Affair?

aileth

@Justin Probably not. I'm content, but not happy.

@Judi No, I opened the bin to put an empty packet of chicken in and there was a piece of paper with a big love heart on it staring me in the face. It was right ontop!

LEJC

aileth wrote: »

The hard part is what can I do really.

You need to sit down with him and talk this through....in a non confrontational way.

explain that you found the note and that you know there are areas in the marriage that could be better but you really need to know where you both stand.

He owes you honest answers and until you both get honest answers from eachother about how you see your relationship developing and maturing neither of you are going to be happy.

You may find that the note was part of general office banter...it happens....but it does become a threat to your relationship if he has taken office banter further....and the only way you will find that out is if you both talk openly and honestly with eachother.

You may not like what he says about you and conversly he may not like what you say to him...but at least it should open up the communication channels for you both to decide if your future lies together or not

System

aileth wrote: »

@Judi No, I opened the bin to put an empty packet of chicken in and there was a piece of paper with a big love heart on it staring me in the face. It was right ontop!

Then dont let him turn it back on you! Cause thats what he is trying to do.

bryanb

aileth wrote: »

there was a piece of paper with a big love heart on it staring me in the face. It was right ontop!

Perhaps he was trying to tell you something is going on, is he happy within the marriage?

JustinCredibleGillespie

aileth I think this love note is from someone hes fooling around with at the office, hes just not clever or crafty enough to go to the bother of hiding it, well apart from his phone.

Make a joke about his phone, ask him should you book him an appointment and if he asks what for? For an operation, to get the phone surgically removed him his person

JCG

xx

Graham2704

Probably put there on the top so you WOULD see it maybe the person who put it there is trying to split you up and giving you a BIG CLUE something is going on!

System

aileth I think this love note is from someone hes fooling around with at the office,

Yeah someone to pass the time time of day with. A playful distraction from the mundane duties of day to day life. An ego boost. Someone to massage his ego.

aileth

Well that's what I first thought. He said that when he picked the piece of scrap paper up and wrote his shifts on it, he didn't see what it had on it (I don't know how because the area he wrote his shifts on is tiny compared to the heart and the I love you and kisses.) And that he only realised later, so he decided to write his shifts down on another piece of paper because he thought if he brought that one home I'd be a bit funny (which I am of course) and throw the heart one away so I wouldn't see it. What I don't understand is why he waited to throw it away at home.

Joons

So after four years there's no passion? Sorry, do you mean there's no lovemaking? Old scenario as it is but a loveless relationship can quite often end in an affair.

System

He obviously thought nothing of it. I wouldnt write him off yet.