers will have to talk to both your children

daska

darlyd wrote: »

Not taken photographs as don't want to go ahead and press charges. She's my baby I don't want her to be arrested with a criminal record I want her kept clean like us. I am in the middle of doing my nursing and its important and am trying my best to pass it.

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Ss are in my opinion a waste of tax Payers money. Spend there time with people who don't need them (as above) and less or no time with people who do.

It's not about pressing charges, it's about having an official record of what's happening that you can use as evidence that there is a problem that needs to be addressed. And while I appreciate she's your baby and you want to do your best for her, so is DD2!

mountainofdebt

darlyd wrote: »

Not taken photographs as don't want to go ahead and press charges. She's my baby I don't want her to be arrested with a criminal record I want her kept clean like us. I am in the middle of doing my nursing and its important and am trying my best to pass it.

I have to say that if your daughter attacks someone else then you won't have that option. Can you put your hand on your heart and say that she won't and cause someone some permanent damage?

Have you thought that if you did press charges then things might be brought to a head and help that she clearly needs is given to her?

Mojisola

daska wrote: »

And while I appreciate she's your baby and you want to do your best for her, so is DD2!

Exactly! DD1 has problems now. DD2 doesn't but there's a higher chance she will if she has to grow up in such a difficult, unpredictable environment.

daska

verysillyguy06 wrote: »

Hmmm, yes your opinion is rather bad....dont you think they would consider this themselves if an Initial assessment is done?

SS have already bowed out twice? Presumably their initial assessmentS failed to notice the little girl being beaten up by her older sister and wetting herself when her mother was being attacked.

Might just be worth pointing out that I've been on the receiving end of Children's Services turning up in the middle of the night and have been through more than one core assessment with DS2. Children's services always conclude that everything is just fine... which is of course why I have had to have a lifeline installed by Adult Services since DS2 was 2 years old due to his violence...

teabag29

darlyd wrote: »

Yes we are in touch we been keeping each other up to date. Poor thing.

I don't know what to say now I'm lost.

Sw been involved twice and both times refer her to groups apparently there is no more they can do, I pleaded and begged to have her put into care but they won't. Cahms told me this week that they will be referring again to ss not heard nothing yet.

Like physiatrist says these groups are a waste as its like counciling someone who has diabetes with no treatment. Lets see how these antiphicotic medication works.

I dread the day she moves on her own even worse when she has her own kids. :-(.

Hi Chick
Well things are no better with me either. Went for the statement tribunal last week it was awful. None of my witnesses turned up and ep dismissed her pda diagnosis saying it wasnt on the diagnostic manual and isnt a disorder and camhs say theres nothing wrong so she doesnt have it. Camhs for me are useless and dont get me started on social services. What you are saying is right, they will not provide residential care nomatter what. I actually took advice off a solicitor and was getting close to taking dd to s.services and leaving her there but I was told i'd be charged with abandonment (even though she'd tried to stab her brother with a knife, hit me, tried to kill herself and totally trashed the house for 4 days solid).

I am tearing my hair out what to do now, school is a big factor with my dd, her behaviour isnt half as bad when shes not at school. No other schools in area will take her and ep keeps trying to insinuate she has attachment disorder. I am seriously considering home schooling her but the so called professionals will probablly come along and put a stop to that too but also then i will have no break from her at all.

Im not sure what to advise chick because as you know s.services are less than useless and camhs aint any better or havent been for me. They have now diagnosed her with adhd too and put her on medication but its having no effect. I find myself wishing for the day she leaves school and also home, I hate feeling like that I shouldnt be wishing my childs youth away but im completely drained emotionally mentally physically and its having an impact on the whole family. I too have no idea what to do next. Sending big higs your way chick xxx

esmf73

Darlyd and tea bag. Was going to say look into PDA. Have 8yr old sone with same and is VERY difficult. Worst thing is the unpredictability of it all, so even if help is offered it's pretty much pointless as the child saves it all for later!!! Feel free to PM me anytime. Am in N Yorks, where are you?

Darlyd

We are both in leicester. :-).

Thank you all again for responses. Hope your ok teabag, when we having that coffee?

I've received a letter today been copied in with letter that cpn sent our gp about Tuesday night, I'm disgusted no where in there does it say she beat me up, no where does it say her sibling stood there screaming wetting her pants and no where in there does it say mum is concerned of her harming herself or even others. Just states she saw her and she seemed fine and mentioned I slapped her and she the cpn was concerned. !!!!!!?

I'm in 2 minds to write her a letter how dare she.

Mojisola

darlyd wrote: »

I've received a letter today been copied in with letter that cpn sent our gp about Tuesday night, I'm disgusted no where in there does it say she beat me up, no where does it say her sibling stood there screaming wetting her pants and no where in there does it say mum is concerned of her harming herself or even others. Just states she saw her and she seemed fine and mentioned I slapped her and she the cpn was concerned.

Which is why you should have got your injuries looked at when at A&E.

RAS

darlyd wrote: »

I've received a letter today been copied in with letter that cpn sent our gp about Tuesday night, I'm disgusted no where in there does it say she beat me up, no where does it say her sibling stood there screaming wetting her pants and no where in there does it say mum is concerned of her harming herself or even others. Just states she saw her and she seemed fine and mentioned I slapped her and she the cpn was concerned. !!!!!!?

Which is why you should have presented to A&E and why you should have reported to the police, even if you do not want to proceed.

As it is you need an urgent appointment at the doctor's NOW to show them you injuries before they heal. And you need to get on record your daughter's violence.

If you are studying nursing, do you have a clue what could happen with a record of slapping your daughter on file and no record of her violence otwards you? Nothing to stop her reporting you to the police.