Help Me Win Back The Love of my Life

sugarsugar_2

You sound exactly like my ex. I can only echo the previous posts, it's all too little too late. She gave you another chance and you messed up. You seem full of excuses.

Have you ever tried actually LISTENING to her? She has said she is no longer in love with you. Has this escaped you? Going by your posts I would say yes.

She doesn't want to fight for the relationship to work, she is done. You can't fight for it on your own? You don't seem able to consider her feelings in this, which are she is no longer interested. It's all YOU YOU YOU.

Lunar_Eclipse

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

What could I do that would give me the best possible chance of reconciliation?
(except walk away!!)

No grand gestures.

Perhaps one heartfelt, incredibly genuine and honest letter entitled 'If I'd realised it at the time, these are the things I would have done'. Just tell her what she means to you (I do not mean I love you so much I can't live without you), what you love about her and how you would like life to be moving forward. No messages of guilt and promises you can't keep!

Personally, I would also apologise for your behaviour, tell her it wasn't good enough and you will understand completely if she chooses to move on and is indeed, no longer in love with you. You do really need to mean this though and at the moment, I don't think you do. It sounds like you didn't act in a way that was good enough for her. Do you acknowledge and accept that? I can't get beyond you not meeting her dad/parents for so long, given how young you were when you got together. From a female perspective, this smacks of 'I don't consider us a long term, serious relationship.'

To be honest, I can't see this working out how you would like it to, but then again, you're both young enough to have time on your side. Good luck and please hear what people are saying and learn from it.

Captain_Charisma

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

No grand gestures.

Perhaps one heartfelt, incredibly genuine and honest letter entitled 'If I'd realised it at the time, these are the things I would have done'. Just tell her what she means to you (I do not mean I love you so much I can't live without you), what you love about her and how you would like life to be moving forward. No messages of guilt and promises you can't keep!

Personally, I would also apologise for your behaviour, tell her it wasn't good enough and you will understand completely if she chooses to move on and is indeed, no longer in love with you. You do really need to mean this though and at the moment, I don't think you do. It sounds like you didn't act in a way that was good enough for her. Do you acknowledge and accept that? I can't get beyond you not meeting her dad/parents for so long, given how young you were when you got together. From a female perspective, this smacks of 'I don't consider us a long term,

I'll be doing this

Dunroamin

I'd give it up. When love dies it can rarely be rekindled.

victory

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I'll be doing this

You have so much to apologise for sometimes it can be insurmountable

HeadAboveWater

I think this is the right song!

rainbow_791

From your ages I totally understand where you are coming from. This girl has been a massive part of your life for so long and since you were young so I know the hurt. My break up at the age of 22 after 6 years together was awful because I adored him no matter how wrong he was for me. But things do get better - I used to hate people saying that and never believed them, but it does.

You should try some time on your own, give her space and if she comes back then you know it was meant to be

lufcgirl

Am I the only one that cringed reading all of these gestures?

Seriously though, she's already said she's not in love with you. And she's not the love of your life, if she was you'd have done everything in your power to make her happy the time you were together. You just sound scared of being alone to be honest!

Get over her, it's hard I know, but sounding like a creepy stalker when she isn't giving any inclination she's interested in rekindling things is just weird. If she wants you, she knows where you are.

victory

HeadAboveWater wrote: »

I think this is the right song!

never ever getting back together taylor swift this one

rainbow_791

lufcgirl wrote: »

You just sound scared of being alone to be honest!

I think that sounds so true! After 6 years it is hard to be alone but it is something you have to get through