How do you "want" a second child?

Mojisola

pinkshoes wrote: »

This may sound very bizarre, but how do you "want" a second child?

My son is 2, and a lot of hard work, but he's amazing, funny, and makes me smile every day.

So why do people WANT a second child if the one they have is so "perfect"? Surely you would then be missing out on stuff with child 1 if you had a second, as you would have to split yourself equally between the two and they would have to share your attention?

Also, would you then not have to "palm off" (can't think of another way to put it!) child 1 on someone else so you can then spend individual time with child 2? (Otherwise it wouldn't be fair on child 2 who would only ever get 50% attention from you).

Me and OH like the idea, maybe, of having a child one day, but as we're having so much fun with DS, we're not quite sure the reasons behind why people decide to have another.

And so it might be right for you to stick at one child.

OllysMum_2

I think I understand where the OP is coming from... I'm from a large family and always assumed I would have several children. However, I really did love my daughter so much that I worried about having another -couldn't imagine ever having that depth of feeling but this sentiment sums it up....

newgirly wrote: »

I agree with pigpen, I have always told my 3 that you heart grows every time you have a baby so they are all loved the same

Have to say, that love has been tried and tested during teenage years but thankfully all came right in the end!

owen_money

I think the first two or three kids are all right, after that they get under your feet and are a bit of an annoyance. Just stick to one or two, unless you need the benefits

marisco_2

Bless her, Mother Nature has this uncanny knack of making you forget the trials and tribulations of being pregnant, think nausea, exhaustion, and hormones :eek:. You cast out of your mind the pain of childbirth, and how it feels to bounce off the walls through lack of sleep in the early days (scratch that, more like months, weeks or even years!).

Get through those phases and abracadabra there you have it, this cute, adorable, imaginative, fun, happy little dude toddling around lighting up your life. How could anyone not want one more of those

That is how many of us end up deciding that we want to have a 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc.

Gillby1

pigpen wrote: »

I wanted my second primarily because my first was so amazing I wanted more of that..

Exactly! Well said pigpen. I love my two little boys so much, and am still hoping to persuade OH to try for number three for the same reason!

Gilly x

Taadaa

I understand what Pinkshoes means.

It's a question of how do you know you have the mental abs emotional capacity to cope with more than one child. It's one only you can answer.