Someone please tell me the best way to deal with teenagers!?

victory

Spendless wrote: »

Re- smellies. On Christmas day my son opened a toiletry set from his Great grandmother (David Beckham one). He looked baffled and then gave it his Dad saying he'd opened one of his by accident and had to hunt thru the discarded wrapping paper for confirmation it really was for him.:rotfl:

OMG that is exactly what happened in our house on xmas day:rotfl: my nearly teenager got a toiletry set of Nivea for men, he looked completely baffled, handed it to his dad and said he had not got the right present:rotfl: it ended up in the bathroom for his brother to use:D

easy

Seanymph wrote: »

I just kept smiling and talking, it drives him nuts

Remarkably tiring tho' isn't it ??

It is the unpredictability that I find wearing. This morning DS brought us tea in bed and was quite cheerful before school. Yesterday he stomped about the house shouting for half-an-hour because his fringe wouldn't style right (a girl in his class says he is very good looking when his fringe is swept to the side, so he now insists on styling his hair in the morning. Won't shower or use deodorant, but styles his hair :eek: )

SingleSue

Middle son decided in the summer holidays last year that as he was not at school, he didn't need to have a bath.

You ever tried getting a nigh on 16 year old with the strength of 10 men into a bath when they don't want to? In the end, I told him his band mates wouldn't want to practice if he was smelly, it did the trick....until the next time!

slimthinker

Just had to reply at this...Having bought up 4 girls who are now 14..17..20..21 and have one son aged 12, I seem to remember all the 'symptoms' here happenning wth ALL my girls...I really don't think it matters what gender your kids are you have to go through rough patches...We STILL go through rough patches with our girls now except the one who's 21 and left home LOL...

Good luck to anyone who has kids I say as its a nightmare when they are growing up.....and believe what people say when they tell you it gets worse as they get older....I yearn for the days when my kids were in bed for 8...They wore whatever clothes you bought them....They did what they told without back chat...They played with toys that didn't 'plug in or charge'....Ohhhhhhh I remember it well...;-)

Lunar_Eclipse

slimthinker wrote: »

Just had to reply at this...Having bought up 4 girls who are now 14..17..20..21 and have one son aged 12, I seem to remember all the 'symptoms' here happenning wth ALL my girls...I really don't think it matters what gender your kids are you have to go through rough patches...

Agree. I also wonder if it can be worse with girls since generally, girls are much more vocal (as opposed to the silent treatment) and mine are very quick with words.

This thread is brilliant. I've laughed lots and it's reminded me to stay calm and keep going. I have two girls and am currently having a very hard time with my 11 year old. The almost 13 year old is delightful, although I know she was pushing back, unco-operative and suffering from bouts of anger/you don't understand me at exactly the same age.

When this current phase passes, we'll be ready for the next round (14?) with DD1.

stamina9008

WantToBeSE wrote: »

I have a son who will be 13 in a few days. Over the course of the last 12 months, hormones have hit and he has become increaingly disrespectful,moody,angry and generally not nice to be around.
Sometimes, we get on well and have fun together and he is a joy to spend time with, but when he feels like i am trying to 'control him' (these are HIS words, not mine-i am actually trying to just get him off his a$$ and clean his room/help tidy up etc) he flies into a proper strop, accusing me of being an awful parent who never listens to him, who is lazy, who needs to be like everyone elses parents (i.e. gives hime everything he wants and never asks him to do anything)

I have banned his Christmas present (xbox) and have told hm that if he behaves like this before his birthday (Friday), we will cancel the birthday meal out that was planned, and he wont be getting the present he wanted (a TV for his room).

I just feel totally disrespected and i dont know if this is usual teen behaviour, and if it is, what i can do to make the house more peaceful.

I guess i just needed to vent, and get any ideas that parents of teens have used/use?

Well, when i was a nipper a good back hand done the trick.

easy

stamina9008 wrote: »

Well, when i was a nipper a good back hand done the trick.

Ah but you can't do that these days, they all know the childline phone number by heart

stamina9008

easy wrote: »

Ah but you can't do that these days, they all know the childline phone number by heart

And i agree that it shouldnt be used anymore

Good luck OP

WantToBeSE

Ahhh, i dont do physical punishment (another 6 months of his behaviour, and you'll have to remind me i said this!!)

System

Good luck to anyone who has kids I say as its a nightmare when they are growing up.....and believe what people say when they tell you it gets worse as they get older....I yearn for the days when my kids were in bed for 8

Yep, tis true. My 'kids' are 31, 30, 26, 23 and 17. I yearn for those days too.

Ive only got one left as a teenager as you can see but the teenage years of all of them are well and truly embedded into my memory.