meeting husbands female friend!

moodykerry

Morning all,
My husband has a female friend at work, they exchange flirty texts, mild ones I might add, and I feel awful about meeting her. He invited her to our bbq. I should be pleased he wants us to meet, but i'm so nervous. I keep picturing how she is going to look, and can imagine them flirting all day in front of my face. Better than behind my back so it is all probably innocent. But my insides still hurt.
Any advice?

Amanda65

I would make sure I looked absolutely fabulous, engaged my OH in plenty of conversations with other guests and be sooooooo nice to her that the thought of doing anything behind the back of such a lovely person would be hard for her.

As an aside thoguh, does your OH know that these texts bother you? I wouldn't be happy if someone was sending my OH flirty texts, innocent or not, and would have to ask him to not encourage her - guess he wouldn't be too happy if it was you and a male colleague!!!

SoozieSoo

Have you told your husband about your feelings? My husband does not have any female friends, I don't have any males ones. Call me old fashioned, but I don't think opposite sex friend are appropriate when you are married.

Have you asked him why he flirts with another woman so openly? Do you think he does it to keep you on your toes? I think his behaviour is quite shocking and you sound very hurt.

moodykerry

Hi Amanda, he does know these texts bother me but he says it is just a laugh and they mean nothing.
Also no other quests, just me, oh kids and her, who is single. I feel the name mug forming lol

moodykerry

I am very hurt SoozieSoo. I do hate men at times

SoozieSoo

moodykerry wrote: »

Hi Amanda, he does know these texts bother me but he says it is just a laugh and they mean nothing.
Also no other quests, just me, oh kids and her, who is single. I feel the name mug forming lol

Why has she been invited to a family bbq? I could see the point if it was a lot of people, but just you, oh and the kids? It sounds very strange. Why can't you put your foot down and tell your oh you want some quality family time?

moodykerry

I am scared it would start meetings behind my back. At least I can see what they are up too. She might be really nice and it might be all truly innocent, I hope.

southwestmaid

Maybe he wants her to meet you because he's proud of his lovely wife? There are lots of ways of looking at it.

Rachie_B

moodykerry wrote: »

Morning all,
My husband has a female friend at work, they exchange flirty texts, mild ones I might add, and I feel awful about meeting her. He invited her to our bbq. I should be pleased he wants us to meet, but i'm so nervous. I keep picturing how she is going to look, and can imagine them flirting all day in front of my face. Better than behind my back so it is all probably innocent. But my insides still hurt.
Any advice?

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Im sorry but he is married to YOU and "innocent" or not he shouldnt be flirting with a ( single!!) woman ,any woman either infront of you or not !

Its disrespectful IMO ,especially as he KNOWS they are hurting you and he continues to do it ?! :mad:

Dont feel you have to go ahead with the BBQ esp as your children are going to be there?!

ben500

I'm betting that his reasoning is if he introduces her to you then the inevitable "she's our friend not MY friend" will pop up sooner or later, call my cynical but I suspect he has an ulterior motive to maintain his friendship with her and disarm future dispute over it.

nickyhutch

Kerry, are you mad? DOn't let him do this to you.