meeting husbands female friend!

SoozieSoo

Labman wrote: »

My wife & I both have friends of the opposite sex, some of whom we both have known far longer than we've known each other, why should we drop them?

I think if you are secure in your relationship, opposite sex friendships aren't a problem.

This is 2007....not the 'Victorian age'!

I guess this issue has just not come up in our relationship. I am a girl’s girl; I have no interest in having male friends. I just do not "click" with men in the same way I do as women. Similarly, my husband has no desire to have female friends. He finds most of my female friends a pain and I am the same with his male friends.

Personally I would feel uncomfortable with a man who had lots of opposite sex friends. Usually it is a certain “type” of man who is like that and I don’t go for those types.

Labman_2

SoozieSoo wrote: »

Personally I would feel uncomfortable with a man who had lots of opposite sex friends. Usually it is a certain “type” of man who is like that and I don’t go for those types.

...define the 'type'

tiff

Labman wrote: »

My wife & I both have friends of the opposite sex, some of whom we both have known far longer than we've known each other, why should we drop them?

I think if you are secure in your relationship, opposite sex friendships aren't a problem.

This is 2007....not the 'Victorian age'!

If it makes your partner uncomfortable, then there is something wrong. I am very comfortable in my relationship and have always trusted my husband, so if he suddenly got a female friend who he flirted with then the alarm bells would be ringing and it would make me uncomfortable. He should be sensitive to that.

quietheart

Wishing you luck for the BBQ Kerry, here's hoping that meeting her and seeing how they are together reassures you that they are just friends. Do let us know how you get on.

SoozieSoo

Labman wrote: »

...define the 'type'

Quite flirty and knows how to read women. Not necessary attractive, but someone who knows how women tick and how to get their attention. A “ladies man” for want of a better word.

tiff

Thankfully my husband is a man's man, ie football, a few beers, sport etc. Thats not to say he would never stray, but that is the type of person he is.

Lady_E

I think until you meet her you should reserve judgement.

You will look stunning and be the perfect hostess , if you pick up on anything you are not happy with , as she leaves perhaps give her the "gypsies warning", along the lines that if she ever does anything to upset your family you will take her neck off !
OH should know better and he may be flattered by her attention so again if you are not happy by anything that happens at the BBQ ,reel him in. You might want to suggest that she would be perfect for one of his/yours single mate, as she is seems a little lonely and insecure , hence the reason that she feels safe with him . (bubble bursts)

nickyhutch

skyrocket wrote: »

but what kind of woman goes after a married man?

Allsorts of women, skyrocket, allsorts, just normal women, they're not a "type". It maybe something they do without batting an eyelid, or something that is completely out of character. They just fancy or fall for the wrong man.

Labman_2

I don't think I'm a ladies man....just a person who values friendships be it male or female. My longest friendship is with a female I met 30+ years ago at College...she, her hubby & 2 boys are now in Alaska.

4 years ago they were in the UK visiting family & friends (including me & my wife) Her eldest boy being a precocious (sp.) 'teenager' asked us each seperately on the QT why we hadn't 'got it' together...we gave the same answer....which was? 'I've never ever hated myself that much'....honestly if we had ever gone there...one of us would be so so...well...DEAD!

I think there's only a problem because of partners insecuritys

.....I'd kill for my friend....I'd die for my wife....& they both know that!

sticher

vik6525 wrote: »

Oh no!!! Dont say that! Im my bessie mates flirty friend, but i wouldnt actually touch him with 2 shi*ty sticks!!!

I think this is the all important part - women and men can only be 'friends' if the woman does not fancy the man or the man is already in a good relationship which he does not want to risk.

OP if this lady wants to come to your home, then in my opinion she DOES FANCY your hubby. Why else would a single lady want to socialise with a family she does not know? I would not encourage this at all!!! :eek:

If they are going to get up to something, it won't matter whether you say yes or no to this bbq - you need to stop it now.