Not sure how to approach this

thunderbird

That's a different matter though - the presents weren't all given out at the same time. There doesn't appear to have been anything said about them giving a present to the other niece - clearly not any signs of making it obvious that not everyone got a present. It was just that the OP thinks they gave one as MIL said something about it.

I also haven't read anything about the cousins living close together or even seeing each other very often.

notanewuser

thunderbird wrote: »

That's a different matter though - the presents weren't all given out at the same time. There doesn't appear to have been anything said about them giving a present to the other niece - clearly not any signs of making it obvious that not everyone got a present. It was just that the OP thinks they gave one as MIL said something about it.

I also haven't read anything about the cousins living close together or even seeing each other very often.

They're 260 miles from us. Cousin 1 and 2 live about an hour and 10 mins apart (on a good day) with the grandparents in the middle. Grandparents mind cousin 1 full time and cousin 2 two days a week, so they see lots of both, and little of my DD. the parents drop off, so while the cousins (both age 1) are together 2 days a week, the parents don't see each other regularly.

notanewuser

jellyhead wrote: »

They might know though. OP says she always visits around christmas day, so there's a the possibility that at some point all the cousins will be together when presents are passed around. OP's daughter is very young and if she sees every getting a present except for her it could be hurtful.

Did I say that? We don't!! We always visit in December, but not near Xmas day usually.

jellyhead

notanewuser wrote: »

Did I say that? We don't!! We always visit in December, but not near Xmas day usually.

Sorry, my mistake.

indebtinsussex

this sounds like my fil, he buys birthday pressies and xmas pressies for ds (whos 7), but has never bothered at all to buy anything for dd (whos 2), he doesnt see the point as shes not going to know any different, which she may not but it makes us feel awful that he blatently treats his grandchildren this way. it upsets me more that she doesnt even get a birthday card to acknowledge her birthday (we keep all cards from grandparents).

theres no point us having it out with him because he doesnt feel like hes done anything wrong, so this year we done exactly the same and havent bothered getting him anything