Help Me Win Back The Love of my Life

Calien27

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I appreciate everyones comments but i'm not ready to walk away from this one just yet.

I know what I need to do if I was given the chance, I need advice on how to get that chance - however remote it may seem.

What could I do that would give me the best possible chance of reconciliation?
(except walk away!!)

What if she is ready to walk away from it all? Just because you aren't doesn't mean she's feeling the same way. If she want's to move on there's nothing you can do about it.

It seems you've been given chances and blew them all by falling back into how things used to be, what makes this time any different to the other times?

Six months from now you could be in the exact same place you are now, trying to find ways to win her back.

Captain_Charisma

Calien27 wrote: »

What if she is ready to walk away from it all? Just because you aren't doesn't mean she's feeling the same way. If she want's to move on there's nothing you can do about it.

It seems you've been given chances and blew them all by falling back into how things used to be, what makes this time any different to the other times?

Six months from now you could be in the exact same place you are now, trying to find ways to win her back.

Valentines will be last roll of the dice, then I will try to move on, however much it hurts

victory

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I am 24 and she is 23, I've wrote a letter to put inside each card (and a song!!)

Oh no please don't please:eek: this is all too dramatic, too over the top, like I said about your GF having anger and resentment towards you, she sees it she tried for 6 years with you, 6 years and never got out of the relationship what she needed and now 6 years later you want to do all this:eek:

victory

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

This has been my attitude for the past 6 years, and I know this selfish attitude upset her - which is why Valentines Day is so significant

You knew you see you say you knew so how come your GF feelings were not important enough then to take into consideration to change to make her happy? You knew she was unhappy, you knew she wanted you to meet her dad, she talked to you, she tried with you did you try with her?

thorsoak

We'll all have to be back here on the 15th, with loads of hankies for Capt. Charisma !!

Anselm

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I am 24 and she is 23, I've wrote a letter to put inside each card (and a song!!)

Share the song and we will tell you what we think

Calien27

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I am 24 and she is 23, I've wrote a letter to put inside each card (and a song!!)

How many cards are you sending?

The song, honestly...don't :eek: not just because it's way over the top, but you'll be leaving yourself open to a lot of p taking if anyone else finds out, and they most likely will.

thorsoak

Calien27 wrote: »

How many cards are you sending?

The song, honestly...don't :eek: not just because it's way over the top, but you'll be leaving yourself open to a lot of p taking if anyone else finds out, and they most likely will.

Especially when it goes viral on youtube!!

aliasojo

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

What could I do that would give me the best possible chance of reconciliation?

I think what you're not taking into account, is the fact that things have changed for her.

Sadly that's what happens in life, your feelings change according to your experiences.

It sounds like your g/f's feelings have just died, probably because they were never nurtured and looked after over all those years.

No gesture in the world will breath life into something that is now dead.

I suggest you forget the grand gestures and write to her, simply and from the heart. Tell her you now understand what loving someone really means and how you realise it's what you do everyday in life that counts and how sorry you are not have realised that sooner.

I think you've had your second chance already though.

Much like the others who have commented, my OH doesn't 'do' Valentines Day or other 'showy' stuff.

What he does do, is smaller but more meaningful. Like putting a hot water bottle in the bed to keep me warm despite him having to sleep on a hard bed settee in the cold spare room sometimes because my snoring keeps him awake.

Or cleaning the snow off my car so I don't have to.

I think you're too fixed on the male way of thinking.....'if I attack this hard enough it will be sorted'. When really you need to be trying to understand the female way of thinking more.

I still wish you luck but I don't think your way of 'sorting' this will work.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Creepy.

Did you want to add a non molestation order to your memories of a failed relationship?



Get some psychiatric help.

And leave her ALONE.