How do you "want" a second child?

lindseykim13

Well i have 3 and yes you feel pulled in a million directions-you don't spend less time with them you spend less time by yourself lol

I've always got one of them with me!

I had ds2 when ds1 was 2.5yrs i did worry about it not being just me and him and yes you do have to juggle your time more. But they are the best of friends and worse of enemies too when they want. They are very close and i hope would be able to tell eachother anything when they are grown up. I still desperatly wanted a girl though so we decided to have one more try fully expecting another boy to join my older 2 but i got my daughter!
Now i know i don't want anymore lol

Although they are lovely when they are that sort of age and they want to be with you all the time they do get older and now my older 2 are off doing their own thing most evenings/weekends. When they go off to play ect it's just me and dd which is nice.
Your eldest will go to nursery and school if you choose (we home school!) and then you'll be on your own.

Counting_Pennies_2

I would say you are happy with your situation so no need to change it.

If one of you were more keen to have a second it would be different.

I wanted to wait but my DH was keen for a second sooner so we went ahead.

If I had had my time again I would have waited until no.1 had started school and then had all that precious time again with no.2

pesky85

I can't imagine being an only child I'm one of four and never felt starved of attention.

I hate to say it but even as adults, you can often spot an only child a mile off. It's great for a child's social and emotional development to have a sibling.

It was an easy choice for me to have a second child. We're now considering a 3rd, but will wait purely because we would need to save up for a bigger car

Person_one

Without my sibling I wouldn't now have a wonderful sister in law and a niece and nephew I adore more than anything in the world. Children aren't tiny forever so the decisions about how many to have shouldn't just be based on those earliest years.

My brother is also the only person in the world who always gets my all my jokes!

anibell

Bennifred wrote: »

Good luck anibell! At least DS1 is old enough to a help - bonus! In my experience, teenage boys LOVE babies. :j

Oh dear....what have I done?!? :rotfl:

janninew

pesky85 wrote: »

I can't imagine being an only child I'm one of four and never felt starved of attention.

I hate to say it but even as adults, you can often spot an only child a mile off. It's great for a child's social and emotional development to have a sibling.

It was an easy choice for me to have a second child. We're now considering a 3rd, but will wait purely because we would need to save up for a bigger car

Reading things like the bolded part above always makes me feel like a failure. I've been advised not to have any more children, so my daughter will be an only. Why will you be able to 'spot her a mile off?'

Bennifred

anibell wrote: »

Oh dear....what have I done?!? :rotfl:

Too late to worry now! I meant in a good way, lol!

notanewuser

pesky85 wrote: »

I can't imagine being an only child I'm one of four and never felt starved of attention.

I hate to say it but even as adults, you can often spot an only child a mile off. It's great for a child's social and emotional development to have a sibling.

It was an easy choice for me to have a second child. We're now considering a 3rd, but will wait purely because we would need to save up for a bigger car

Somebody said that on my thread, and its an obnoxious thing to say.

Person_one

janninew wrote: »

Reading things like the bolded part above always makes me feel like a failure. I've been advised not to have any more children, so my daughter will be an only. Why will you be able to 'spot her a mile off?'

Please ignore that, I know many absolutely lovely only children and plenty of obnoxious people with siblings. It depends completely on how good a job their parents do. I for one never know how many siblings a person has unless they tell me, or they're stood next to an identical twin!

janninew

Person_one wrote: »

Please ignore that, I know many absolutely lovely only children and plenty of obnoxious people with siblings. It depends completely on how good a job their parents do. I for one never know how many siblings a person has unless they tell me, or they're stood next to an identical twin!

Thanks, completely agree about the standard of parenting determining how children turn out. I've done my absolute best for my little girl, its upsetting to read comments that imply that she is going to 'stand out' for all the wrong reasons.