Affair?

aileth

I text asking if he could bring some more samples of the supposed valentine's scrap paper home and he says they've all been binned now. Seems quite a coincidence.

HeadAboveWater

aileth wrote: »

I asked him about this when he got home and he said that on valentines day a lot of them did this sort of stuff at work (He said he apparently didn't receive anything) and that they were being used as scrap paper now.

aileth wrote: »

I text asking if he could bring some more samples of the supposed valentine's scrap paper home and he says they've all been binned now. Seems quite a coincidence.

huh????? :huh:

aileth

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

huh????? :huh:

My thoughts exactly. He said if it were around christmas there apparently would've been festive things written on it, but he has handed me his shifts on paper before so I know what he's working and they've never, ever, ever had writing on.

To break it down, I find a love note that's been binned, ask about it, he says it's scrap paper left over from valentine's day which has coincidentally now been binned, he says he didn't see what was on it till after he'd written his shifts, I asked how he could've missed it as the heart was opposite the shifts and the front of the paper was folded so the "I love you xxxx" was on the front, he says the paper was folded before he wrote anything on it (He seems to know a lot about this note), so he would have had to open it to write in it (and seriously, the heart is massive), but still apparently didn't notice anything.

He seems to know an awful lot of details about a supposed innocent piece of scrap.

And the last part, he says the scrap paper was thrown out ages ago but the shifts written down were for this week. Am I just being paranoid or going overboard? I should hand the man a shovel.

spike241

Regardless of whether he's cheating or not, he's obviously lying to you and that's not a good sign.

It doesn't sound good

HeadAboveWater

I don't think you're being paranoid, but I do think there's something he's not telling you. It just doesn't add up. Like I said before, he didn't question you as to 'what note'? or anything. He knew what you were referring to. And, like you say, he knows an awful lot about a scrap piece of paper...

seven-day-weekend

warehouse wrote: »

Are there really people out there who DON'T have a password on their phones? Everyone I know does, it's called security. Don't think this is a sign OP, it's very normal. I and my wife have password protected phones and neither of would ever ask to see the others, it's a trust thing.

The fact that you can see his emails and browsing history, (which are both clear of passwords AND any incriminating evidence), says to me he is either the cleverest cheater on the planet or the note you found has a reasonable explanation.

I didn't even know until reading this thread that it was possible to have a password on a phone.....

To the OP, I would just ask him, pure and simple. You should be able to tell from his reaction/body language whether he is telling the truth or not.

CH27

Trust your gut instinct.

barbiedoll

So....you own the house, the car and you pay for the bills and the food. You aren't getting laid and you're not happy. Your husband is secretive, he's a liar and a spendthrift.

And it's taken a piece of paper with a heart drawn on it to make you question the state of your marriage?

aileth

barbiedoll wrote: »

So....you own the house, the car and you pay for the bills and the food. You aren't getting laid and you're not happy. Your husband is secretive, he's a liar and a spendthrift.

And it's taken a piece of paper with a heart drawn on it to make you question the state of your marriage?

No, I questioned it long before now but I've become very complacent. I just float around and go day to day. It's taken the piece of paper to snap me out of complacency.

lee111s

Get rid of him