Not sure how to approach this

warehouse

OP, simply speak to the family involved and tell them what's upsetting you. You have no other choice IMHO. Nip it in the bud and say it's either presents for ALL children or presents for none.

I can't believe people can be so monumentally thick to buy for all but one niece, so it would be good to find out why exactly they left out your own DD. It isn't right, you know it and most on here know it. Get it sorted NOW.

warehouse

victory wrote: »

I think you are not getting the point. Not one family, friends, neighbours, acquaintances has to buy a Xmas gift for anyone , for whatever reason. If they choose not to for financial, non Xmas believer, don't want to, can't be bothered, they can buy whatever whenever for whoever and not for one single second have to justify it , for your OH to have a quiet word, for questions to be asked, no absolutely not, what they choose to do with their Xmas money gift buying is their choice, not for anyone to second guess and ask questions about

How rude to even question it

Easy to say until it happens to your own child.

Sambucus_Nigra

victory wrote: »

I think you are not getting the point. Not one family, friends, neighbours, acquaintances has to buy a Xmas gift for anyone , for whatever reason. If they choose not to for financial, non Xmas believer, don't want to, can't be bothered, they can buy whatever whenever for whoever and not for one single second have to justify it , for your OH to have a quiet word, for questions to be asked, no absolutely not, what they choose to do with their Xmas money gift buying is their choice, not for anyone to second guess and ask questions about

How rude to even question it

How mean spirited are you? Their niece is 2!

notanewuser

nickyhutch wrote: »

I'd have taken that as an opportunity to say "really? they didn't get DD anything... how strange... I wonder why".

I thought they might give it on Saturday/today when DH was off work to be honest. Went to the in-laws on Friday so I hadn't realised by that point that there wasn't anything.

victory

warehouse wrote: »

Easy to say until it happens to your own child.

True but it happens for eg I know of 2 various age girls one gets one doesn't why? Everyone agreed a cut off age so lots for one under the tree and no longer for the other, fair? They think so it was agreed that way

victory

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

How mean spirited are you? Their niece is 2!

Not mean spirited just something's are like that however they get questioned at the end of the day it is their money/ choice whom they buy for

notanewuser

victory wrote: »

True but it happens for eg I know of 2 various age girls one gets one doesn't why? Everyone agreed a cut off age so lots for one under the tree and no longer for the other, fair? They think so it was agreed that way

But this has never been agreed!

Poppy9

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

A child so young might notice in future years that there was no present - hence no thought.

when the child is older and may notice then I'm sure parents can explain that they don't do presents for our family. It only becomes a biggie if you make it one.

Sambucus_Nigra wrote:

What happens in your work is nothing like an auntie/uncle only getting for select nieces.

it's about sometimes people surprise you and buy you a gift because they want to, not because they feel obliged to or in the OP case if she raises it then it will be because they are "told to".

notanewuser wrote: »

I think you are not quite getting the point. They could get her a 10p teddy from the charity shop, I don't care. I cannot and will not consider that it's okay to buy for If theone and not the other for no reason.

I do get what you are saying but you are not being honest if you say you woudn't mind if it's a 10p second hand teddy from a charity shop. You would be on here starting a thread asking why they thought it was okay to give a used toy from goodness knows where to your young child!

They obviously have their reason for not buying. Either someone has said something or they have perhaps been told they have to buy for the other niece. Either way take comfort from the fact they obviously like you and have opened their home to you.

victory

notanewuser wrote: »

But this has never been agreed!

I understand that

Sambucus_Nigra

Poppy9 wrote: »

when the child is older and may notice then I'm sure parents can explain that they don't do presents for our family. It only becomes a biggie if you make it one.

it's about sometimes people surprise you and buy you a gift because they want to, not because they feel obliged to or in the OP case if she raises it then it will be because they are "told to".

Of course it's going to be a 'biggie' if one's child gets nothing from her aunty/uncle when all the others do.

!!!!!! what are some of you people on?