Whats your opinion?

t3rm3y

i agree with the first response - i cant see how you can ask them to sleep in separate beds when she is 20.
buy them some rubbers and lube and ask that they at least practice safe sex. or kick her out your house.

lazer

Person_one wrote: »

Hmm, you object to the implication that you have a bit of an issue with sex (I'm afraid this latest post only confirms it for me) but you have no problems implying that those of us who think young adults having sex with their partners is fine and normal are somehow immoral?

:cool:

I have no issue with sex (and like most people even enjoy a bit of it now and again ...).

Young adults having sex with their partners is fine, and not immoral if it really is a long term relationship (ie: a marriage!), however having multiple sexual partners is immoral IMO. - Old fashioned viewpoint I know, but thats me.

I know people don't agree with me, I accept that, but I'm entitled to my view!

t3rm3y

Person_one wrote: »

I wouldn't have let that carry on for 22 years. I'd have told them I'd be staying at a nearby hotel when I visited.

bit of a expensive shag, especially when married. might as well keep it in your pants and wait till your home.

i quite enjoy doing it in a single bed anyway, keeps you closer afterwards, great if your a single bloke and active.

74jax

Person_one wrote: »

I wouldn't have let that carry on for 22 years. I'd have told them I'd be staying at a nearby hotel when I visited.

Not worth the cost. It was our choice to stay there or not. She wasn't nasty with it, just her rules. We did have the option obviously to go elsewhere but like I say, didn't bother us.

onlyroz

I agree that it's your house and your rules, but your daughter is an adult. Is she paying rent?

I would have thought that an 18+ year old in a proper relationship should be treated like an adult when they're at home. It would, of course, be a different matter if they were bringing home a different boy every night, or if they were being particularly noisy, or were wandering naked around the house together - but if they were being respectful then I don't see the problem.

Person_one

t3rm3y wrote: »

bit of a expensive shag, especially when married. might as well keep it in your pants and wait till your home.

i quite enjoy doing it in a single bed anyway, keeps you closer afterwards, great if your a single bloke and active.

Its not really about sex, since I've left home I've never felt any need to have sex in my parents home, even though I could have.

Its about standing up to parents who are treating you like a perpetual child. I bet they'd have re-assessed after a couple of trips where they didn't see their daughter as much.

thriftymanc

How come it's OK for parents to sleep in the same bed when their children are in the house? Won't someone think of the children?! Heaven knows what this kind of behaviour is doing to their delicate minds!

Cash-Cow_3

As long as they keep the noise down I haven't a problem with it.

kitschkitty

lazer wrote: »

I have no issue with sex ..., however having multiple sexual partners is immoral IMO.

In what way is it immoral?
I honestly would love to be able to understand where you are coming from.

VfM4meplse

I haven't read al the replies OP but I think your position is reasonable.

Your daughter can make her own decisions about who she shares a bed with once she is financially independent enough to have a roof of her own.