Help Me Win Back The Love of my Life

victory

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

These are the kind of things that i know I should do, that i would do if given the chance

You were though, you were for 6 years you were:eek:

Captain_Charisma

I appreciate everyones comments but i'm not ready to walk away from this one just yet.

I know what I need to do if I was given the chance, I need advice on how to get that chance - however remote it may seem.

What could I do that would give me the best possible chance of reconciliation?
(except walk away!!)

HeadAboveWater

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

These are the kind of things that i know I should do, that i would do if given the chance

You need to know what makes your OH tick in a relationship, not what everyone else does for theirs.

And you had your chance already. 6 years of chances

Goldiegirl

Not sure why you think Valentines Day is so significant.

It's just a day that the marketing men have decided that people should be romantic.

To my mind, it's not particularly romantic making grand gestures on a day where people HAVE to be romantic.

Romantic is all the little things, like bringing her a cup of tea in bed, going with her to the cinema to see a film she likes but you have no interest in, a small surprise gift.

I hate to say it, but you've had your chance, I think you'd be best to move on.

You can't win someone who doesn't want to be won.

ValHaller

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

.... I just know that I will always regret it if I let this day pass without making an extra special effort.

No, you'll only regret it until you move on. The sooner you move on, the less time you will spend regretting anything.

victory

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I appreciate everyones comments but i'm not ready to walk away from this one just yet.

I know what I need to do if I was given the chance, I need advice on how to get that chance - however remote it may seem.

What could I do that would give me the best possible chance of reconciliation?
(except walk away!!)

You haven't said your ages so maybe your GF is saying no no more also because she can see her chances of having a child fading away?

Write her a letter if you have to, no grand gestures if your GF is no longer in love with you all you do will be tiresome to her, you should have put her first, 6 years is such a long time to put up with a relationship that she wanted to be different

Bitsy_Beans

Knowing isn't the same as doing though is it. You knew what you had to do when she gave it another go and you blew it.

Trust me if you keep pursuing her with this quite frankly empty gestures you will put the nail in the coffin of your relationship good and proper. Walk away while you are still friends rather than ending up the annoying ex who totally missed the point.

Lovelyjoolz

Tygermoth wrote: »

Its the little everyday things that show that you care, grand gesture are just that.. a gesture.

This is it precisely. My OH is the same. No big grand gestures, nothing showy, no PDA's, but the little things he does are just wonderful.

Like getting up when he didn't have to go to work to clear my car of snow and warm the engine up so I wouldn't be cold on my way to work.

Cooking dinner when it's my turn because I "looked like I'd had a hard day" - I had, and its the fact he could tell without me saying anything that speaks volumes about the man.

Knowing my menstrual cycle better than I do and always being stocked up with Maltesers when my PMT starts (although this is predominantly a self-preservation exercise for him!! )

As notanewuser pointed out - you had the chance to do these things and you couldn't be bothered to do them. Now that tells me that you either a) thought about it but didn't really care that much (because you'd do them instinctively if you did!) or b) you're just not the type of guy that does them. Which is fine, but if she wants a guy that does, you're not the man for her.

Captain_Charisma

Goldiegirl wrote: »

Not sure why you think Valentines Day is so significant.

It's just a day that the marketing men have decided that people should be romantic.

To my mind, it's not particularly romantic making grand gestures on a day where people HAVE to be romantic.

This has been my attitude for the past 6 years, and I know this selfish attitude upset her - which is why Valentines Day is so significant

Captain_Charisma

victory wrote: »

You haven't said your ages so maybe your GF is saying no no more also because she can see her chances of having a child fading away?

Write her a letter if you have to, no grand gestures if your GF is no longer in love with you all you do will be tiresome to her, you should have put her first, 6 years is such a long time to put up with a relationship that she wanted to be different

I am 24 and she is 23, I've wrote a letter to put inside each card (and a song!!)