Stepson won't wash thread....update.....

bangersnmash

Joons wrote: »

Bangers: the non showering goes hand in hand with the non brushing of teeth etc...it's only a matter of time before b/f will be taking him to the dental hospital with a hole in his tooth. I actually take your point about over washing, I agree, we all do this, would you not rather smell nice though than smell of your own sweat?

My own natural body smell is very light and not noticeable by anyone else. A few years ago I asked several people to give me the sniff test and they all said that they couldn't smell anything. Anything at all. That's nice.

As I say, the key is to change the clothes periodically and not to wear the same footwear every day, that's where eventually, sooner or later, you do get some smell.

Joons wrote: »

And, at 17, I would guess his hand and his wee man down below are having some action, again, would you not wash afterwards?

Hmm. Well, shagging, sure, that's a bit mucky! If you're doing it right!

bangersnmash

TheConways wrote: »

I read your links. You clearly believe that you can wear clothes for 2-3 weeks and not smell;

Sometimes only a week in summer when it's a bit hot and sweaty or if doing exercise. In winter sometimes they're fine for a month or two. For real. One more time, in case your eyes are popping out of your head in disbelief, in winter they're often fine for a month or two. Though perhaps less on a younger and therefore likely more energetic person who does more sweating or someone who does a lively energetic job involving lots of sweating.

TheConways wrote: »

I know this isn't true because my bedclothes start to smell by the end of the week if I haven't changed them!

Uhuh. Well, I've been using the same duvet for five years, or, now I think about it, probably ten or more years in fact, without washing it at all and there's no smell coming off it, none at all! So there. Dance on that.

TheConways wrote: »

My husband has quite a whiff if he comes back from the gym/rugby etc and hasn't showered.

But if you change the clothes then there's no smell coming off the body after half an hour or an hour or so, when the fresh sweat has dried out. Nope. Nor the next day. Try it and see. You'll be pleasantly surprised.

TheConways wrote: »

Completely agree with you regarding the obnoxious smell of excessive chemicals,

Goodo. I notice it all the time, as usual I was gassed again on the street yesterday about six or eight times when I went to the shops. Awful, vile. Euurrgh. It's always amazing to me that about two out of three people absolutely reek, they just totally honk of terrible stinky chemicals. They must have no sense of smell, their self awareness of how disgusting they are has been completely suspended. They don't even know that they're doing it. Dreadful. Even on windy days I get a mega blast of it at 3 or even 4 metres distance. Flipping great clouds of the toxic filth everywhere. OMG.

TheConways wrote: »

but that's not the discussion here.

Well, that was relevant to the issue of washing in the other thread and it's therefore still semi relevant to this one as well.

TheConways wrote: »

I think the OP is perfectly reasonable to expect her stepson to act like a functioning member of the household.

Yes, but if you can't smell him then actually there's no problem in fact - and if you can smell him then he needs to change his clothes or shoes. Simples.

TheConways wrote: »

OP - does he contribute to bills? I would also have negotiated this upfront. If he's working, he should be contributing, and if he's not working, he should be either studying or looking for a job pronto!

bangersnmash

Joons wrote: »

Bangers, you are hilarious, I don't believe for a second that you haven't changed your duvet cover in 5 years, if this is true, I presume you live alone?

Good, I'm glad if it's giving you some entertainment and maybe the odd giggle as well.

No, I keep a harem, actually. I live in a nature reserve with various groovy animals, alpacas and capybaras (giant rodents) and the like and we all curl up together at night in a big huddle, lovely...

victory

bangersnmash wrote: »

Good, I'm glad if it's giving you some entertainment and maybe the odd giggle as well.

No, I keep a harem, actually. I live in a nature reserve with various groovy animals, alpacas and capybaras (giant rodents) and the like and we all curl up together at night in a big huddle, lovely...

Oh no you don't:D

bangersnmash

Joons wrote: »

So as you appear to be advocating non washing, how many times a week do you wash your body/hair?

I went au naturel several years ago. No more toxic carcinogenic stinky chemicals for me, thank you. Nooo. No ta.

There's a fairly well established movement doing this, by the way, which has been underway for some decades now, in this country and all round the world. As you can easily quickly see with a bit of googly. This isn't just my own idea in isolation, there's a large body of published scientific reports about just how bad most of those chemicals are and how much cancer, heart disease, asthma, lung disease, ME and all sorts of often very serious illnesses they cause. For real. Hundreds of millions of people are getting ill from it and some of them are dying, all the time, everywhere. Have a google of it, it's scary stuff. Hardcore.

This is old hat to those in the know. Actually...

Joons wrote: »

And the friends you asked to smell you, was that because you suspected you may indeed have a bad odour?

It was proof of concept when I was testing it out, several years ago. Is it true that the natural healthy human body doesn't smell and that stinkies only arise in the clothes if they're worn for too long. And yes, that is the case. As you can easily demonstrate to yourself, if you're interested in looking into healthy living a bit more. Rather than poisoning yourself and everyone around you with chemicals that you don't need at all and that don't do anything - except poison you and make you ill and make you stink absolutely terrible!

Joons wrote: »

Do you not use deodorant, how do you combat your bo?

You're not taking this in, as I've said several times here, which is true and known by lots of people, the healthy human body doesn't stink. It's only clothes that get smelly if they're worn for too long without changing them.

No, deodorants are extremely poisonous, as large numbers of published studies show repeatedly, in this country and all round the world - and they smell absolutely vile and disgusting and awful.

Which if your sense of smell has not been masked or destroyed by them and lots of other nasty chemicals that you're probably routinely drowning yourself in, you will know and notice.

bangersnmash

Another thought that's relevant to consider in this context, dogs and cats mostly don't stink much or at all. You normally have to get your nose fairly close to dogs to get their aroma, which is normally reasonably pleasant light essence of doggy smell, in a healthy mutt.

To smell a cat you've generally got to put your nose right in it to get a sense of it and again, in a normal healthy animal it's a fairly pleasant little smell, not pungent or revolting or dirty. Animals naturally keep themselves clean and mostly fairly smell free by their body metabolisms.

Horses have a bit of a whiff but as with dogs and cats, it's not overpowering or disgusting, it's nice. Well, I like it, maybe some people wouldn't, sure.

Healthy humans are the same, no noticeable stink and when you get in close what little there is, on someone who is not covered in strong chemicals, is quite nice and inoffensive.

Mojisola

Joons wrote: »

Don't panic for those of you I have bored with my whinging on this subject but I just wanted to say, things came to a head and I was told by my b/f and stepson that his way of living is nothing to do with me

Despite the fact that he's living like that in your house?

If you're happy to go along with their rules, that's your decision.

I wonder whether you will really be able to let it go or whether their disrespect for your feelings will fester.

Joons

And thank you to Londonsurrey.

Joons

Mojisola wrote: »

Despite the fact that he's living like that in your house?

If you're happy to go along with their rules, that's your decision.

I wonder whether you will really be able to let it go or whether their disrespect for your feelings will fester.

Yes, including the fact he lives in my home, we had a long, long talk with lots of shouting and arguing, stepson was there too, both have told me the problem appears to be me, no amount of nagging is going to change this situation. I either end my 11 year relationship and make myself even more unhappy or accept this is it, I've decided my relationship is not worth throwing away. I don't really see what option I have.

megan01

I'm sorry but, why have you decided that you're 11 year relationship is worth it?

A relationship is all about communication. Every area of a relationship should be discussed, without hesitation, whenever someone has a problem. It's how things get solved! What sort of relationship do you have where something that is majorly impacting on your life, is no longer communicable because he says so? Why are you putting up with it?