meeting husbands female friend!

looby75

nearlyrich wrote: »

I have male friends and my OH has female friends, we trust each other and we agreed that if either ever wanted to be unfaithful they would tell the other before they acted on it. I love chatting to people, some of you might call it flirting, I would never jump into bed with someone else whilst in a relationship.

I don't know how you can "Stop" someone from being friends with someone they work with just because they are the opposite sex, I go out to dinner with my male colleagues when we are staying in the same hotels for business my DH doesn't worry about it at all.

yes but do you also spend time flirting with those men?

weejock_2

Oh dear. This woman at work sounds a pain and obviously has no idea how to behave with a married male work colleague. Keep your dignity, apply lippy and get your hair done, look your best and be pleasant to her. Afterwards take hubby to one side and make it clear you are not happy and would prefer her not to come to your home again.

Zoetoes

nearlyrich wrote: »

we trust each other and we agreed that if either ever wanted to be unfaithful they would tell the other before they acted on it.

Would this agreement really be stuck to?

lewt

spose following her to the bog's and threatening her off is out the question?

nearlyrich

looby75 wrote: »

yes but do you also spend time flirting with those men?

No I don't call it flirting but different people have different ideas about what constitutes flirting. I know people who don't "allow" their man to even talk to a woman, to me they are very insecure in their relationship.

Scarlett1

lewt wrote: »

spose following her to the bog's and threatening her off is out the question?

I thought that, or greet her at the door and lean over to kiss her on the cheek and instead whisper in her ear that if she ever makes a move on her husband that you will take her down and then give her a friendly kiss on the cheek and a wink

Scarlett1

Kerry I know its hard but do try and relax and think positive, for all you know they are just work buddies and the woman wants to come round and be with company rather than sitting at home on her own on a saturday night.

You will know if there is anything between them with the way they act around you, if your husband is very attentive towards you and includes you in their little banter then you probably dont have a problem, but if they are having their own little secret flirty banter then that will be disrespecting you and you dont have to put up with feeling uncomfortable in your own home.

Good luck for tonight and hope it all goes well x

seven-day-weekend

moodykerry wrote: »

Morning all,
My husband has a female friend at work, they exchange flirty texts, mild ones I might add, and I feel awful about meeting her. He invited her to our bbq. I should be pleased he wants us to meet, but i'm so nervous. I keep picturing how she is going to look, and can imagine them flirting all day in front of my face. Better than behind my back so it is all probably innocent. But my insides still hurt.
Any advice?

I have not read all the thread, but I would pour the barbeque sauce over her head and give her uncooked sausages.

How dare she send him flirty texts and hpow dare he respond!

Red_Fraggle_3

I am very happy with my BF but I have male friends I chat to - I have always worked in a male enviroment so can take any banter given to me and usualy throw it back. some would call that flirty but to me and the blokes that give it it is nothing

she may be very nervous about meeting you

Labman_2

My wife & I both have friends of the opposite sex, some of whom we both have known far longer than we've known each other, why should we drop them?

I think if you are secure in your relationship, opposite sex friendships aren't a problem.

This is 2007....not the 'Victorian age'!