Should we be expected to pay Mums bills

rose28454

kelpie35 wrote: »

For the next 10 days DO NOT communicate with any of your family and use these days to enjoy your life.

Please try to be strong, I know it will be difficult, but please try your hardest.

My sister keeps ringing me and texting but I only sent a quick text back to say I would rather have a peaceful week and anyway younger brother called me to tell me off for texting her anyway ( cause I told her I did not like the way she behaved) Did pop to Mums just to give her her bank card that I had in my bag. Aunt is staying a week so she told me to do my own thing and not worry about Mum.
Went to cinema with OH and DD last night. We saw Les Mis and I now know why it is called that! What a thin story drawn out over 2.5 hours. Every time Russell Crowe sang I wanted to giggle. But we had a good laugh about on the way home. Quiet day at home today with maybe a bit of Asda shopping thrown in.

FatVonD

rose28454 wrote: »

We saw Les Mis and I now know why it is called that! What a thin story drawn out over 2.5 hours.

:rotfl:

One of my colleagues saw it and said she was willing the entire cast to kill themselves to put her out of her misery :rotfl:

margaretclare

FatVonD wrote: »

:rotfl:

One of my colleagues saw it and said she was willing the entire cast to kill themselves to put her out of her misery :rotfl:

Try reading the book, if you think that's miserable!

Savvy_Sue

margaretclare wrote: »

Try reading the book, if you think that's miserable!

It's being broadcast as a serial on Radio4 Extra, so I'm listening to it on catch up each week ... should save some time!

Mind you, I'm convinced there's a whole SET of films in there if the story was done 'properly' rather than as a musical, and when I looked at getting it onto my Kindle I saw that it is indeed shown as 5 volumes in the original French. I also looked at an 'idiot's guide' to the difference between the original and the musical, and concluded that an abbreviated translation would suit me just fine!

margaretclare

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

It's being broadcast as a serial on Radio4 Extra, so I'm listening to it on catch up each week ... should save some time!

Mind you, I'm convinced there's a whole SET of films in there if the story was done 'properly' rather than as a musical, and when I looked at getting it onto my Kindle I saw that it is indeed shown as 5 volumes in the original French. I also looked at an 'idiot's guide' to the difference between the original and the musical, and concluded that an abbreviated translation would suit me just fine!

Oh yes. And the portrayal of M and Mme Thenardier as 'comic characters' is a complete misrepresentation. Especially Thenardier, who was an absolutely awful man. If only Javert had gone after him as he did after Valjean!

The first bit of translation from French that I ever did in fourth form was the meeting of Valjean and Cosette in the woods. The story of the Bishop's candlesticks is thought to have been lifted by Hugo from an account that already existed.

When he describes the revolution of 1830, Hugo had already participated in the revolution of 1848, so he knew a bit about barricades.

Savvy_Sue

To get this back on topic (!), I wonder if it would help Rose to think of her mother and manipulative siblings as Thenardiers, out to get whatever they can, and hang the consequences! to a certain extent, her DD too.

rose28454

Yes you are probably right. My daughter is bringing me a whole load more stress at the mo aswell. But getting back to Mum. On sat
I went to market and met my Aunt and her chap on the way out shopping. She said she had made Mum some soup and they were off out for an hour or so. Just then my sil came up ( the one who is married to my brother I dont really speak to ) so i said I had to go. later on I was told by my aunt that when she got home her and my niece had come and had soup with Mum but my brother did not come as apparently he was busy ( always is never comes just sends his family) but later when I and my sis asked Mum if he had been to see the work she said he had flu ( a lie). Anyway there was a discussion about Mondays T and Aunty was going to cook liver and my sil said she liked liver.
So on Monday my Mum announces sil and other niece are coming for t ( think Mum invited them to have the liver) but my Aunt told Mum she had decided to go out so they had better bring the t and she put liver in freezer. My Aunt told me she does not mind looking after Mum but resents being made into a servant for members of the family who do nothing for her. Later my sister came over and Mum despatched her to get Melon Parma Ham and Salami for them to have as a starter. She told sis that she could not ask me cause I would make a fuss. Yes I would have as they barely speak to me but i am supposed to run around making sure they have nice things to eat.
They came for t and when they left they took the items sis had bought with them.
I write about this to demonstrate how my Mum treats us all.
my aunt told Mum on Sunday she had told me to have a week at home and she would take up the slack. Mum did not like it. Yesterday Aunt asked me to get some bits from hardware shop and grocers as they are doing some diy. I got most of them on my way up at lunchtime as Mum was due a visit from rehab at local hospital who are trying to help with her mobility ( so I needed to be there as she always tells lies and then does not get any help)
After the visit I popped to get rest of shopping and took it up. As i was leaving Mum called me in and said could I go back and get some pancake mix. i said no as I needed to get car from garage and it was nearly 5.00. She did not like it but Aunty just said leave it and she could have some pancakes today. Also carer has written in Mums book she needs some special barrier cream for a sore on her leg but Mum refused to let me get it as she said she will use some Italian cream she swears by. I said ok then but later she told sis she would use it.
She is just playing us off against one another i think. Am also having major problems with dd at home ( I wont go into them on here ) so I cant cope with much more.
I despair

Mojisola

rose28454 wrote: »

She is just playing us off against one another i think.

Print this off in big print and stick it somewhere so that you'll see it every day!

Keep strong!:)

LannieDuck

You need to stop worrying about this level of detail. Your aunt is looking after your Mum this week. Let her get on with it.

CH27

rose28454 wrote: »

She is just playing us off against one another i think.

Bingo

Now think how you can stop playing your old role in this.