Need help with saying no to someone while not falling out

ValHaller

skintchick wrote: »

.... Am I evil in planning to organise Donna and Fred's meals rota after they have their baby in the summer, just to make them feel super-guilty...?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Don't forget to say that the Lord used the unbelievers looking after you as inspiration. And that the Church should not leave the Lord's work to the unbelievers.

skintchick

poet123 wrote: »

I do hope their names are not really Fred & Donna or they would be quite recognisable to others who know them!!

No, they're really Pete and Sarah.













No, they are made up names! I aren't stoopid.

bylromarha

skintchick wrote: »

THanks building with lego.

Luckily I've had loads of support from my non-Christian friends since my surgery so things have been OK, but it's still very disappointing.

Am I evil in planning to organise Donna and Fred's meals rota after they have their baby in the summer, just to make them feel super-guilty...?

Yes, because your motivation is wrong and unbiblical.

If Fred speaks to you tomorrow, say no. It's real easy.

skintchick

bylromarha wrote: »

Yes, because your motivation is wrong and unbiblical.

If Fred speaks to you tomorrow, say no. It's real easy.

Yes, I know. But by the summer it won't be. I have months to work on my attitude. I'm just upset right now.


EDIT: and the last time I said no to him he told me I had to take responsibility for my child and implied I was being a bad parent and a bad person by saying no, so it's not as easy to do as it is to say, but I'm going to try.

ValHaller

bylromarha wrote: »

Yes, because your motivation is wrong and unbiblical.

It is a good way of getting out of serving - just think of a bad motive.

Brighton_belle

skintchick wrote: »

EDIT: and the last time I said no to him he told me I had to take responsibility for my child and implied I was being a bad parent and a bad person by saying no, so it's not as easy to do as it is to say, but I'm going to try.

:mad: How does your DH feel about that?

skintchick

Brighton_belle wrote: »

:mad: How does your DH feel about that?

Cross of course! But it's not his argument, it's mine. I can;t abide it when women get their men to do their fighting for them. I got my own balls!

Mojisola

skintchick wrote: »

EDIT: and the last time I said no to him he told me I had to take responsibility for my child and implied I was being a bad parent and a bad person by saying no, so it's not as easy to do as it is to say, but I'm going to try.

If he tries that again - laugh at him!

Brighton_belle

skintchick wrote: »

Cross of course! But it's not his argument, it's mine. I can;t abide it when women get their men to do their fighting for them. I got my own balls!

Well I think it is his too, as he is not being hounded to work in the chreche like you are, and it's his child too.
But otherwise, yes i agree with you, but I suggested getting your dh involved as you seem intimidated by the idea of Fred approaching you. But yes, own those balls and stand up to him,lol.

sassyblue

skintchick wrote: »

Yes, I know. But by the summer it won't be. I have months to work on my attitude. I'm just upset right now.


EDIT: and the last time I said no to him he told me I had to take responsibility for my child and implied I was being a bad parent and a bad person by saying no, so it's not as easy to do as it is to say, but I'm going to try.

Say nothing, raise your eyebrows, look him up and down and walk away.

Tons of dignity for you there, without uttering a word.